Life's small details...

[Random Argument Man]

Maybe not for everybody, but it is for me. I like looking at the Big picture. Watching and guessing things that will probably end up being good or bad. I like the idea of a grand scheme, I like thinking where I'm going, I like the a grand scheme.

In short: I'm all for big things in life.

If you didn't understood a word I've said then worry not. Here's the meat of my problem. I have ,and always has, a problem getting small details. There's always something that I've said or done that I've missed.

2 new examples in my life for this problem are:

1.The other day, my friend told me he and his girlfriend had a small couple's fight. Me and my big mouth didn't seem to acknowledge that maybe I should buy glue for my mouth. I've told another friend about my friend's problem. He's a great dude and I trusted him. Except, guy number 2's girlfriend is not someone that I can trust to keep things a secret. She basicly went and told the entire story to guy no.1's girlfriend. Guy no.1 was very pissed at me. I was also angry because I've told couple no.2 to not repeat the story. I didn't think that girl no.2 had a big mouth too. I've given my apologies, but I know that I'll repeat something similar in the futur...

2. I work at Quiznos. It's a fast food similar to Subway, but better. I've been working there for 3 weeks and my boss told me to step up the speed and stop doing errors. My main errors are putting the wrong food on the wrong layer or forgetting to do a particular thing. Granted, I've been more cautious lately, but it's not enough for my boss. (He's that kind of boss that thinks people who've worked 3 weeks are the same as the people who've worked 3 years). The threat of getting fired is big since I really need the money.


This problem also affected many things in my life. I want to stop it. I know that I can't completly stop it since I'm human. However, I'm tired of digging my own grave with my lack of attention to small details. Does anyone has advice, tips, tricks?

I don't want to say fuck the world if they're not happy with who I am. I want to be a better person and stop shooting my own foot (Not literally).

 

[Ando85]

This is tough to change the way you behave for the better. After doing things one way our wholes lives it is hard to try to induce change.

However I would say try to take things as they come, and live in the now. You never really know what will happen in the future and you can't change things that happened in the past.

 

[drakythe]

I struggled a lot with the same sort of problems when I was younger (early teens). I developed the habit of double checking just about everything I was doing at the time, should I be doing something else? what would that something be? Sometimes I found it helpful ti write down a list of what to do and in what order. When I write things, it helps me remember them a lot better than I normally do. So when I double check myself, I remember the list. You might try writing down the order of things on the subs. Reading a list is a LOT different than writing it, I think you'll find.

As to spilling beans on your friends, if you are about to tell a story about someone else. Stop and think "is this really relevant, and can I actually tell this story without violating anyone's trust?" If the answer to either question is "no" then just move along to another subject.

If you absolutely feel you must tell the story to someone, go by a journal and write it down, or just open a notepad.txt file and start writing.