Is this weird?

[Fooz]

its to do with my friend, and i feel bad posting this because its not really any of my business.

but he's 18 and he still has to run like everything by his mum, no matter what it is, yeah my mum calls me when im out to see if im ok and the usual stuff, but if i ask him if he wants to do something, he go's and asks his mum, i literally asked him if i could borrow a DVD not 10 minutes ago, and i got a response saying his mum said "yeah as long as i give it back by the weekend....."

now hes 18, its his DVD, whats this got to do with his mum?

am i being douchy or is this weird?

[small]by the way, if you (friend who this is about) are reading this, im not hating or taking the piss, im just curious as to why you do it?[/small]

 

[Evil Moo]

I can more or less understand it up to a point. Some parents can be a bit protective and he could easily just slip into the routine of referring to his mum's judgement on some things.

That said, lending his own possessions is something not only beyond that point, but also tangential to the line the point is on. It isn't something big enough to warrant advice from someone else and isn't something that he would require permission to do, assuming it is indeed his DVD...

I'm baffled if what you say is accurate.

Oh, and you are perhaps being over so slightly 'douchy' by going behind his back and posting about it in a public forum.

 

[KiKiweaky]

If he was younger then ok, normal. He's 18 and he had to ask his mum if he could lend you his DVD thats rather odd alright.

 

[Blondi3]

Sure it's weird but at the same time maybe his mom was planning on watching the DVD that weekend and he was just being courteous.

 

[Fooz]

I can more or less understand it up to a point. Some parents can be a bit protective and he could easily just slip into the routine of referring to his mums judgement on some things.

That said, lending his own possessions is something not only beyond that point, but also tangential to the line the point is on. It isn't something big enough to warrant advice from someone else and isn't something that he would require permission to do, assuming it is indeed his DVD...

I'm baffled if what you say is accurate.

Oh, and you are perhaps being over so slightly 'douchy' by going behind his back and posting about it in a public forum.

well im not mentioning his name, no-one here knows me, so there is no way of anyone finding out who it is, and im just curious as to whether anyone else here does this or knows someone that does

 

[crop52]

i really don't get why you have to post this online asking if it's odd,
because it clearly is,

 

[KaiRai]

It is a little bit weird, I mean, he is 18 now.

 

[Jordi]

its to do with my friend, and i feel bad posting this because its not really any of my business.

but he's 18 and he still has to run like everything by his mum, no matter what it is, yeah my mum calls me when im out to see if im ok and the usual stuff, but if i ask him if he wants to do something, he go's and asks his mum, i literally asked him if i could borrow a DVD not 10 minutes ago, and i got a response saying his mum said "yeah as long as i give it back by the weekend....."

now hes 18, its his DVD, whats this got to do with his mum?

am i being douchy or is this weird?

[small]by the way, if you (friend who this is about) are reading this, im not hating or taking the piss, im just curious as to why you do it?[/small]

Can't you just ask him why he runs everything by his mother? It strikes me as slightly odd that you would post this on a public forum where there is apparently a very real chance that he might read it, instead of just talking to him. You can be nice about it. Just ask if he never gets the feeling that he wants to decide anything by himself or something like that.

It sounds to me like he is probably a little immature, and that is really not a rare thing for 18-year-olds. It would probably do him good to try and make his own decisions more, so just talk to him.

 

[OptimisticPessimist]

Being a bit of a momma's boy myself, I'm tempted to take his side, but that's a bit much. I'd ask him about it.

 

[Fooz]

its to do with my friend, and i feel bad posting this because its not really any of my business.

but he's 18 and he still has to run like everything by his mum, no matter what it is, yeah my mum calls me when im out to see if im ok and the usual stuff, but if i ask him if he wants to do something, he go's and asks his mum, i literally asked him if i could borrow a DVD not 10 minutes ago, and i got a response saying his mum said "yeah as long as i give it back by the weekend....."

now hes 18, its his DVD, whats this got to do with his mum?

am i being douchy or is this weird?

[small]by the way, if you (friend who this is about) are reading this, im not hating or taking the piss, im just curious as to why you do it?[/small]

Can't you just ask him why he runs everything by his mother? It strikes me as slightly odd that you would post this on a public forum where there is apparently a very real chance that he might read it, instead of just talking to him. You can be nice about it. Just ask if he never gets the feeling that he wants to decide anything by himself or something like that.

It sounds to me like he is probably a little immature, and that is really not a rare thing for 18-year-olds. It would probably do him good to try and make his own decisions more, so just talk to him.

no its not the immature thing, he is more mature than me in most ways to be honest, and i would ask him personally its just im a pussy and he gets weird if you 'diss' him

 

[orangebandguy]

It's a bit weird to be honest, maybe his family just get a bit weird with lending stuff.

But at least he's not 30 and still living with his mother.

 

[Ham_authority95]

its to do with my friend, and i feel bad posting this because its not really any of my business.

but he's 18 and he still has to run like everything by his mum, no matter what it is, yeah my mum calls me when im out to see if im ok and the usual stuff, but if i ask him if he wants to do something, he go's and asks his mum, i literally asked him if i could borrow a DVD not 10 minutes ago, and i got a response saying his mum said "yeah as long as i give it back by the weekend....."

now hes 18, its his DVD, whats this got to do with his mum?

am i being douchy or is this weird?

[small]by the way, if you (friend who this is about) are reading this, im not hating or taking the piss, im just curious as to why you do it?[/small]

The real question is: Why does he want to run everything by his mom?

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

Where is my poll?!

Yeah, it is weird, but I don't get why he just accepts that. Maybe it's a problem with him.
At the end of the day...you should really talk about it to him tbh o_o.

 

[Johnnyallstar]

It's not so bad. I work with a guy who is 35 and he has a strange Oedipus complex that freaks me the hell out. Sure, your friend might still act like a little boy, but it could be a LOT worse.

I mean, after a Halloween party, he was asking people "Doesn't my mom look so young." and "My mom looks great for her age." After that, we started ragging on him for being Oedipus Rex reborn, and he was strangely okay with that.

 

[devotedsniper]

lol my 20 year old housemates like this, he ran it past his mom when he sold and brought his 2 recent cars, he asks her pretty much everything when it comes to money, me and my other housemate think it's abit over the top, if we wanna buy sumat like a car we do (well my other housemates asks me to come since she knows nothing about cars, but thats it), we don't ask our moms we might ask there opinion on them or mention were going to but thats it.

Best thing to do is either say nothing, unless he's a really good friend and won't take offence to you questioning it like our housemate.