Is this messed up?

[Kenbo Slice]

Okay so my friends and I are all going to see System of a Down on Sunday and we got a group of six going, we bought these tickets when they first went on sale. Well first off my friends g/f said she didn't want to go when we first bought the tickets, and we already have everything planned, we got a car with six seats and all of the sudden a week before the concert she decides she wants to go and has my friend (her b/f) buy her a ticket. That did not fly by me and my friends because no we have to tell him she has to get her own ride there because we've already had this planned all out and we're not gonna change anything for a last minute addition. Plus none of us really like her anyways. But I ask is it messed up of my friends and I to do that? I also ask How should we break it to him?

 

[DirtyMagic]

First of all, how the hell did that not sell out yet?
Second of all, I don't think you can win either way. You either piss off her or your friend.
But you have a point though that it isn't a very cool move on her part. The smartest thing to do though is just get the five of you in the six-seat ride and let your friend and her fix another ride.

What's his view on the situation anyway?

 

[endnuen]

Plans were made. He can't expect you 5 to change and drop everything you planned.
The two of them must arrange their own ride.

Just tell him like it is. She had the chance to ride along when you planned it from the start.

 

[gazumped]

Saying "You realise you're going to have to make your own way there 'cause we only have a six seater" isn't going to piss your friend off unless he's a particularly unreasonable guy. A change in plans in travel is hardly a big deal.

The only recommendation I make is that you don't word it like "we don't have space for HER" or anything else that might bring up your dislike of her, as it comes across a bit nastily in your post. (She changed her mind about something? How dare she decide she wants to go to a gig! It's like she PLANNED to be a nuisance!)

 

[Ando85]

Well don't mention anything about not liking her in the first place. Just simply say that you had it planned for a long time and there is no way for a new addition due to only 6 seats. If they are reasonable they will completely understand. If it makes them angry they aren't justified at all because in that situation there is nothing you can do about it. It isn't your fault.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Just say what you said here (maybe leave out the not liking her part)

 

[370999]

Be polite with him and explain that you are sorry you can't change your plan at this late date.

 

[SillyBear]

Well don't mention anything about not liking her in the first place. Just simply say that you had it planned for a long time and there is no way for a new addition due to only 6 seats. If they are reasonable they will completely understand. If it makes them angry they aren't justified at all because in that situation there is nothing you can do about it. It isn't your fault.

This is worth following.

Be polite and explain it.

 

[Zantos]

Be polite, it's not like he has a legit excuse to get annoyed, and I imagine you wouldn't be friends if he was going to go off on one over nothing.

Besides, for all you know he's just as pissed off at the last minute change as the rest of you.

Just hope she isn't one to go down the crying helpless girl route whenever things don't go their way. I nearly lost £40 last time that happened.

 

[zombiesinc]

As stated, just let him know that it's only fair for the two of them to arrange their own form of transportation. He should be able to understand that you've all had this planned out for a long time, since the beginning practically, so he can't expect the five of you to change your plans for one person. On top of that, she was asked before the tickets were bought if she wanted to go. Of course it happens that people sometimes change their minds at the last minute, but that doesn't mean she can expect everyone else to change their plans to accommodate her. She can ask, as with her boyfriend, but they can't hold expectations.

Let him know this, and go from there. Perhaps they'll be able to come up with another form of transportation that will accommodate everyone, and possibly even save money. If not, then hopefully they'll sort it out. Just be sure that you're polite when expressing all of this, otherwise it could make for a tense or even awkward trip to the show.

On a side note: I'm incredibly envious that you're going to see SOAD, have fun!

 

[Kenbo Slice]

On a side note: I'm incredibly envious that you're going to see SOAD, have fun!

Thanks man, it's like a dream come true for me, plus Gogol Bordello is the opening band!!!

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Tell it like it is. It's been in the plan for months and she shouldn't have decided last minute "Oh I think I'll go".

 

[mattttherman3]

I would just be blunt, I always am, I hold nothing back, I have told my friend that his girlfriend is a moron and he can do better, we are still good friends. That's who I am. Frankly this isn't really a big deal and shouldn't affect your friendship at all.