Love on the Internet?

[Stasisesque]

So my fellow escapees do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone on the internet?

I fucking well hope not. Otherwise, I'm going to feel like even more of a loser.

Yes, another relationship thread, another depressing answer. Get used to it.

That would only be depressing for people who cared about you, thus negating the depressing nature of the comment.

It will be perhaps more depressing if I can get every one of these threads to spill over into a flame war.

Until then, eight more days, eight more days, eight more days...

You're not going to manage it by making yourself out to be a woe is me, my life sucks character. You'll just attract the internet hippies who want to save you, and folks like me who find it tedious.

You want flame wars, you've got to start attacking individuals' opinions, not the general consensus.

 

[alittlepepper]

At the risk of sounding cheesy: With Love, anything is possible. In a way, it's actually a bit better of a judge of love being online. Since you basically have to fall in love with their personality and you only have conversation to get to know each other. The removal of the physical aspect (no, not just intimacy, but even a hug) really demands focus on the more mental parts of a relationship.
It's hard, but not impossible. I have developed friendships with people online so strong that I would not hesitate to say I love them; I see no reason to think other versions of love are out of the question.
I've never experienced it myself. But there are plenty of people that meet online and go on to live long lives together.
So, OT: Yes, it's possible, and no, it isn't always just about lust. (Often. Not always. )

 

[SimuLord]

I met my ex-wife on the Internet. We talked online for almost 7 months before we met in person. Once we met in person it took all of about a half hour for us to pick up where our growing love online had us. The real-life manifestation of that intimacy was swift and decisive.

We were together for 6 years. Married for 5. Sure she eventually left me (and make no mistake about it, I flat-out fucking failed her as a husband, as a provider, and as a man---she must've felt horribly trapped watching me struggle to find myself), but that wasn't because we met on the Internet.

 

[WorldCritic]

I guess it is possible to fall in love on the internet, but I haven't seen any legitimate cases so I don't really believe it. One case I'm reminded of was a girl I was friends with recently made some new friends over some forums. One of her new friends after a while confessed she was in love with her. This completely freaked out my friend, but about a month later the girl admitted that she hadn't really been in love. She was just bicurious.

 

[Marter]

I'm going to say that it definitely can happen.

 

[viranimus]

Well the "love doesnt exist" notion aside you need to realize something.

Its not very likely. Part of what makes "love" is the acceptance of ones personallity. Thing about the internet is that people, regardless of intention, or location always put their best face forward and work to portray an image they wish to convey.

Its not real possible to fall in love with someone when they have the ability to time their words and measure their responses, as that love would in essence be a lie.

Simply put, you dont KNOW the person on the other side of the screen. Hell, even in face to face interpersonal relationships you dont entirely know someone for the exact same reason. Love is supposed to be based on trust, and you cant base a relationship on trust when youve fell for the perception someone is trying to convey.

 

[JLML]

Well, of course.

I know that person only through the internet, yet it's the single most important life-form on this planet. At least to me that is. If you want to know my story, feel free to pm me or something, and I'll answer sooner or later. (would write it now if it wasn't because it's late and I have to get up early tomorrow xD)

I want to hear more

Well, I guess I'll tell you more then.

That person is someone I once met on a chat-roulette site called "Omegle" (I'm pretty sure there are several here who have used it. And thus, several know it's filled with 98% trolls and pervs.) about a year ago. We chatted for a few hours or so (if I remember it right that is) and exchanged email/msn. We kept on chatting a lot (and then I mean a LOT, more or less every day, I wouldn't be surprised if we're currently totalling in on over a few hundred thousand messages sent.) and found out we had a real lot in common. After a while we probably knew each other better than our families. We are pretty much like-minded in everything, with the exception of religion... (I really don't believe in any real religion stuff, and don't have that much good to say about any of the big ones out there. That person is a Muslim, and a fairly religious one at that.)

Anyway, we simply like (and of course love) each other a lot, and I'm currently planning on making a trip to visit that person in just over a year. The only reason I haven't done so already is because it's just over 10 000 kilometres from here to where that person lives, if you go by a straight line. =/

And that was my story, or at least some of it. Hope you enjoyed your reading.

 

[Rofl-Mayo]

It is highly possible. I here of couples like that all the time. Be careful that you don't set up a date with your father though. That could be awkward...

EDIT: Meeting face to face with your father in a restaurant could be terrible.

 

[deus-ex-machina]

I think it's possible. I don't know if there is a distinct lack of maturity involved sometimes, pouring your heart and soul into a commitment with someone you have not even seen. But then again I think it is possible to almost be in full contact with someone you have never touched with things like video phone and webcam.

After some experiences from the past though, I think it is somewhat incomplete to be in a relationship where you cannot truthfully divulge everything about yourself, which is harder over the internet. You can love someone over the internet, but to be loved, I think you have to be yourself, otherwise the other person is not in love with you.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I met my boyfriend online, we met in real life and now we're living together.
I'd like to give a big middle finger to anyone who doubted us, or people who there's no hope for love on the web.
Saying that, I hate the idea of match.com. It's like shopping for someone you like :/

 

[Pariah87]

Well well, a relationship thread I can actually post something in that's worthwhile.

There have been three girls in my life that I have actually found attractive and cared about. All of them I met online. I used to be a suprisingly open person and was more myself without having to worry about the big fat ogre thing going on. I never went in with the intention of developing feelings for these people, infact after the first I was very against the idea of it happening again.

When you talk to people for hours and hours every day, over time you will grow some affection for them, usually several months after first talking to each other. I was lead to believe they had some feelings for me. Seeing how they all ended it could have just been a game on their part. I like to think that my personality, before I became the cynical bastard I am now, was actually attractive, it was just my physical appearance which let me down, that and in the real world I can't talk to the opposite gender without at least 5 times the daily alocohol limit in me.

Now, I no longer get close to people anywhere, this place is a good example. I post in threads but make no effort to actually get to know any other members, it's just easier to keep yourself detatched, especially where distances are involved.

To sum up. Feelings are definately possible online, even those which can feel like love. Love itself I don't think is possible, the groundwork can certainly be set in place but unless you are still found attractive and interesting when meeting in the real world, it'll turn to platonic love real quick. Those who have got married after meeting online got lucky in the sense that both parties still wanted to fuck each other after meeting face to face.

 

[Nanaki316]

Well, of course.

I know that person only through the internet, yet it's the single most important life-form on this planet. At least to me that is. If you want to know my story, feel free to pm me or something, and I'll answer sooner or later. (would write it now if it wasn't because it's late and I have to get up early tomorrow xD)

I want to hear more

Well, I guess I'll tell you more then.

That person is someone I once met on a chat-roulette site called "Omegle" (I'm pretty sure there are several here who have used it. And thus, several know it's filled with 98% trolls and pervs.) about a year ago. We chatted for a few hours or so (if I remember it right that is) and exchanged email/msn. We kept on chatting a lot (and then I mean a LOT, more or less every day, I wouldn't be surprised if we're currently totalling in on over a few hundred thousand messages sent.) and found out we had a real lot in common. After a while we probably knew each other better than our families. We are pretty much like-minded in everything, with the exception of religion... (I really don't believe in any real religion stuff, and don't have that much good to say about any of the big ones out there. That person is a Muslim, and a fairly religious one at that.)

Anyway, we simply like (and of course love) each other a lot, and I'm currently planning on making a trip to visit that person in just over a year. The only reason I haven't done so already is because it's just over 10 000 kilometres from here to where that person lives, if you go by a straight line. =/

And that was my story, or at least some of it. Hope you enjoyed your reading.

Aww that's sweet x

 

[Julianking93]

Absolutely.
The internet is an interactive medium where you connect with different people.
To some, they see it as just a distraction from the real world.
But to others, it's just as good, if not better than the real world, so real feelings will emerge.
I think it's possible that within that, one can find love.

 

[Madara XIII]

Its quite possible, just don't come running to me when you get to play 'hide the hotdog' with a 3 times murder convict.

That game is always best played with Mustard....Wow I really should stop remembering my Childhood..

 

[Julianking93]

Exactly. For example, I love you Julian. Wait no! Delete post, delete po-

I knew it!!! You can't hide those feelings for me, Fargo!

 

[Julianking93]

I can damn well try! *opens bottle of Tentacle Grape*

You can't run from it forever.

Just know that every time you drink Tentacle Grape... you'll be thinking of me ^-^

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

I'd say it's certainly possible, though in my case I would have to be able to actually see and be in the presence of a girl to love her. That's not to say that I couldn't meet someone on the internet that I would eventually fall in love with, but I don't think it's a likely scenari,o at least for me.

 

[Julianking93]

Not if I associate it with something overwhelmingly disturbing! Now, what can I associate a drink called TENTACLE GRAPE with that's pretty disturbing.. Hmm.. There's nothing even remotely weird, hentai-y or octopus on girl related that I could associate something like TENTACLE GRAPE with. Sigh, I guess I'll just have to settle with you.

Settle? Bullshit, you're lucky to think about me with such an amazingly nonhentai-y soda

 

[Julianking93]

I meant settle in the most affectionate of ways. I could easily settle with Marter or Sinclose, but no, I chose to settle with you. GOD DAMN IT CAN YOU NOT TAKE A COMPLIMENT? I'M SICK OF THIS CONSTANT BRINGING ME DOWN! I CAN'T LIVE LIKE THIS! YOU DON'T EVEN HELP COOK DINNER! ONE DAY I WISH YOU WOULD COOK THE DINNER, YOU SELFISH FUCK! *runs off crying*

*sigh* Jesus Christ, every goddamn time with this shit.

Can you not just have a normal period for fuck's sake or do you always have to be like this?

 

[Julianking93]

It's not my fault you slept with my non-existent sister!

Well at least your imaginary sister expresses her feelings, you passive aggressive *****!