Ladies: How often do guys hit on you online?

[Lionsfan]

I'm a guy, and I've seen it happen before. I've seen it both ways, where the guys are hitting on a girl, and when the girl is flirting back. I've also seen it where they won't leave someone alone, and that get's kinda creepy after a game or two

 

[MassiveGeek]

I have had a couple guys hit on me...
yeah so anti-climatic.
I don't see it as a bad thing. but considering I am taken disappoints them or ask if I am not happy in my relationship.

Pretty much this.

I'm usually flattered though, but I'm not a sugar-coating type so I'm pretty clear that I'm taken if they try to take it further.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

So, fellow ladies, how often do you find this happening? Not being teased or trolled for being a female on the Internets, but being creeped and hit on, by completely straight-faced guys?

I'm kind of a flirt online, and I've had several guys not only hit on me, but (after frequent encounters) decide they love me and start stalking me.

I am not kidding.

It almost makes me reconsider flirting. Almost.

 

[synobal]

I've been hit on by females online. It was a traumatic experience. It made me resolved to not even ask if someone was a female in the future. Though it should be noted it wasn't as traumatic as being hit on by my fellow male gamers online.

Wow...thats unfortunate. Do you want to talk about it? Maybe over lunch sometime?

xD Hahaha! Sorry, sorry. I couldn't help myself.

Seriously though, what happend? Did they do to you what they did to Lilani and mob you like predators circling the pray? Or, were just creepy?

It was on WoW, we started playing at the same time and we just sort of grouped up for some quests at the beginning of the game and stuff. Then we joined the same guild and started raiding and talking on vent. Then before I knew it she was texting me and calling me and talking about meeting up and stuff. Then it devolved into something closer to stalking. Bottom line I had to get a new cellphone and a server switch but I felt bad about it. I think she was just lonely.

 

[ZeAwesomeOne]

OMG, I know what you mean. I've quit half the MMOs I've played because of the creepers. But all you go to do is hold your head up and say 'No.' and if they persist, report them for harassment till next Tuesday

 

[The Funslinger]

I feel obligated to post this relevant (and amusing) video:

OT: I am a guy, so no.

 

[kittii-chan 300]

Well, as a male, I can certainly defend the guys. I don't see what's so wrong with them looking for relationships online. They might just want to make a better attempt to get to know the girl before trying to start something.

wait, are you saying that guys online are trying to get to know the girl better??? not from my experience... the conversation through textbox is usualy something like:

anonymous:are you a boy or a gurl?
me: um...girl
anonymous: how old are you??
me:18(lie btw, not giving my info out)
anonymous: do you want to cyber?
me has left the game

OT: never ever play territory war! (a lot)

 

[Palademon]

Well, as a male, I can certainly defend the guys. I don't see what's so wrong with them looking for relationships online. They might just want to make a better attempt to get to know the girl before trying to start something.

wait, are you saying that guys online are trying to get to know the girl better??? not from my experience... the conversation through textbox is usualy something like:

anonymous:are you a boy or a gurl?
me: um...girl
anonymous: how old are you??
me:18(lie btw, not giving my info out)
anonymous: do you want to cyber?
me has left the game

No, sorry. I meant that last part as a suggestion to them.

 

[Nimcha]

One time I had my avatar pic of Ellen Page.

The amount of guys hitting on me was ridiculous.

That was your own fault though, nobody can resist Ellen Page. :3

 

[Smooth Operator]

Very infrequently, actually. It's been a very long time. Either that or I'm exceptionally clueless.

And it's only been on online games, not forums, chatrooms etc.

Well that is quite intriguing, I think we should get together on a Friday night and discuss it further.

OT: You haveto understand the gaming world is still mostly a sausage fest, a girl in that environment is like a glass of ice water in the desert, everyone wants to get some

 

[the_green_dragon]

It's simple supply and demand. Gamer guys are like 90% of the gaming population (not including casual games ok) the rest are the 10% females. Now gamer girls, while not only rare are also highly prized, like bar of gold. Hen's teeth are rare but of no value.

Thus when a guy finds a girl online they're like "OMG!!! Must try and flirt with girl....." and more often then not they epically fail. (which is partly why they play MMORPGs all day long instead of going out and meeting a real life girl)

 

[N3vans]

Yeah as a bloke I'm not even going to bother trying to defend the other conduct of others online, it would be pissing in the wind somewhat. I've seen how girls get treated online, either trolled/ sexual insults or some obvious mouth-breathing basement dweller makes a weak attempt at trying to flirt with them. You can't really use the excuse 'but what if they're trying to meet new people?' because if they were trying to do that on the internet there are dating sites for that sort of thing.

 

[Souplex]

One time I had my avatar pic of Ellen Page.

The amount of guys hitting on me was ridiculous.

That was your own fault though, nobody can resist Ellen Page. :3

Who?
I'm serious; who is that?

 

[Imp_Emissary]

I've been hit on by females online. It was a traumatic experience. It made me resolved to not even ask if someone was a female in the future. Though it should be noted it wasn't as traumatic as being hit on by my fellow male gamers online.

Wow...thats unfortunate. Do you want to talk about it? Maybe over lunch sometime?

xD Hahaha! Sorry, sorry. I couldn't help myself.

Seriously though, what happend? Did they do to you what they did to Lilani and mob you like predators circling the pray? Or, were just creepy?

It was on WoW, we started playing at the same time and we just sort of grouped up for some quests at the beginning of the game and stuff. Then we joined the same guild and started raiding and talking on vent. Then before I knew it she was texting me and calling me and talking about meeting up and stuff. Then it devolved into something closer to stalking. Bottom line I had to get a new cellphone and a server switch but I felt bad about it. I think she was just lonely.

Ah, yes. Loneliness is the bain of man's(and woman's) existence. Man's(and woman's) worst enemy is himself(herself), and his(her) worst nightmare is being completely alone.

 

[Lilitu]

Spoiler: Romantic Dream

Just a city bo--err..wait, wrong one.

It's the nervous boy on the internet who finds a girl that's been through some storms. Through Emails and IM's, the two get closer and closer until they fall in lurrrrve. People actually believe stuff like this

That's how I found my last boyfriend^^;
Even though he wasn't that nervous on the internet but quite nervous in RL (that was so cute^^)

OT:
Since I wasn't very much active on the internet for quite some time and still am more in the backround, I didn't got hit on for quite a long time.
Before I was quite often annoyed of "male or female? - boyfriend or none? - where do you live? - sex?" I don't want to answer a questionary!
On the other hand I found a very good (male) friend online and once a boyfriend^^;

I still enjoy the peace of not beeing creeped or even hit on
But I don't play Online-games either...so no wonder, right?!

 

[Nimcha]

One time I had my avatar pic of Ellen Page.

The amount of guys hitting on me was ridiculous.

That was your own fault though, nobody can resist Ellen Page. :3

Who?
I'm serious; who is that?

A very charming Canadian actress.

 

[Jackhorse]

I... I flirt with girls online. I know I'm not a lady and so not supposed to be in this thread but still.
I'm helpless against it, if there is a girl I meet with for the first time I will naturally flirt with her unless I'm completely unattracted to her and uninterested by her personality, whether it be online or in the flesh. I just don't know how else to talk to girls and flirting is usually pretty harmless. Then again I flirt with most of the male friends I have as well and I have absolutely no interest in them.
Is there a big difference between flirtation and hitting on, because I certainly wouldn't say I hit on girls online.

 

[Ouroboros0977]

This is not a gaming exclusive phenomenon , oft when I go out down the pub with one of my friends. She gets hit on a lot while I am talking to her and it is a lot more creepy often than when we are gaming (we are 19, the people hitting on her at pub are 30-45).

 

[Souplex]

It's simple supply and demand. Gamer guys are like 90% of the gaming population (not including casual games ok) the rest are the 10% females. Now gamer girls, while not only rare are also highly prized, like bar of gold. Hen's teeth are rare but of no value.

Thus when a guy finds a girl online they're like "OMG!!! Must try and flirt with girl....." and more often then not they epically fail. (which is partly why they play MMORPGs all day long instead of going out and meeting a real life girl)

Actually studies have found it's like 65/35, but most female gamers don't voice chat, use character names and avatars that make them seem male, and other similar actions specifically to avoid that scenario.

 

[LadyZephyr]

I used to really want to play online games. Then I thought of all the horror stories I heard about having an obviously female username from my friends and decided I wasn't interested.

The newest number I've heard is that something like 40% of gamers are female. Yet as far as I know there are few safe spaces for them. None of my fellow gamers participate in forums because what a hive of sexism and male privilege they are (here included, sorry to say). I've been heavily warned off playing online FPSes because of how unbearable one of my friends found it.

If anyone hit on me while I played a game, I'd fucking ragequit. I am not there to flirt, I am not there to be your little insipid male fantasy, I am not there for the HURHUR GIRLS DON'T GAME jokes. Oh, look how clever you are, making light of the fact that despite being a sizable part of the audience, women are almost universally ignored and feel marginalized and objectified in gamer culture.

Newsflash: games are a form of escapism. I get enough marginalization in my day to day. Why you I subject myself to more in my favorite hobby?

I'll stick to single player, thanks.