long-distance love

[zelda2fanboy]

I tried it once and I'm never going to do it again. Nothing but pain. Horrible horrible pain. Falling in love with someone you can't touch is psychological torture and I'm still recovering. I wish I had taken my own advice, but I've always said that geography is the number one factor of whether a relationship is going to work or not.

 

[artanis_neravar]

I don't get this at all.

I've seen another user do this too, how can you have a relationship with someone you have never met?

trust. patience. love. as cliche as it is, you get to know the person first, not their skin, and learn what THEY are like.

Except you don't. Like at all. You get to know the side of them they want you to see. It's a lot easier to hide aspects of your life when you live in another country, have no mutual acquaintances or really anything to go by at all really.

I mean what's a relationship without the physical side? I have an incredibly close friend, like a brother practically, probably closer to him and than any girlfriend I've had. Think Turk and JD, only thing that separates us from a relationship is we don't fuck each others brains out.

Also part of the fun of a relationship is about experiencing life together. Long distance all you have is telling each other about your lives. You can't go out with them on dates. Sorry if this comes across as offensive, I just get annoyed when people try to act like wanting a physical aspect to a relationship somehow lessens it.

nobody is acting like that at all. I want the physical aspect, but it's not an option right now. And maybe over the short term someone can lie, but not over the long term. long-distance relationships require patience and honesty, and isn't that what every relationship is built on?

While I see what everyone else is saying, it is easy to lie when the other person can't see how you are physically reacting. That being said, don't listen to them, if you are invested in this relationship, then good for you, you survived the distance, and then you had a good first meeting. Keep at it.

For your question I was in a long distance relationship, about 6 hours apart. We started the long distance more than a year into our relationship (I graduated college and couldn't find a job so I had to move back home, and she was at her home for the summer) She ended up dumping me because there wasn't enough romance in our long distance relationship (I didn't send her flowers, gifts, or show up at her house romantically unannounced were her complaints) and that I couldn't spoil her the way she deserves. So long-distance didn't work out for me. but that doesn't mean it won't work out for you.