Judgement101 said:
Jinjiro said:
Judgement101 said:
Jinjiro said:
I want to fall out of love because I......don't really know....
Be brutally honest with yourself, it's for your own good
Brutally honest works I guess: 1. I would hate myself if she would ever be unhappy. 2. I would feel terrible if anything bad ever happens to her. 3. I think I would go insane if I continue like this.
Ok then, let's just review this with our priorities in the right place.
1. I would hate myself if she would ever be unhappy. - You can't live your own happiness through someone else's. Remember that a relationship works from two sides, not from one - if she's not happy and still in the relationship it's most likely equally your fault and hers. She can make her own decisions about you, which is why you need to find out SOON if she feels the same way or not. Once you know that, you might feel differently.
2. I would feel terrible if anything bad ever happens to her. - Again dude, this shows you care for her but this probably applies to a lot of other people you know too, right? Family, friends... and you don't want to stop thinking about all of them, do you? This is just basic human empathy, and unlike some would suggest, this speaks to me that you definitely don't need a shrink
3. I think I would go insane if I continue like this. - We have ALL been there, buddy. Really. I bet 90% of the people in this post once had a girl/boy they couldn't stop thinking about. This is entirely natural. Really. You'll just have to take my word on that and re-read this in 5 years when you're doting on someone you met in college
And for the people saying "Go see a psychiatrist" to the guy, that is a radical solution. If you all took "Vitamin P" and had cognitive behavioural therapy when you were in this guy's situation, then fair play... but I doubt it.