Previously I had posted here about a girl situation that ended up resolving in me getting a date. I dated her for a while and ultimately things didn't really work out. That was about a month ago. Since that didn't work out I now have to begin searching for another girl. The problem is I don't really know how to meet people. I was fortunate enough to share a class with that previous girl, thus making finding her and having an excuse to talk to her relatively easy. I don't really have that luxury now.
Perhaps I should elaborate a bit. I'm by no means socially introverted or anything like that. I'm a college freshman and when I came up here I had a few friends from my home town who went to the same school a year ahead of me. They had already built up social circles and I kind of just assimilated into their groups. Being nerds however, these groups are total sausage fests. Now don't get me wrong, these guys are my friends and I enjoy hanging out with them but they do not give me any connections to women. Our group is rather large and we mostly end up doing our own thing, playing video games, card games, board games, watching movies, etc. We do this all within our group. Even when we decide to drink we end up doing it with our group, not at a party or place where we might meet new people.
Essentially by spending all my time with these guys, I never get to go and meet new people. Now the obvious solution would seem to be something like convince them to go do something else or blow them off entirely to go do something different but even then I don't really know what to do. I don't want to go to a frat party alone. Attempting to find my way home drunk and alone does not sound like a good idea. In addition to that, I doubt I'd really end up meeting anyone I'd be interested in for a serious relationship at a frat party. And other than that I really don't know where to meet people. I tried some speed dating thing that they ran right before Valentine's Day and met precisely zero interesting people (impressively low self esteem there).
I really don't know what's acceptable behavior. Sometimes when I go to buy my lunch I see a cute girl eating alone in the dining hall and I contemplate asking if I could join her but I'm not sure if that's an outrageous thing to do. If someone tried to do that to me I'd probably get irritated. Other than that though I'm totally out of ideas. I participated in some clubs for a while and didn't meet anyone there (and the only one I still actively do is Humans Vs Zombies cause it's awesome. Not really any single chicks there though).
Anyway, conclusion and TL;DR, I really want to meet a new girl and haven't really had any success in doing so. I don't know where I could go and just strike up conversation with random people. I don't think my standards are absurdly high, I just don't know how to really first meet these people. I don't want to be so ronery anymore.
Perhaps I should elaborate a bit. I'm by no means socially introverted or anything like that. I'm a college freshman and when I came up here I had a few friends from my home town who went to the same school a year ahead of me. They had already built up social circles and I kind of just assimilated into their groups. Being nerds however, these groups are total sausage fests. Now don't get me wrong, these guys are my friends and I enjoy hanging out with them but they do not give me any connections to women. Our group is rather large and we mostly end up doing our own thing, playing video games, card games, board games, watching movies, etc. We do this all within our group. Even when we decide to drink we end up doing it with our group, not at a party or place where we might meet new people.
Essentially by spending all my time with these guys, I never get to go and meet new people. Now the obvious solution would seem to be something like convince them to go do something else or blow them off entirely to go do something different but even then I don't really know what to do. I don't want to go to a frat party alone. Attempting to find my way home drunk and alone does not sound like a good idea. In addition to that, I doubt I'd really end up meeting anyone I'd be interested in for a serious relationship at a frat party. And other than that I really don't know where to meet people. I tried some speed dating thing that they ran right before Valentine's Day and met precisely zero interesting people (impressively low self esteem there).
I really don't know what's acceptable behavior. Sometimes when I go to buy my lunch I see a cute girl eating alone in the dining hall and I contemplate asking if I could join her but I'm not sure if that's an outrageous thing to do. If someone tried to do that to me I'd probably get irritated. Other than that though I'm totally out of ideas. I participated in some clubs for a while and didn't meet anyone there (and the only one I still actively do is Humans Vs Zombies cause it's awesome. Not really any single chicks there though).
Anyway, conclusion and TL;DR, I really want to meet a new girl and haven't really had any success in doing so. I don't know where I could go and just strike up conversation with random people. I don't think my standards are absurdly high, I just don't know how to really first meet these people. I don't want to be so ronery anymore.
