Meeting Siblings?

[Imthatguy]

I'm very unsure how to ask this but I need some advice on this big time.

I have a younger (9-11 I'm not really sure) half-sister that I've never actually, but recently befriended on facebook, anyway what do I do? How do I introduce myself? Find Out what intrests her? ect?

(Original Captcha was it happens. Dam you captcha almost making me cry)

Posted in off topic originally forgot about advice forum

 

[Vegosiux]

First of all, does she know you're related? If she does, that makes things slightly easier. Otherwise, I don't know, ask parents to introduce you? Ask the parent you both have in common if you can drop by some day to say hello, assuming you don't live too far apart?

 

[Imthatguy]

Yes she knows we're related but shes in Delaware I'm in Georgia and my father (the connecting parent) is in Florida....

 

[Jonluw]

See, here's what you do: You drive to her neighbourhood in a windowless van. Then use the car's stereo or a cd player of your own to play ice cream truck music as you drive around.
When the children inevitably flock to the van, there should be plenty of opportunity to pick her out and pull her into the van where you can introduce yourself and bond.
[sub]Okay, don't actually do that.[/sub]

In all seriousness though: I don't have any experience with a scenario like this myself, but at that age I'd just ask her parents what her interests are first and then maybe arrange for your two families to meet so that you can meet her and talk for a bit in a relaxed environment.
It depends on how far away she lives though.
Arranging a family get together simply for the reason that you want to meet your half-sister might be slightly impractical if she lives far away.

If the parent that you share with her is still around both of you, you could always go with them on their next trip to visit her.

Or you could just plain tell your or her parents that you'd like to meet your sister.
I'm sure their advice on how to make that happen will be far more helpful than that of a bunch of strangers on the internet.

 

[darkfox85]

Hmmm. I have similar experiences. I have an older brother and a younger sister whom I?ve never met. My own existence is probably on behalf of paternal infidelity but I?m not sure.

I?m 27 now, but when I learnt the truth all those years ago, it struck me from the dynamic that I?m the long-lost brother and theirs is the true family. The contact over FB that you have is far more than I ever did (or want to do, or even can.) But I do wonder sometimes.

What exactly is the dynamic of your situation? But regardless, if she?s that young it might be better to contact the parents first and shoot the breeze. They?ll probably answer your questions before you?ve even asked them.

 

[Imthatguy]

See, here's what you do: You drive to her neighbourhood in a windowless van. Then use the car's stereo or a cd player of your own to play ice cream truck music as you drive around.
When the children inevitably flock to the van, there should be plenty of opportunity to pick her out and pull her into the van where you can introduce yourself and bond.
[sub]Okay, don't actually do that.[/sub]

I am unamused. However this is a very odd situation.

Anyway my father is currently suing for custody. Its fairly likely he'll win because his parental rights are being infringed but until then its unlikely we'll meet together.

As far as the dynamic goes I'm a teen pregnancy and I didn't meet him until I was 14 we became very close however but before I could actually visit him his marriage imploded due to her mom getting pushy with her LDS beliefs. He meet another woman and had my little brother (shes meet him) a year or so later. I also lived with them for the previous 2 years until work forced me to leave.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Why is a girl that young on Facebook? :s

I'd only talk to her for now. It may be a bit awkward for you to meet up if you, her and your father are all in different places.
If you went to visit, it'd only be her that you know, correct? Unless you know her mother too, I'd find that a bit of a difficult situation to be in.

Like I said, keep it online for now (if she wants to carry on speaking you you~ I don't see why she wouldn't though).
Maybe after a while arrange to go to her house if you want to get to know her a little better.

I'd tell her just because you can't be there physically you don't want to be any less of a brother to her, if she needs someone to talk to then you'll be there for her if she wants.

I have two half-brothers, one I just assumed was my full brother until my mum told me we had different dads when I was about 8. There is no 'half' involved in my eyes, he's my brother and always will be.
My dad had a son in his previous marriage and he came to visit us when my mum and dad were still married. We were all in the same city and it was arranged through the parents so it was easier than your situation, I was a bit too young to remember it all though.
He's a prick though, I haven't seen him since I was about 9 years old :s

I do have a cousin on Facebook, my mum and her dad (my uncle) had a fall out so she probably doesn't know I exist or we're related.
It's a shame... I wanted a young female cousin I could dispense my wise advice to XD

 

[Imthatguy]

Thanks for the advice. I have meet her mother while I was living with him but she apparently doesn't care for me after she overheard me questioning her beliefs with my father.

 

[Jonluw]

See, here's what you do: You drive to her neighbourhood in a windowless van. Then use the car's stereo or a cd player of your own to play ice cream truck music as you drive around.
When the children inevitably flock to the van, there should be plenty of opportunity to pick her out and pull her into the van where you can introduce yourself and bond.
[sub]Okay, don't actually do that.[/sub]

I am unamused.

However this is a very odd situation.

Anyway my father is currently suing for custody. Its fairly likely he'll win because his parental rights are being infringed but until then its unlikely we'll meet together.

As far as the dynamic goes I'm a teen pregnancy and I didn't meet him until I was 14 we became very close however but before I could actually visit him his marriage imploded due to her mom getting pushy with her LDS beliefs. He meet another woman and had my little brother (shes meet him) a year or so later. I also lived with them for the previous 2 years until work forced me to leave.

If your family is currently going through lawsuits and other turmoil, I'd personally put off meeting your sister until that stuff is dealt with and over.
I don't see why you should have any haste.

I'm still saying asking her parents (whichever one is her guardian at the time) is the simplest way to go about it.