losing my virginity and how i feel used

[Findlebob]

Nothing wrong with valueing your virginity, I regret losing mine to a girl I didnt love.

 

[RyanBishop]

best learn to separate sex from lovemaking by now... I mean pleeease.... c'mon now who here wouldn't like a little sexin' up no-strings-attached style? provided that you are not looking for (or already having) anything serious - it's a grade A male WIN brah...

 

[codynewill]

You should've known that hooking up drunk isn't going to lead to a "meaningful" first time.

 

[Drakmeire]

First time always sucks but it leads to more confidence and opens the door to many great new experiences. Studies have shown that after you lose your virginity you become a better public speaker and show less signs of depression. Also I'm thinking about this song.
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Also, Regardless of how you may feel about it, Sex is just an act, no deep emotional meaning beside what you give it. don't be disappointed in your first time, just think of it as a first step.

 

[Katana314]

This is why I will never drink beer.

 

[Macgyvercas]

Ofcourse people can create discussions.

The Thread Derailment Game is rather fun...

Also, kinda sucks for the OP. I just hope for his sake he doesn't get friend zoned after all this.

 

[Febel]

There is the first time that happens, and there is the first time you want it.
Physical virginity and mental virginity.

Which one is more important to you? Take your pick, take a drink and memorize the thing that happened as a good experiance on the details as what not to do on the first time you want really want too.

I agree, I lost my physical virginity at 16 but until I slept with someone I actually cared about (at age 19) I still pretty much considered myself a virgin.

 

[Princess Rose]

her best friend, who im also good mates with said "to be honest, i dont think she really wants to get into a relationship at the moment" so yeah thats it, and it sucks. Most people would probably be happy with this but im not, because i wanted a bit more than just a simple fuck.

Call her.

Her best friend might know how she feels, or she might be entirely wrong. The only way you'll know for certain is if you call the girl and talk to her.

 

[Sneezeguard]

My first time sucked, the guy kinda pressured me into it but I didn't really want to go that far but I'm quite shy and submissive so I gave in. He kinda used me and it was lame. It put me a little off causal sex with guys I don't really know.

 

[SilentCom]

Disregard sex

Play video games

yep, this is my new catchphrase...


Anyways, not to sound like a complete dick but you should have been a little more careful with who and how you lose your virginity. Sex isn't just an action centered upon pleasure, it's an action centered upon love. I know, this sounds cheesy but frankly it seems that people are more happy together doing the deed when it's out of honest love and not out of intoxication.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

I've had a one-nighter and...well, it sucked. The sex part was alright but the after part where you realize it's not going to last...that sucks. I feel for you, too bad it worked out like that. You'll find someone who wants to stick with you if you keep at it.

 

[ramboondiea]

you shouldnt feel used, the first time is not anymore special then the 100th sex is just sex,it cold happen again or you coud end up in a serious relationship it makes no difference, but dont feel bad about it

 

[robman1130]

be thankful that you had some say in the matter

 

[Daumantas Kasperavicius]

OMG really ? dude just be happy . You had sex with 1 girl , do you realize how much you will be losing out on if you just stayed with her ? Experience the wonderful meanless sex life, and THEN settle. Really for a 20 year old you are pretty immature

 

[The Hero Killer]

Dont feel too bad, atleast your first time wasnt with a stripper. That will really make you feel like crap. And no I did not expect nor pay for it.

 

[FernandoV]

How come it took you that long to lose it? o.o But, if you wanted more than a drunken fuck might've not been the best place to start.

 

[Rawne1980]

I was 13 when I lost mine to a 16 year old in her back garden.

Can't say it was an important thing for me. Not only was it my first time, I was 13 and not very good at it.

I will say don't keep calling/texting or trying to get hold of her in any way. Makes you look needy and some girls really don't like that.

Other than that i'll follow other sentiments here and give you an e-clap on the back.

 

[FernandoV]

How come it took you that long to lose it? o.o But, if you wanted more than a drunken fuck might've not been the best place to start.

 

[Wilko316]

Dude that's how some girls operate, so you'd best get used to that.
Also she was drunk, we all do stuff we wouldn't normally when intoxicated, I know it's not nice but it's the truth.
You'll get over it my friend, if she doesn't want to go out with you then I'm sure it's her loss.