is this actually racist?

[Nouw]

Technically yes. But it's the kind of racism you don't make a fuss about. I'm looking at you Halloween posters!

 

[Vicarious Reality]

NO

Your avatar is, however. LOL

 

[let's rock]

Why is everything considered racist in this world? let me elaborate

 

[CthulhuMessiah]

Would you be a homophobe if you weren't attracted to guys?

The answer is no.

 

[Phlakes]

Racism is the belief that inherent different traits in human racial groups justify discrimination

So basically no.

I'm not attracted to many people outside my race either. Not a choice, and there's nothing wrong with it.

 

[doodleydoowop]

CthuluMessiah that is because, and correct me if I'm wrong, there is something true about all guys that turns you off: they have a dick.
That alone makes your lack of attraction valid because it is true.

But OP's girl seemed not attracted to something she percieved all Asians had in common. There is almost nothing that all the many, many Asian ethnicities all have in common. Even the eye thing is not necessarily universal to them.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

Uh, no, you're not racist because of your aesthetic preferences. I'm pretty much only turned on by extremely pale skin, but that doesn't mean I dislike people with darker shades of skin than I'm attracted to. So no, and its a dumb question.

 

[Belaam]

No more than preferring redheads to blondes is racist.

 

[bluegate]

If you worry about something as trivial as this, I can only imagine what the scope of your hypotheticals are; "Now.. hypothetically speaking, what if we ordered pizza instead of made dinner ourselves tonight, wouldn't that be a different world!".

For the record; No, it probably actually isn't racist.

 

[Something Amyss]

This again...

No, it's not racist. That's like calling heterosexual or homosexual people sexist for being attracted to only one gender.

Hey, it's homophobic not to be attracted to members of the same sex!

>.>

 

[Drakmeire]

No. I don't like brown eyes and brown eyes can be an attribute of race. doesn't make me racist though.
how to tell if something is racist: Is it malicious of hateful? If not it is not racist.

 

[irani_che]

Actually it is slightly racist.

Thing is, when you say you aren't attracted to a race it means you assume all people of that race will be unattractive to you, including the ones you haven't met.

If she had said something like "I've never met an Asian who I was attracted to" then sure, there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe her Asian friends all have characteristics that she isn't looking for in a partner and that is fine!

But the way you described it it sounds like she thinks all Asians have something about them that makes them unattractive to her, when in reality not all Asians could possibly share that trait because of how varied every race is. It just isn't OBVIOUSLY racist because she isn't saying WHAT that unattractive trait is.

It is only a few steps away from saying "I'm not attracted to black people because they are too tall", or "I'm not attracted to white people because they are too short".

yes that was why I was thinking it was ambiguous. I kind of failed to be able to put it down in words myself

that, no
your diplay pic,
probably

 

[Jegsimmons]

me and my girlfriend are pretty serious in our relationship, but are also pretty open-minded and discuss quite a bit about hypotheticals. Anyway, I forget why, but I essentially asked her at one point about her opinions on Asians physically, and she said that she has no physical attraction to them. She does have a few Asian friends, both male and female, and as far as I have seen she doesn't treat them any different to her other friends, so escapist, would you say that this is racist?

[HEADING=1]NO.[/HEADING]
it's a preference. and they are entitled to it. (also i like useing the big text codes, they are fun)

 

[Paikis]

It is racist. It's not hateful though.

You are singling out a group of people based on their race. What you're saying about them doesn't matter. Saying that Asians are awesome is still racist.

 

[kebab4you]

Nope it´s not, however your avatar might be a tad bit racist, just saying

 

[Dr. Crawver]

Actually it is slightly racist.

Thing is, when you say you aren't attracted to a race it means you assume all people of that race will be unattractive to you, including the ones you haven't met.

If she had said something like "I've never met an Asian who I was attracted to" then sure, there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe her Asian friends all have characteristics that she isn't looking for in a partner and that is fine!

But the way you described it it sounds like she thinks all Asians have something about them that makes them unattractive to her, when in reality not all Asians could possibly share that trait because of how varied every race is. It just isn't OBVIOUSLY racist because she isn't saying WHAT that unattractive trait is.

It is only a few steps away from saying "I'm not attracted to black people because they are too tall", or "I'm not attracted to white people because they are too short".

yes that was why I was thinking it was ambiguous. I kind of failed to be able to put it down in words myself

that, no
your diplay pic,
probably

yes, someone else already pointed it out. I'm black myself, so I'm certainly not using it to hurt others, I just found it amusing

 

[Dr. Crawver]

me and my girlfriend are pretty serious in our relationship, but are also pretty open-minded and discuss quite a bit about hypotheticals. Anyway, I forget why, but I essentially asked her at one point about her opinions on Asians physically, and she said that she has no physical attraction to them. She does have a few Asian friends, both male and female, and as far as I have seen she doesn't treat them any different to her other friends, so escapist, would you say that this is racist?

The funny thing about this is that a few days ago at my university a black woman got up in the middle of the university (they had some sort of open mic thing for some reason) and said that "If you don't like me because I'm black, honey brown, Autumn, Auburn, (etc) and because I have big lips, big breasts, big butts and large thighs, if you're not attracted to me because of these features as a African American woman, you are racist. You are sexist. Don't try to tell me otherwise, you are inherently preventing my progress by putting me in an inferior place."

I don't particularly like most African features... but that doesn't mean I don't like them at all? I also don't really like Slavs and eastern Europeans, but I've dated some. I'm not racist at all by having certain personal preferences! It's not about being "black", and I suppose the only thing that's "racist" about it is that you're stereotyping a people... but as long as you don't let that prevent you from appreciating an otherwise attractive person, it's not wrong!

that seems...unusual. She seems to be mixing sexism and racism into one, as well as saying because of a lack of attraction she's being held back by people. Unusual point to make

not only that, but for her to stereotype black people like that (if you look at MOST traditonal Africans, few of them actually look like that - it's only a specific region of africa that has some of those features... to say nothing of the physical diversity in America) it is in and of itself racist.

Without getting into too deep of a discussion, I am a BIG believer in the idea that most minority populations (indeed, most disadvantaged populations) are more often then not hurt by themselves rather than discrimination. Perhaps its not because of their own actions, but to say it's some big, evil white guy/corporation/corrupt government/some other entity out to get you because you're a nobody is typically false... or at the very least, HORRIFICALLY exaggerated.

...All I can say is I'm glad I'm a brit, we don't have (many) people like that

 

[JamesStone]

Not at all. It´s not racist to not be attracted to certains characteristics. Some woman prefer black guys, others white guys. Tall, blond, redhaired, etc., you get the point.
Not being into some characteristcs in a person isn´t the same as being racist. It´s just being human.

 

[SckizoBoy]

snip

Mmmmmm... technically, it is but only to such an extent as to be negligible.

However, I think this would be pertinent:

Spoiler: Everybodys a Little Bit Racist

Despite being Chinese, I'm just not attracted to Chinese girls. Does that make me racist? *shrug*

 

[Ti0k0]

No, it's not racist, or do babies feel discriminated too, because I am NOT sexually attracted to them?