Marriage
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Evilbunny said:
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if it was me I'd want a big wedding with friends and family...~starts day dreaming about it~
hhmm..any way =[ her loss! i mean its a big day for you both i don't understand why women turn into such weirdo's..meh
I'm not one for believing in love that lasts for the rest of one's life, I'm not religious, and I would probably get bored of waking up next to the same bloke for the rest of my life. I'm a wanderer at heart.
I'm not sure if I could do it.
I'm not sure if I could do it.
About the religious rates, I'm also not quite sure. I've also heard about 50% across the board, but for general Christianity I've heard about 50-60%. Which as a Christian myself is pretty embarrassing. I go to a small Christian Liberal Arts college, around 1800 traditional day school students, and from what I heard from the administration and faculty is that currently 60% of our students come from divorced families. So, that may be, although the demographic for that isn't the best as my school's demographic is is mostly affluent Caucasians, with a protestant denominational background. Which excludes a good portion of what constitutes "Christianity". I don't really have any other information on other religious groups, not even anecdotal, so I won't really comment here.Jak The Great said:
Yes I would agree, lack of commitment, although that doesn't necessarily imply that each spouse has no commitment, i.e. in the case of extenuating circumstances such as child abuse or spousal abuse. Or at times when one partner gets to the point where one sees the other as "unlivable", or a pain in the ass to live with, which would be my own parents, although from my experience in most those cases one or both of the partners just needs to grow the hell up. It seems like true loving commitment past just "O she/he is sick today" or "We're going through a little bit of a tough spot", is pretty rare, at least from the communities I grew up in.
So, from that sense it would make sense that cohabitation is the answer, except for the fact from my social studies courses citing cohabitation as a factor for increased likelihood of divorce, if that couple eventually gets married. So in that sense, it's either one or the other, not to say that you are destined to become a statistic. That and all the pain and problems divorce brings, emotional, social, and financial for the family and community. So, I dunno. I don't know how long the average cohabiting relationship lasts, other than purely anecdotal evidence, so with the information I have they aren't very comparable.
And... back to the original topic. I would like to get married someday. It's part of what I believe in and I just love the idea of marriage, from the way I understand it. A solemn vow of commitment to a person, not only them being committed to you, but I have the opportunity to be committed to someone in a loving relationship and take care of them. Kids come eventually too
That and the whole legal bonuses are pretty cool too, although they don't really factor into the decision. Now I just have to put my relationship back together I got married the day before I turned 20. It was over 3 moths after I turned 21. The fact is that it takes two things to make a marriage work: respect and maturity. My ex and I were too young and immature to see past our own personal space and that led to a lot of friction between us. In places where our viewpoints and experiences differed, we had no respect for the other's opinions and were constantly trying to ram our own down the other's throat. In the end, she bolted.
skip forward ten years, and I see life and myself differently now. Only now do I think that I could be a good husband. I've learned to respect the views of others and have the maturity to see past my own nose and see where my partner is coming from.
Everyone does their best these days to avoid shouldering responsibility and commitment. We try our best to go as long as we can without being shackled down, but as one grows older, you begin to see the wisdom and advantages of the security and stability which marriage provides, but only if both partners are truly ready.
skip forward ten years, and I see life and myself differently now. Only now do I think that I could be a good husband. I've learned to respect the views of others and have the maturity to see past my own nose and see where my partner is coming from.
Everyone does their best these days to avoid shouldering responsibility and commitment. We try our best to go as long as we can without being shackled down, but as one grows older, you begin to see the wisdom and advantages of the security and stability which marriage provides, but only if both partners are truly ready.
I doubt i'll get married. A bit too normal i'd say. Also i'm quite unsociable because there aren't much people i like. I'm afraid of any type of social rejection. I have asked out one girl but i knew she liked me so i new she would say yes. People are socially restricting, especially when your interests can be seen as socially unacceptable. I'm into anime, manga, and yugioh trading card game. I read the new scientist magazine weekly. I wouldn't call forum posting and video games a hobby because i use it to pass the time. I will not stop doing things like watching anime because of someone else.
Marriage is not one of my goals.
Marriage is not one of my goals.
Congrats to your sister
I, myself, however although i'm only 15 don't get the point of being married, as childish as it sounds. I mean if you love each other, then you love each other. That's That.
So unless i'm swayed by some girl or guy into getting married i'll probably go it alone
I, myself, however although i'm only 15 don't get the point of being married, as childish as it sounds. I mean if you love each other, then you love each other. That's That.
So unless i'm swayed by some girl or guy into getting married i'll probably go it alone
lol, she says that too, its funny that no matter how many times we would lose contact or start dating someone else we would still end up together...i should write a screenplay..NOTEBOOK PT2!! lolJoselyn said:That's so sweetDrummerstixz said:
