Ask her what she will think when you tell him what she is up to. That outta get an agape look from her. If the situation was reversed, would she want him to flirt with other folks to piss her off?
Is it fair to make a guy jealous to keep him interested?
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She sounds insecure to me. If I had a girlfriend that was doing that, I'd tell her to stop or find a new boyfriend.
You never know when she'll cross that line.
You never know when she'll cross that line.
Is it fair?...yeah, but is it right. No, it can only lead two places: Destruction of the relationship through mistrust, or building of the relationship through negative means, thus making it unhealthy
I'd say it's entirely fair.
I'd just like to point out that it doesn't bloody work.
It makes you seem dishonest and if you come forth with your motives, you seem manipulative. It's a perfect way to ruin a relationship through pure lack of sense.
I'd just like to point out that it doesn't bloody work.
It makes you seem dishonest and if you come forth with your motives, you seem manipulative. It's a perfect way to ruin a relationship through pure lack of sense.
I wouldn't trade my skin for yours, it seems too thick and tough around the head.GigaHz said:
Fairness doesn't come into it, really. Relationships are a powerplay. She's free to try it, but in exchange the guy would or should return in kind, and it'll likely destroy the relationship, or at least make it an unhappy one. Better off finding a woman without this bs.
(PS: I only insulted you because you didn't really account for context)
Bad, bad idea. If a girl was to flirt with another guy I would think she is not interested in me; if she was already my GF I would break up with her if she took it too far.
I saw that picture on google awhile ago and laughed pretty hard at it. Good times.FirstToStrike said:
I'm curious whether this is a high schooler or a woman. If it is the latter no, it isn't a fair thing to do and rather stupid. If it is the former than it still isn't right but I suppose it's a little bit more forgivable. Most people are dumb around that time.
Actually, the point sailed right over your head as I did account for context. I just put a snarky spin on it.Kurokami said:
But fine. I guess I will explain myself.
If a girl decides to try and make a guy jealous as a power play, it is a great indicator for the guy. Now that her maturity level is on display, the guy can rethink if she is worth pursuing. If she is shameless about one petty game, she's probably not above having a few more up her sleeves. A sure recipe for drama and future headaches.
So to reiterate, yes it is fair. Why shouldn't the guy be warned in advance if the girl has issues?
That would make me more angry with her than anything else. Screw "wanting what you can't have," if I'm in the boyfriend's position, I want an honest relationship. She wants to leave? Let her, but she shouldn't be screwing with his head. She doesn't want to leave? She shouldn't act like she does, then, because he may decide he's justified in doing some cheating or dumping her later.
I can see why she's an ex-girlfriend. That's by far one of the bitchiest moves I've ever heard of someone pulling.
She's not even remotely justified to try that on anyone and you were completely justified in telling her to get lost. I hope her new boyfriend dumps her.
She's not even remotely justified to try that on anyone and you were completely justified in telling her to get lost. I hope her new boyfriend dumps her.
Ya I've been there before and it's just plain stupid.
If your partner is loosing interest then clearly the relationship isn't working out, and if you rather make him/her jealous then actually put some effort into the relationship you obviously haven't got any regard for your partner, so move the fuck on.
If your partner is loosing interest then clearly the relationship isn't working out, and if you rather make him/her jealous then actually put some effort into the relationship you obviously haven't got any regard for your partner, so move the fuck on.
Best story ending EVER.Beautiful End said:
OT: I don't know where this mentality comes from but I've seen it (and unwittingly been a part of it) before.
I guess it stems from the idea that Girl A can incite Boy B into more protective action of her by making him jealous. In theory, that makes very little sense but just enough sense that it might seem like a good idea at the time. Of course, any man who sees that his girl is practically throwing herself around would easily come to the conclusion that she is a slut not worth wasting time upon. This may or may not be the actual truth of the matter, but what we see is always more powerful than what actually is.
no. if i was dating someone who flirted with other guys around me to make me jealous i would leave
if someone is jealous, they may end up mistrusting you
no thats not how it works. when youre in a relationship you already 'have' the other person, so your brain wont think 'i need to work harder to 'get' her' it will think 'i dont have her but i just did, therefore i have lost her' and you cant win someone back when you havent actually lost them. maybe if they werent already dating, but that's still wrong.EdwardOrchard said:
if someone is jealous, they may end up mistrusting you