Retrograde said:
Since keeping metaphors apparently goes over your head, even when you contrive very simplistic metaphors to describe very complex behaviours, like a child, at least try and keep it consistent. Are we talking about callously ignoring someones impending death, i.e. they're hanging onto a ledge at your feet and you refuse to pick them up because it's not your problem, or are we talking about something with split second reaction times, like a falling object, and the kind of thing that you really have very little control over?
It being a spur of the moment example, nautrally it would be simplified, but the intention was more to the former. Ignoring specifics, if you see an accident about to happen and choose not to react
when you could have made a difference by reacting, then you must accept some of the blame for the results.
Retrograde said:
If you're going to broad brush incredibly nuanced subjects like social responsibility with the express purpose of discrediting the other guy, do it consistantly.
Or, y'know, to make a point rather than to attack anyone.
Your reaction to this discussion seems to have been very hostile. So far I've been preaching, unworthy of serious consideration, arrogant, two-faced (since apparently my perspective was based only on the gender of the Daily Mail writers, and in a gender-flipped situation my reaction would have been the opposite), my example has been "stupid" and "daft", I've been called childish and even told I'm part of some "your sort of people", quite a dark accusation considering I don't know what sort of people they are.
I'm not sure what I did to deserve all this aggression pointed in my direction, but I could do without it, thanks.
Retrograde said:
I don't see any education going on as such, more like trying to tell people what they like is wrong and what they think is wrong because feminism.
So what you're saying is that the attempts by feminists to educate people as to why they disagree with certain things are inadequate by your high standards, and thus you lump them all together as "because feminism"? That's not exactly a great way to gain a balanced perspective. What part of "the attitude this publication takes towards women's bodies is damaging to their self-esteem" is it that allows you to just write it off? Or "the way women are treated as little more than some jiggling tits in a bikini is demeaning and reduces the woman in question to a sex object", how is that not an attempt to explain and educate rather than a handwave of "because feminism"?
Retrograde said:
The modern feminist movement is a power grab.
What odd phrasing. How exactly is "I'd like to be treated with the same dignity as my male counterparts" a power grab? Honestly, this is a recurring theme and seems to be depressingly important to the philosophy of the anti-feminist thinkers; we men have the power, and feminists want the power, so we must do everything we can to defend the power. It's a weird kind of cognitive dissonance where the mind is capable of recognising that they have the upper hand but unable to acknowledge that fact and so assuming that they are in fact the oppressed minority. It's reminiscent of those fundamentalist Christians in the US and their wailing about their slowly shrinking influence, the kind of thinking that gives rise to essays and complaints about how white Western Christians are the most persecuted people on Earth - "we can't have it all our own way any more! This is OPPRESSION!"
Retrograde said:
Except for the enormous numbers of people who criticise it without suffering repurcussions, such as yourself, right here on the forum that you seem to believe is rabidly pro-feminism. Here you are spouting anti-feminist views, and yet you haven't been banned yet. Funny that. Don't worry, I expect the Lipstick Mafia will be along soon enough to drag you out and bury you in a shallow grave.
Retrograde said:
and when men do say something they're obviously fringe nutters and sexists, because feminism 'isn't all about women' until you criticise it.
Given just how many of the commentators
are nutters (I wish I could could them fringe, but given the sheer volume of misogynistic abuse we see, they're anything but) and sexists, it's not surprising that this seems to be the default assumption. Have you actually
read the comments women get whenever they pop their head above the parapet and speak about this sort of thing? The creator of the Everyday Sexism project makes a point to post her emails and twitter responses whenever she finishes a public appearance, just to show people the number of death threats, rape threats, patronising comments and other gender-oriented abuse. Just for having the gall to
talk about the problem.
I'm not assuming you're a fringe nutter, nor sexist; you obviously have a very big axe to grind with women, but that's your own deal. So far you've been rational, if a tad hostile, and I've responded to you as if we were having a discussion. Where exactly in this debate have you found yourself castigated for your fringe views? Can you point me to where I've said you were a disgusting human being "because feminism"?
Retrograde said:
Even when say, Harriet Harman, the original equalities minister, doubled the pro-female pay gap for the same roles and gives jobs to females wherever possible. That's not blatant sexism and misandry, that's 'balancing the wrong'. Power grab fuelled by redacted histories of grossly exaggerated injustices. Not saying there was NO injustice in the world, just that certain people would like you to believe that before feminism came along the world was a woman hating den of unceasing rape and oppression.
And some people would have you think that we
still don't live in an equal society despite years of attempting to change it. I'm not saying I agree with Harman's implication, but attempting to redress a balance does not equate to misandry. Helping women does not mean one hates men, and vice versa.
If I'm understanding you correctly, you're saying that women never really had it as bad as all that, and any history which claims otherwise is a cynical manipulation of perspective, correct?
Retrograde said:
Besides, that isn't even what's happening, SOME women are bucking because that's what they want to do, but they're very greatly outnumbered by the people that are happily consuming away and ignoring they exist. Do you really think you're average woman really gives a fuck what a load of pretentious, arrogant feminists think? Least of all when said feminist isn't even a woman?
You seem to be equating pretentious and arrogant with feminist. There is no particular link there; feminists are people, just like other people, who may be pretentious and arrogant or down to earth and humble. Creating a caricature of your "enemy" and pretending that everyone of a certain belief fits that model is self-serving and wildly inaccurate.
Certainly, an enormous amount of women around the world are attempting to overturn historical issues (which, I'm afraid to say, contrary to your point above did exist and were generally unfair) while an equally enormous number are disinterested, but can we attribute that to a disdain with the notion of feminism or the general apathy that infects much modern life in the West? The logical answer is obvious, particularly when women are surveyed; they tend to respond that sure, they're in favour of feminism, they just don't particularly bring it up very often. Partly from laziness, partly from fear of the aforementioned reprisals that prominent feminist commentators tend to receive.
Retrograde said:
I've had people on these boards laugh at me for using the word misandrist, and when I told the guy that for doing that he was only worth the next two sentences worth of my time and I wasn't gonna say another word to him, I recieved a warning from this very site. So yeah, don't be silly and try and convince anyone here that anti-female sentiment by men isn't treated as a cardinal sin, while anti-female sentiment by women isn't treated an an anomaly, and anti-male sentiment is really given a fuck about by anybody. LEAST of all feminists.
I'm very sorry you feel that way, but you seem to have a very strong victim mentality here. Even when confronted with examples that go against these beliefs, like the comments I made earlier in the thread, you insisted that
actually nobody with feminist beliefs would ever think that.
Generally people on these forums, in matters of equality, either veer wildly to the anti-feminist extreme or hold the middle ground. When female-on-male sexism rears its head, people will complain that it's sexism. Same for male-on-female. However, going by all the views you've espoused here, I would bet my boots that the only bits you ever pick out to take issue with are those which occasionaly treat male-on-female as more serious threat to equality.