ThrobbingEgo said:
GoldenRaz said:
And just to further this debate: "respect other people - or at least pretend to be a reasonable adult" is flawed in the same way in my opinion; the definitions of "respect" and "reasonable" is different from person to person and that could lead to similar occurences.
Some people have no problem with people swearing, others find it disrespectful.
Masochists find it reasonable to inflict pain to achieve pleasure, others consider it madness.
I'm not saying that it is a bad or stupid moral code, just flawed in the same way that the "golden rule" is which means that it can't be a universal standard.
There might be discrepencies about how far you go with respect and reasonable, but I can't think of a masochist scenario for it. I think the potential for total subversion is more troubling than slight variance.
Also, masochists get pleasure by receiving pain, not inflicting it - and weird as it is, it's a
reasonable fetish to have.
(Damn, I'm thinking of sadists, am I not?)
But that's where the problem is: I can't consider recieving pain as a pleasure reasonable. I can understand (and respect) that someone thinks so, just not how.
Which leads me to these questions:
"Who decides what is and what isn't reasonable?" and "Who decides what is and what isn't respectful?"
That's the problem with most, if not all, moral codes, that there are no standards for the concepts "reason" and "respect".
ThrobbingEgo said:
How about, "consider other people's needs"? The golden rule is just empathy putting on airs, this is more direct.
That also sounds great at first thought, but that has some problems as well. For example:
Sadists need to inflict pain onto others to achieve pleasure. If I am to "consider other peoples needs", then I should volounteer to recieve that pain. And it becomes more complex when you consider that the sadist must consider my need of not getting hurt. Then he/she would have to refuse to hurt me, while I refuse to not get hurt. Not a very likely scenario, but possible nontheless.
And to use a less extreme example:
A businessman wants/need to earn money. To do so, he must have clients or customers. But these customers have probably been to another businessman before, who just like the first one need to earn money. They could of course become partners and work together, but some people feel the need to work alone. How should that problem be solved?
But "consider other people's needs" is a great moral code for average, day-to-day life, I'll give you that.