Love

[Biosophilogical]

Okay, I'm a 16 year old. Among my age group there seems to be this massive belief among the couples that they are in love, and a belief among the singles that at 16 you are probably too hormonal to know what love is. And, for the most part, I agree, we/I are far too young and inexperienced to know what love is without having experienced it. So what I want to know, from those escapists (escapians?) who have found love is this; what is love? Is it a sexualised friendship; a deep emotional dependence on another person to the point where it aches to think of them leaving for any period of time; a mutual respect that exists independent of lust, but normally accompanies it?

 

[blipblop]

no it´s more like a cookie to your coffie

 

[JokerCrowe]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

I actually find myself asking that very same question. I don't think I've ever "been in love". At least not the kind of love that makes you stomach churn and gives you cotton mouth. But then again, maybe that is just how I feel when I'm in love? I mean I don't think there's a universal definition of (romantic) love. You just sort of feel it.
So basically what I'm saying is: I dunno, lol.

 

[Simalacrum]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

All you need is lo-*hit with a boulder*

 

[Wutaiflea]

The only way to answer that question is to say that it's all of those things.

I used to think it was pretty annoying when I was your age and everyone would claim to be in love and that their teen-y puppy love would last forever etc, but I also see that some of that over-dramatic stuff is part of developing an understanding of love and relationships.
In some ways, playing at relationships and puppy-love are forms of experimenting- finding out what you can and can't compromise on, and what's most important to you in a relationship.

It can also be pretty hard to judge. One of my oldest friends was 14 when she got together with her boyfriend. Now they're both 26 and still together.

 

[Sonofadiddly]

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Love is many different things to different people. Love exists apart from lust, of course, because you have platonic love. Romantic love is love with sexual desire involved. Love is not dependence.

The moment I know I'm in love is the moment when I realize that any situation in the universe can be improved by having that person around. Of course, I feel the same way about ice cream.

 

[Paksenarrion]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

All you need is lo-*hit with a boulder*

I would do anything for lo- *run over by Meatloaf on his motorcycle*

 

[Jedamethis]

Buggered if I know. I don't feel I really need to know, so I don't think about it much.

 

[KingTiger]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

All you need is lo-*hit with a boulder*

I would do anything for lo- *run over by Meatloaf on his motorcycle*

You three made my day xD

As for what is love? I am really not sure what love is but I think it might be the emotional attachment to the other person.

 

[SimuLord]

What is love? Baby don't hu-*hit with a brick*

All you need is lo-*hit with a boulder*

I would do anything for lo- *run over by Meatloaf on his motorcycle*

When I fall in lo- *haunted by Nat King Cole's ghost*

 

[Luftwaffles]

You really wanna know what love is?
Well its really quite simple...its kinda like
Gonna find my baby gonna hold her tight.............

 

[Astoria]

Love can't really be explained in words but if youre in it you know it, they know it and everyone around you knows it. I don't think anyone under 16 understands it but of course there may be exceptions.

 

[Frungy]

Physiologically "love" is a chemical reaction created by a complex interaction of pheromones and social conditioning. It lasts anywhere from a couple of weeks to a couple of months and shows up nicely in elevated levels of certain neurotransmitters (brain hormones) in the brain that create the feeling of euphoria, and commonly has side-effects like a complete lack of common sense and a strong desire from your friends to ding you upside the head. In extreme cases bad love poetry may be involved.

In the long term love is a deep emotional bond you share with someone and it comes in lots of different flavours. You can love your friends and if they call up at 1am to ask you to help them bury a body you'd do it with no questions asked. You can love your partner and do and put up with shit you'd never put up with from anyone else. Speaking of shit you could love your children enough to change revoltingly dirty nappies (diapers to you yanks) without complaining for years on end, and putting up with their tantrums right up into their 20's without strangling them... much.

Does that answer your question?

 

[RobCoxxy]

First of all, fuck off with the relationship threads.

Secondly, love is a cankersore; a disgusting, despicable, offensive, sickening emotion which rots the brain, which destroys the body.

I'm detecting that a certain someone has had a slightly bad experience with the warm and fuzzy side of life?

 

[Zhukov]

"Love is giving someone the ability to hurt you terribly and then hoping that they don't."

 

[thom_cat_]

Well I've experienced what I like to think is love.
I'd take it to be a sudden realisation that the person you're interacting with is completely fantastic. It's not rational. You'll overlook their flaws, acknowledge them, but ultimately if they had their jaw in back-to-front you would see something in that would add to you liking them.
You'll just start liking everything they do and how they do it, from walking to sneezing, you'll like how they do it.

It's hard to explain without experiencing it, but I'd say it's a very very irrational way of liking someone. I don't think it builds, it just hits you.

So now I'm still in love with my ex even though we split 6 months ago... life sucks.

 

[Lusty]

Only came in here to do the Haddoway joke and was ninja'd by over an hour. The shame.

 

[Nieroshai]

You can love someone you are attracted to, but attraction is not love. Here's how it works for me.
I love my mom. I love my brothers. I love my dog. I love my friends, to a lesser extent. I also happen to love the girl I became attracted to, and befriended, and plan on marrying. Love is a bond, not a feeling. You can love someone and be mad at them. You can love without sex(obviously or we'd have an incest epidemic). Love is what that person means to you. 16-year-olds are capable of love, but also VERY capable of mistaking the feelings of animal attraction for love. As are we all. I think a big reason the divorce rate's so high is because some who marry for "love" married for a feeling that had nothing to do with love. Sex? Comfort? Dependency?

 

[thahat]

Oh and one more thing do not get your definition of love from Disney (or most movies really but especially not Disney).

took me a looooong time to get my GF off the disney standard XD
disney: giving girls disillusions since 1962 XD

love.. hmm, the feeling that your safe and happy with the other person. but with a sprinkle of never knowing whats going t happen next.
and since im a guy, a generous helping of physical attraction.

something like that, but thats more or less only the start XD

 

[RobCoxxy]

First of all, fuck off with the relationship threads.

Secondly, love is a cankersore; a disgusting, despicable, offensive, sickening emotion which rots the brain, which destroys the body.

I'm detecting that a certain someone has had a slightly bad experience with the warm and fuzzy side of life?

RAK

I have a feeling you don't like life.
1. Fuck off. No one asked you. You could've simply avoided clicking tthat little button and saved everyone including you a major headache.
2. Either get therapy or become a hermit. Meaning: fix what's wrong with you or leave society. Hating the only thing that keeps society sane is PROBABLY a sign that there's something wrong with you.

What your statement says about you:
1. You got spurned once, and you're a crybaby.
2. You think it's cool to act like a surly bastard. Take my word for it, it's not.
3. You're emo/misanthropic. See above.

Being a surly bastard just because you've been scorned or hurt is not the way forward.
I know I'm a cynical, acerbic bastard, but that's me. It's lighthearted cynicism, yours is misguided.

Don't think you're the only person to have been hurt like that. In the past four years, I've gone through plenty of harsh breakups but It hasn't turned me into a vile-spitting prick.

Simulord's been through a LOT worse, and he's still the nicest person on the internet.