I was wondering, how is the relationship generally viewed? I heard some say its predatory? Are the gaps too big for a relation to work.
Is it weird/predatory for an 18 year old to date a 21 year old?
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No? 18 is considered legally...sexual, for lack of a better term. 18/21 is just as fine as 19/22.
BUT 17/20 I understand to be a no-no for consent reason.
Now:
https://v1.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.945514-Is-it-weird-creepy-for-a-19-year-to-date-a-17-year-old
Explain yourself. Is there someone you want to date or are you a dating site bot?
BUT 17/20 I understand to be a no-no for consent reason.
Now:
https://v1.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.945514-Is-it-weird-creepy-for-a-19-year-to-date-a-17-year-old
Explain yourself. Is there someone you want to date or are you a dating site bot?
I mean, I'll say yeah. "Can legally drink/can't legally drink" is a decent line for young adults after "is a child/is not a child"
Fuzzier, and with more edge cases, maybe. 'Course, growinging up in a small town attached to an Air Force Base with a heavy drinking culture might have something to do with that opinion.
Fuzzier, and with more edge cases, maybe. 'Course, growinging up in a small town attached to an Air Force Base with a heavy drinking culture might have something to do with that opinion.
Only drawback I see is that one of you can drink wine with a decent meal and the other can't. If you go out that is.
Wait, yeah, you made a similar thread like 2 years ago and the answers will likely be much the same, if not more unanimously "Of course it's fine."
Is there someone close to you telling you otherwise?
Is this even about/for you?
18 years old is pretty much the age in the majority of places of the world where people magically stop giving a shit about age, unless it's drinking.
Is there someone close to you telling you otherwise?
Is this even about/for you?
18 years old is pretty much the age in the majority of places of the world where people magically stop giving a shit about age, unless it's drinking.
Didn't you get your answer already with the only other thread you've ever posted here, being about pretty much the same thing?
I mean, it can be..
A lot happens to many people between the ages of 18 and 21. It's an age where people are legally adults, but most people are still very much learning how to be adults, and that includes things like how to recognise red flags in a relationship.
Most of my friends at that age ended up dating people a few years older than them. For some, it was a positive experience, but for quite a few it ended in emotional or physical abuse by people who took advantage of their relative inexperience, and whose entire goal in getting into a relationship with someone younger was very clearly to have that kind of power.
It's always worth bearing in mind that people can be vulnerable to or to getting into toxic relationships no matter what age they are, but in general less experienced people are more vulnerable, and younger people tend to be less experienced. If someone consistently goes after people younger than them, even if they're quite young themselves, then you should at least consider the possibility that they might not have the best of intentions.
A lot happens to many people between the ages of 18 and 21. It's an age where people are legally adults, but most people are still very much learning how to be adults, and that includes things like how to recognise red flags in a relationship.
Most of my friends at that age ended up dating people a few years older than them. For some, it was a positive experience, but for quite a few it ended in emotional or physical abuse by people who took advantage of their relative inexperience, and whose entire goal in getting into a relationship with someone younger was very clearly to have that kind of power.
It's always worth bearing in mind that people can be vulnerable to or to getting into toxic relationships no matter what age they are, but in general less experienced people are more vulnerable, and younger people tend to be less experienced. If someone consistently goes after people younger than them, even if they're quite young themselves, then you should at least consider the possibility that they might not have the best of intentions.
Is it weird/predatory for a 18 year old to date a 16 year old and vice versa?
Or a 16 year old to a 14 year old and vice versa?
Or a 16 year old to a 14 year old and vice versa?
I think it entirely depends on the individual, but I do realize laws do not work that way. So legally in most cases it is advised to obey the laws. As a female, I always dated guys much older than me, but that is because I found guys my age to be a bit immature for my tastes. Even worse, I almost always dated older boys, and in school I had my first Boyfriend at the age of 5 and he was 7. Now of course that was just 'puppy love" and harmless, but when I was 12 I was dating a 16 year old. I went to the senior prom at the Highschool escorted by a senior every year from 13 yrs old up. At 15 my boyfriend was a Freshman in college, however I was also legally emancipated in a court of law that same year and determined to be a legal adult and had my own apartment at the time. I was advanced for my age and was the youngest person in my classes in school with all of the other students being years older than I was. Even worse, I was not the only person in my family who had skipped grades and was in higher level classes, my sister 4 years older than me and my sister 2 years by younger also were advanced placed, and also all dated older guys as well. Due to my placement in school, most of my friends as well as my boyfriends were all much older than me. Although briefly I did date guys younger than me at one time, I wind up with older guys for long term relationships.
With some obvious exceptions, predatory relationships can happen between people of any age, age difference on its own is not a definitive indicator.
Gonna be honest, I'd trust me at 18 about the same as I'd trust me at 21. Which is to say, carefully. Wasn't like I suddenly matured once my age had a 2 at the startundeadsuitor said:
Age is a number. My uncle is 63 and his wife is 58, and they've been together happily 35 years now. The only restriction I'd consider is the legal one.
I dated a 25 year old when I was 18. I dated an 18 year old at 22. Been on both sides.
I'd say that generally, due to age it not predatory. But there are some circumstance that could make it predatory if someone leverages maturity into domination of an individual. But that's not just 18 year olds
I'd say that generally, due to age it not predatory. But there are some circumstance that could make it predatory if someone leverages maturity into domination of an individual. But that's not just 18 year olds
Hell i'd Argue anyone under 25 still has no idea what being an adult it. Sure Maturity levels vary, but i really wish u knew at 25 what i know at 30.evilthecat said: