Is this creepy/weird?

[Wadders]

Now normally, I'd concede that if someone has to ask if something is creepy or odd, then it probably is

But I just though I'd get a second opinion; if I were to ask a girl in my University seminar class out for drinks/some kind of date, without really having spoken to her very much before (given that we've been in the same class since September of last year) would that be a strange or unsettling thing for her?

I mean, I have actually spoken to her and she seemed engaged enough when talking to me, we make eye contact, and I've noticed her looking at me now and then, but I'm not going to delude myself too much - people look at other people, so what?

In fairness, this is all probably academic anyway, seeing as she'll be busy with exams this time of year and leaving Uni by June (I stay till September) so presumably I have left this far, far too late.

So yeah, just some clarification, before I consider making an ass of myself. Cheers all.

 

[ResonanceSD]

If you've spoken to her before, no, just go do it.

Ask her out to coffee. It's much easier to talk in a cafe than in a bar.

 

[Batou667]

Do it. Don't overthink it or build it up. She says yes? Awesome. She says no? At least you tried. The real tragedy would be not asking her and spending months thinking "what if".

 

[Teoes]

Do it do it do it. Just aim for a nice relaxed coffee of a weekend afternoon or something, nothing with too much build up or pressure. See how that coffee goes and whether the two of you want to hang out more that day like going for a walk or heading rounds some shops or whatever.

Don't build it up, don't destroy yourself if she turns you down. It's worth the rush of actually asking and it's definitely worth the rush of her saying yes.

I've been there myself plenty of times asking someone out who I don't know all that well and I've been shot down plenty of times. The last time I tried was four years ago and we're still together - that's not something I'd want to risk missing by not asking the lass out.

Edit: no, not creepy or weird! Sign back in and let us know how it went.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

I did exactly that.
It didn't really misfire as much as lead to a very weird scenario.

A scenario in which I am still stuck, kind of.

But I say go for it, be a man and so forth.

 

[JimB]

Now normally, I'd concede that if someone has to ask if something is creepy or odd, then it probably is.

Or else you're just self-conscious.

Ask yourself this: What are your intentions? I mean, what do you hope is going to happen after the drink/date/whatever? If you're just going out to have a good time with someone, or to see if you can have a good time with someone, then I personally don't see harm or foul in that. If you're doing it because you want to show her your love dungeon or because you think she's the reincarnation of the soulmate you had in your previous lifetime, then yeah, that's probably pretty creepy.

If you mean well, then you're good.

 

[Tiger King]

Now normally, I'd concede that if someone has to ask if something is creepy or odd, then it probably is

But I just though I'd get a second opinion; if I were to ask a girl in my University seminar class out for drinks/some kind of date, without really having spoken to her very much before (given that we've been in the same class since September of last year) would that be a strange or unsettling thing for her?

I mean, I have actually spoken to her and she seemed engaged enough when talking to me, we make eye contact, and I've noticed her looking at me now and then, but I'm not going to delude myself too much - people look at other people, so what?

In fairness, this is all probably academic anyway, seeing as she'll be busy with exams this time of year and leaving Uni by June (I stay till September) so presumably I have left this far, far too late.

So yeah, just some clarification, before I consider making an ass of myself. Cheers all.

i wouldnt say that was weird or creepy go for it mate.
also i found the motto on your profile very amusing, i shall award you the highest honour in the land for it.
my personal nod of approval.

 

[kailus13]

It's not creepy at all. You've already spoken before so it's not as if you're acting like a stalker. The worst that can happen is that she says no. It's better to regret doing something, then to regret not doing something.

 

[Angie7F]

Not creepy at all.
If you are in the same class, there is nothing to be shy of.