Ok I am a 21yr old male. I have never been sexually active with a girl, in fact over the past years I never really felt the need to pursue any girl. I am attracted to girls, but not enough to do the whole pursuing bit. I much rather just smoke some weed and listen to music. I am in a fraternity and frankly I feel a bit weird because instead of chasing "tail" I would rather get baked and listen to Pink Floyd during parties. I have tried chatting girls up and texting them, but when it comes down to sex I have actually passed up the opportunity, although i did not realize until the next day. So I reiterate, is there something wrong with me?
Is there something wrong with me?
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No, some people have a lower sex drive
It's possible you could be a demisexual (only attracted after forming an emotional connection) or just not have a sex drive
It's different, but not bad so I wouldn't worry about it :3
It's possible you could be a demisexual (only attracted after forming an emotional connection) or just not have a sex drive
It's different, but not bad so I wouldn't worry about it :3
Not really. I had myself diagnosed as sane by multiple psychiatrists as part of an insurance scam and i never went out of my way to spark a friends with benefits relationship either.
Wouldn't worry about it, as long as you're enjoying yourself. Not so much into getting baked myself, but I love just kicking back and listening to music for an hour or two.
Mogwai's great for that shit. Very relaxing. Fairly long songs that are very easy to listen to. Should give 'em a listen next time you get baked.
Mogwai's great for that shit. Very relaxing. Fairly long songs that are very easy to listen to. Should give 'em a listen next time you get baked.
How can there be something wrong with you, you appreciate the mastery of Pink Floyd. Also, not wanting to fuck random bitches is hardly the weirdest thing someone's ever said, don't let the uber sexualised mentality of society make you act in a way that you don't feel like.
Nope. I didn't lose my virginity till after I turned 23. Only a few weeks ago come to think of it.
Much like you, I tend to prefer chilling out with mates than, as you put it, chasing the tail. I always figured I'd have sex at some point though, it just never bothered me that it was right away.
Much like you, I tend to prefer chilling out with mates than, as you put it, chasing the tail. I always figured I'd have sex at some point though, it just never bothered me that it was right away.
You my good sir are a dying breed whom i tip my hat too. I too don't run around chasing girls, am sexually attracted to them, but only feel a sex drive when in a relationship. I say don't worry about it, when the right girl comes along, you'll feel the drive because it sounds like your drive grows from emotional attachment to someone. And there is someone out there for everyone 
Side note; these days, student club scenes seem more focused around one night stands and the like, hence the tipping of my hat!
Side note; these days, student club scenes seem more focused around one night stands and the like, hence the tipping of my hat!
This reminds me of that old song "I got stoned and I missed it" with Dr. Hook and the medicine show.
Relax, there's nothing wrong with you. I don't think one has to have regular sex in order to be 'normal.' I can only have sex with a guy if I really like him and that takes some time, you can't just do it with anybody who's willing. Btw, I became sexually active when I was your age, I just didn't feel like doing it until the right person showed up. Just let things develop naturally, and when you feel the moment is right, do it. I sometimes have long periods of time when I'm single and I don't really feel the urge to have sex at all, I just do other things that make me happy. As a girl, I find it very refreshing that there are some guys out there who aren't so focused on sex.
Im 20 and never even held hands with or kissed a girl, let alone "chased tail". Wouldn't worry about it if I were you. In fact it makes life a lot simpler and makes talking with wimmin folk very relaxing because you feel no pressure to come across as sexually desirable.
Talking with women without thinking about their vagina is nice.
Talking with women without thinking about their vagina is nice.
Well presuming you are a human being and all human beings are irreparably broken ineffectual grab asstic masses of twitching nerves inexplicably balancing on catastrophic high wires, then Yes, there most certainly IS something wrong with you as there is something wrong with each and every one.
/leaves the forum to go spread more sunshine and rainbows anywhere darkness dare rear its ugly head.
/leaves the forum to go spread more sunshine and rainbows anywhere darkness dare rear its ugly head.
Nah, it means you've just watched too many crap movies about teens obsessed with sex. Sure, you know that in the real world it's not always like that, but that doesn't always stop people from believing it.
My drive is high and i'd love to have a girlfriend, but right now it just seems pointless, the pain i feel from my previous relationships still sucks so i'm not way into trying again, plus it seems every single girl around me is interested in two things, over confident idiots and getting pregnant.
Literally, 6 girls where i work are currently pregnant and 3 have given birth in the last 2 months.
I'm 24 and not interested in having a child, nor am i interested in falling in love, to lose someone because i'm "too nice".
Literally, 6 girls where i work are currently pregnant and 3 have given birth in the last 2 months.
I'm 24 and not interested in having a child, nor am i interested in falling in love, to lose someone because i'm "too nice".
Nothing wrong with you, but the line above suggests that you might be a bit dim.bak00777 said:
Well, if he has to ask to begin with then...Xenowolf said:
Well, I would say yes, but that has far more to do with your choice of recreation.
A lower sex drive is nothing to be particularly concerned about on its own (bearing in mind that it MIGHT be related to hormonal issues that can be serious, but no one here is likely to be qualified to judge that). I'm actually in much the same boat. I don't think about or seek sex normally, but I've found that my sex drive returns in full force when I form a deep emotional bond with someone else.
Frankly, given the social and physical problems caused by treating sex like a game of musical chairs, I think we'd all be better off if this was more common.
A lower sex drive is nothing to be particularly concerned about on its own (bearing in mind that it MIGHT be related to hormonal issues that can be serious, but no one here is likely to be qualified to judge that). I'm actually in much the same boat. I don't think about or seek sex normally, but I've found that my sex drive returns in full force when I form a deep emotional bond with someone else.
Frankly, given the social and physical problems caused by treating sex like a game of musical chairs, I think we'd all be better off if this was more common.