Is it too soon to ask her?

[Melon Hunter]

So...I've recently come into contact with a girl in my uni. We met on a Blind Date night run by the Student Union on Tuesday night. We got on really well and I find her attractive both physically and emotionally. On the night, I set up another date to go and see Black Swan last night (in hindsight, not the best movie to see with a potential partner). However, she brought along 3 other people and I felt a bit uncomfortable confessing my feelings to her that night. The people who were with her weren't too closely related to her; one was from her halls and the other 2 were visiting him and had never met her before, so I think it was merely a coincidence they came along on the same night.

So far, I've had a pretty positive response from her; she's asked for my number, and hasn't tried to reject or push me away anytime I've suggested doing something. I appreciate that V-day is on Monday and is a good opportunity, but is it too soon to ask her to go out that night and tell her how I feel about her? I haven't been in this position before where I've successfully asked a girl out on a date and I'm not sure how to advance from here.

EDIT: I've just been told by her texting me that she 'doesn't want me to get the wrong idea about her' so evidently it wasn't a coincidence that those other people came along on Friday and I get to spend another Valentine's Day alone, as usual. Thanks anyway for the advice, guys.

 

[joe the janitor]

Honestly, I think she is expecting you to ask her out. Otherwise she would probably avoid you since it is close to valintines.

I think the reason she brought other people to see the movie is because she wasn't sure whether you thought of it as a date, and didn't want to be awkward.

 

[Macgyvercas]

It's hard to tell when is and isn't too soon, as it's completely subjective to the people. But I do you know that you won't know until you try. I say ask her to be your valentine and then confess your feelings for her on that night.

I hope this helps!

Let's just hope that he doesn't have my problem of fear induced stammering (still working on that by the way).

OT: OP, this is going to sound very hypocritical coming from me, mainly because I am extrodinarily overly cautious when trying to decide if should ask a girl out, but I say go for it. If she's not rejecting your asking to hang out, then that's saying something. Word of advice though...chocolates. Get them. And if you know what it is and can get your hands on it (which is unlikely outside of Erie, PA), sponge candy (for some reason, I think you can only get it here, along with Smith's hot dogs and Fuhrman's apple cider)

 

[Sneeze]

I'd say ask her out on V-Day and see how things go then, if they go well, ask her out officially.

 

[p3t3r]

ask her out go out a few times. don't go all crazy saying you love her or anything. some compliments and spending time with her will do for the first few weeks i would think. since it was last night you can call her whenever i mean wait a week call her today it wouldn't matter that much just be cool

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Honestly, sounds like you two are hitting it off quite nicely from your post. Since she asked you for your number, I would say that is a pretty good indication that she is interested, otherwise she wouldn't have had to do that. I don't think it's too early to ask her out. I say go for it. Best of luck!

 

[rutger5000]

Well how do you feel about her? That would really help. What you described is a crush, and in this kind of situation I would recommend fessing that up as early as possible. Approach her and say "hey I like you, want to have lunch/diner? my treat."
If you love her, then that's a whole different story. Saying that within give or take 2 months will generally scare them away.

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Since she asked you for your number, I would say that is a pretty good indication that she is interested, otherwise she wouldn't have had to do that.

This means nothing. There's a female friend of mine who gave me her number without me specifically requesting it and has never shown any indication that she's attracted to me at all.

It really depends on the situation. Only the OP knows the full circumstances and is the only one that can distinguish what that action truly means. It might not apply to all scenarios, but you can't simply cast it off because it doesn't apply in yours. It's up to the OP to determine what that gesture means. I'm simply pointing out that it's something to look at.

 

[Bradd94]

Go for it!
Romance is in the air, I hope it works out!

Disclaimer: I asked out a girl the other day though, so I'm kinda hyped up on happiness and figure if someone like me can get a yes, I'm sure anyone can.

 

[zombiesinc]

I appreciate that V-day is on Monday and is a good opportunity, but is it too soon to ask her to go out that night and tell her how I feel about her? I haven't been in this position before where I've successfully asked a girl out on a date and I'm not sure how to advance from here.

If you're genuinely interested in her, then no, it's not too soon. It's likely V-Day will make the question that much more romantic. Let her know how you feel, and good luck!

 

[Galletea]

I'd play it casual at this stage. She seems to like you, but blurting out that she's the best thing evar could scare her off a little. Take it slow, go on a few more dates and see how she reacts. If it all goes well then the opportunity to tell her how amazing you think she is will arise naturally.