Long Distance Relationships

[King of the Sandbox]

I married mine.

Yup, met her on a D&D forum, too. She was in England, I was here in the States. She came to visit for a week, I went to visit for a month. She came to visit for 3 months, I went to visit for 4 months... during which I proposed. She accepted, we fought our way though the paperwork and immigration, and viola! Happy as clams. ^-^

Suck it, naysayers.

Me and my fiancee are currently doing the paperwork and immigration battle. It's refreshing to know that someone's had success.

Never give up, my friend. And remember, if in doubt, or you even suspect shenanigans, contact your congressman! That helped us immensely. Also, take many, many, many, many, many photos.

But congrats on the engagement, and good luck!

(Also, what countries are involved? I'm assuming one of you is American since you referred to my post.)

 

[88chaz88]

I married mine.

Yup, met her on a D&D forum, too. She was in England, I was here in the States. She came to visit for a week, I went to visit for a month. She came to visit for 3 months, I went to visit for 4 months... during which I proposed. She accepted, we fought our way though the paperwork and immigration, and viola! Happy as clams. ^-^

Suck it, naysayers.

Me and my fiancee are currently doing the paperwork and immigration battle. It's refreshing to know that someone's had success.

Never give up, my friend. And remember, if in doubt, or you even suspect shenanigans, contact your congressman! That helped us immensely. Also, take many, many, many, many, many photos.

But congrats on the engagement, and good luck!

(Also, what countries are involved? I'm assuming one of you is American since you referred to my post.)

She's Canadian, I'm British. Thankfully we have the many, many, many photos. Thanks for the luck though, from what I've heard it seems we're going to need it.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

My gf and I started off in a long distance thing, and we've been together almost a year and a half now.

There's nothing wrong with it if you keep regular contact and make the occasional trip to see each other. Sure, it's hard, but if you've really developed strong feelings for each other, and keep regular contact, it's easy enough to make it through. As for the not being able to "be there for you" if something bad happens. Sure, it's true. They can't actually be there if something goes down unless they make the trip. But when my mom got cancer late last year and passed away earlier this year, my gf was amazingly supportive, and even offered to fly out to me. I'd have told her to come if I would have thought we'd be in any shape to let her stay with us, but we spent so much time in the hospital, she would have been miserable.

Just because they might not be able to be there physically, doesn't mean that they can't be just as supportive somewhere else.

 

[Echo7]

I'm in an internet-relationship that just went longdistance, weirdly enough.

I'm swedish and she's french.

I met her on omegle out of all places, the day after last christmas. We started talking on MSN and skype that night and we didn't sleep that night. We felt this connection almost immediately. Repeat the sleepless nights and one week later, we fell in love. We've been talking on MSN/skype and camming daily since we met and now we consider us as a couple, without even meeting eachother.

Just a couple of weeks after we met, she applied to a rotary-program with her school to study a year in Sweden, we even discovered that she would end up in the city where I was going to move to. She would arrive the same time as I moved in. It all seemed perfect.

But she did a grave mistake. The rotary found out why she wanted to study here and they have really strict rules (No dating, no drinking, etc.). Without the ability to cancel it, since she already paid for it, she was sent to Brazil instead. She arrived a week ago. So far we've only heard from eachother through emails. Hopefully we will atleast be able to talk some on the weekends.

So right now I sit in my new apartment of two weeks. It's hard to think that she would be here right now.

It's going to be a long year.

 

[RacheyD]

Good luck to you, man. I was in one for about two years and we're together now but if one of us had to move away now, I would probably break-up!

Every minute seems so precious and it's easy to blow big things out of proportion. Do you guys schedule when you talk? This caused a lot of stress with my dude and me because we were both super busy and something would always come up. Maybe just try to leave yourselves signed into Facebook when you're at home and if the other person comes online, then you can just do a quick Video Chat Rounds (http://apps.facebook.com/chatrounds/ ). That way you can talk for a few minutes, but multiple times a day. it might a lot less pressure. I can understand why people fight in LDRs...but the more freakouts you have, the worse it is...:/

 

[ppsh41]

I have tried one, It doesn't work. No matter how strong of a relationship you had before, in a matter of time it will deteriorate. There really is no way for a relationship to progress from a long distance. If anything it regresses, because at least for me I over analyze everything and begin to worry and then the relationship deteriorates because what is broken truly cant be fixed unless you are with each other in person.

 

[Robert Ewing]

Yeah, a long distance relationship defeats many of the points required to keep human affection alive. And that is affection itself. The internet helps with this somewhat, but it only postpones the inevitable. The relationship will break down, and it will never, ever match up to a short distance relationship.

But they have been known to work on occasion. But don't let that be any means for hope. It's likely it will die out.

 

[Slash Dementia]

After hearing reading some of the people on this forum's successful long distance relationships, it gives me more hope that the one that I have with my girlfriend won't be doomed to end.

After a three-year long distance relationship with an ex, that had many lies, distrusts, and well, the lack of a good maturity level, that on and off relationship ended in a lot of hurt. I couldn't get over it at all, and nothing seemed to help. I met this other girl, who was a friend of a friend who lived just a few hours away, and I used her as something to forget my ex, and it worked for a bit, but I didn't love her at all. She cheated on me, and we broke up. At this point, I promised myself that I would never be in a long distance relationship ever again, and I kept to that.

A friend, that had been with me since I met my first ex (she was always one of the most important people in my life), was also an online friend. I never thought about her in any way other than just plain friendship--never. It was something that just clicked in my mind--a realization: I love her. It was really difficult to get this through my head. I loved her. I was scared and I was stupid. She didn't love me at that moment. I felt horrible, and I stopped talking to her (stupid move).

Six months later, we speak again. I'm still madly in love with her, and I had never felt this way. We talk for a few months. She teases me that I love her. She goes on a vacation with her friends. She finds out that she loves me, too. It takes a while, and then we start our relationship.

It's been really difficult. I want to be with her really badly, but we've decided to wait two years (from now). We're both happy, and willing to dedicate ourselves to this. We've been together for a year and almost four months. It takes patience, dedication, and lots of work, but she's worth it.

 

[aba1]

My cuz married a guy from ireland and she ended up moving there for college and never came back to Canada. They can work its just really rare.