Moral Question

[StriderShinryu]

I really don't see any problem with the age. What you really should be thinking about is the work situation. Assuming things don't go well, would you still be able to work with her and she with you? Even if things do go well, will it be problematic having to work with her (especially seeing as how it sounds like you're the senior one and may have to order her around or lay down the law at some point)?

 

[Paksenarrion]

Get her a virgin shirley temple.

 

[zehydra]

Yeah, you probably shouldn't buy her an alcoholic drink, unless you want trouble.

 

[LongAndShort]

I wouldn't be so inclined myself. But, to be honest it sounds like you've already decided yes and are looking for support for your decision.

To each his own, as long as it's legal.

 

[wolf92]

If she's legal I say go for it

 

[Scumpernickle]

Never ever ever ever EVER date a co-worker! It will ALWAYS turn out bad.

And her (not being of the legal drinking age) asking you out for a drink, already spells trouble.

Don't take the chance my friend.

 

[Billion Backs]

If she's legal in your country - and age of consent is 16 in some countries, Canada, for example, and probably at least a few European countries, you're okay from the legal point of view.

As drinking goes, fuck, every teenager drinks and there's pretty much no way you could get in trouble for that unless you're also causing public destruction and being overly noisy. The laws on legal drinking age are retarded in some countries, like a whole lot of USA states. You can drive, you can become a soldier and be in a warzone where your job involves killing and being killed, but you can't enjoy a drink? That's idiotic.

So, assuming you live in a country where she's legal, I'd say there's nothing wrong with it. That, assuming that I didn't misunderstand what I thought was a hint in your message.

Otherwise, if she's a cool person some 4 years difference shouldn't play a big role in friendship and stuff. You don't have to fuck every person you hang out or drink with.

If I'm right on my assumption along with a good portion of the posters in the thread, don't count on a relationship either way. Seriously. If you're an adult (aka above 18, possibly living away from home etc) why the HELL would you want to date someone who is still under almost complete control of their parents?

 

[Billion Backs]

Never ever ever ever EVER date a co-worker! It will ALWAYS turn out bad.

And her (not being of the legal drinking age) asking you out for a drink, already spells trouble.

Don't take the chance my friend.

Drinking age is different in different places...

I'm pretty sure in quite a few countries in Europe there are two separate drinking ages for softer and harder alcoholic drinks and I'm pretty sure that in that case the drinking age for softer stuff would be around 15-16.

And seriously, did most people really abide the whole "legal drinking age" thing when they were teens? Really? You're making me lose hope in the whole spirit of it... No parties when you were 16-17? Involving alcohol, potential running away from police if some idiot manages to piss off the neighbors, and what not? And, you know, making out and losing your virginity?

 

[TheTim]

Woa, i'd stay away, she could be leading you on to set up a sexual harrassment suing against you or something.

 

[2fish]

Bad idea, moral not an issue, legal not an issue, bad idea. Younger people do not see the world in the same light you do. Also you may have people give you shit for this as friends like to do that. Give it time wait until she is 17 and slightly more stable?

Bad Idea, karma hates you, she has elabrate traps set up for you, avoid them.

I generally state the rule of two tears younger if they are a teen and you are not. This is because I have seen some of my friends make that same mistake man. Dating younger girls may work out sometimes, but the odds are stacked against you from my studies. One last thing

BAD IDEA!

 

[peduncle]

go for it, just don't do anything illegal, and if you do... oh well

 

[Icaray]

In my opinion, this is not an issue of morality. She's of legal age so no one can say it's morally wrong. I think an age gap of four years is acceptable.
It all comes down to how mature she is.

 

[SinisterGehe]

what exactly is the moral problem here?

You need to get out more, as more I mean to another countries.
In Finland that is illegal, seeing shes underaged and you could be sent to jail for pedophilia.
It is complicated in my opinion.

But I think (This is easy to me to say as A-sexual) that don't do anything. There's lot of fish in the sea.

 

[Scumpernickle]

Never ever ever ever EVER date a co-worker! It will ALWAYS turn out bad.

And her (not being of the legal drinking age) asking you out for a drink, already spells trouble.

Don't take the chance my friend.

Drinking age is different in different places...

I'm pretty sure in quite a few countries in Europe there are two separate drinking ages for softer and harder alcoholic drinks and I'm pretty sure that in that case the drinking age for softer stuff would be around 15-16.

And seriously, did most people really abide the whole "legal drinking age" thing when they were teens? Really? You're making me lose hope in the whole spirit of it... No parties when you were 16-17? Involving alcohol, potential running away from police if some idiot manages to piss off the neighbors, and what not? And, you know, making out and losing your virginity?

Well of course I'm into the spirit of those kinds of things, everyone needs to have a little fun.

I'm just getting into the whole co-worker thing. If things turn out bad, he might get fired. Or she could get into the whole "I was drunk, I didn't know what I was doing" routine and he could get pegged with some criminal offenses.

I'm not saying to absolutely stay away from alcohol and the like, just make sure that she's a genuinely good girl and cover your bases.

 

[Billion Backs]

Never ever ever ever EVER date a co-worker! It will ALWAYS turn out bad.

And her (not being of the legal drinking age) asking you out for a drink, already spells trouble.

Don't take the chance my friend.

Drinking age is different in different places...

I'm pretty sure in quite a few countries in Europe there are two separate drinking ages for softer and harder alcoholic drinks and I'm pretty sure that in that case the drinking age for softer stuff would be around 15-16.

And seriously, did most people really abide the whole "legal drinking age" thing when they were teens? Really? You're making me lose hope in the whole spirit of it... No parties when you were 16-17? Involving alcohol, potential running away from police if some idiot manages to piss off the neighbors, and what not? And, you know, making out and losing your virginity?

Well of course I'm into the spirit of those kinds of things, everyone needs to have a little fun.

I'm just getting into the whole co-worker thing. If things turn out bad, he might get fired. Or she could get into the whole "I was drunk, I didn't know what I was doing" routine and he could get pegged with some criminal offenses.

I'm not saying to absolutely stay away from alcohol and the like, just make sure that she's a genuinely good girl and cover your bases.

Now that is a very reasonable concern. The main problem about dating someone who works with you isn't loss of productivity due to in-office fucking which is also not something that would happen at an average job a 16 year old would have... (Like, McDonalds slave? Some department store clerk? Or what. That's what I worked during summer when I was 16...) It's having to be and cooperate with someone who might hate your guts after the eventual break-up.

So, uh, yeah.

 

[teisjm]

As long as you act responsibly, don't try to push her to anything. Make sure not to be an ass, thats your responsibility, when you're that much older IMO

The only true problem i see is, that it prolly won't be anything worthwhile, and it might end up messy seeing how you work together.

Okay. Steer clear of the Jail Bait.

One: She might be over the legal age of consent but she is 16. You are 20. There is alot of maturing a person does in those four years.

Also think of it this way, certain countries think that a 20 year old sleeping with a 16 year old is an offense punishable by imprisonment.

One: as long as it's just casual dating, that shouldn't be that much of a problem.

And as for the last part, some countries sees women having sex before marriage as an offense punishable by death, yet that doesn't mean we should put on chastity belts on untill we put on a ring.
It's not like you can be punished for it if you travelled to some other country sometiem in the future.

 

[Hazzaslagga]

what is it with girls and older guys. are entire year(sixth form) is having a dry period because all the girls are into people at least 2 or 4 years older.

 

[fletch_talon]

In my opinion, this is not an issue of morality. She's of legal age so no one can say it's morally wrong. I think an age gap of four years is acceptable.
It all comes down to how mature she is.

Actually it can still be morally wrong, just not illegal.
I think its morally wrong to be involved with someone who is in a completely different stage of life and maturity than you are. 18-22 isn't so bad because the younger person has left school and assumedly has some knowledge of life in the real world. 16-20 has a teenager dating an adult. We give these stages of life different names for good reason.

Personally I think its morally wrong because its taking advantage of a younger person's lack of maturity and naivety even if they were the one to pursue the relationship.

 

[Panken]

Sure, go out for a drink, but dont become to emotionally involved.

One, she is alot younger than you and she will mature/change in the next few years.
Two, you work together. Job romances are normally bad, they cause extra shit at work.

 

[RatRace123]

Go nuts. I'd do it, given the opportunity.

I mean it'd be illegal here in the states, but if I lived in the UK, I'd do it.