alerriixx said:
Bruin said:
Thaius said:
Ignore the first two posts. Seriously, you'll regret it if you follow their advice.
Take some time. Going straight from a long-term relationship into another relationship indicates and creates a dependency, something you definitely don't want. You need to be able to stand on your own before you can hope to stand with someone else in a romantic, committed way. Make sure you're ready for another relationship before entering one.
Beyond that, do not even think of getting involved with someone unless you will take the relationship seriously. Dating is meant to be a time of testing, when you get to know someone in a romantic setting and decide whether a permanent relationship (marriage) is possible. Don't play with people's hearts, and don't screw with yours. Wait until a girl comes along that you could see yourself spending your entire life with, and pursue her with all your energy.
Good advice, I conclude.
It's always been my philosophy not to get into a relationship with somebody I couldn't seriously see myself with ten years from now.
This isn't Seinfield either, girlfriends don't happen every week. Do that and the value of them in the first place plummets dramatically.
RAKtheUndead said:
Shouldn't have gone out with somebody while you were so young. Write some terrible poetry, start wearing black, cry a lot in private - then get the fuck over it.
As well as this.
Without the black part. It's just so cliche.
I really like this girl, almost as much as I liked my last girlfriend just before things went sour, and I could imagine spending the rest of my life with her. So is that ok?
Also on the cliché part, how is it not meant to be cliche in that case, your typifying every teenage romance into the same kind of category. Is it meant to be some sort of adult quip that I'm not emotionally developed enough to feel strongly for someone of the opposite sex as I am not as old as some people?
I have several conclusions for you, my man:
One, you never loved your girlfriend that much.
Two, you're switching your infatuation over to somebody who's a lot like your friend (which she probably is, considering she's her friend).
Three, you're lying to me and trying to self-justify dating a girl you really don't like but are denying that you don't because that would mean you'd have to look elsewhere for a girlfriend, and we're all such lazy bastards.
Four, our most unlikely one, you actually love this other girl. Genuine love that isn't swift infatuation brought on, as in case Two.
And yes, you did misunderstand me.
In any case, I don't discredit your ability to feel love. I spent my entire teenage years loving the same girl. Genuine love that I haven't found since. It's not something you encounter often, and I'm not sure all teenagers do. So sure, in fact, that I'd be willing to put a good bet into the corner of "You're just infatuated" in most 'Girl Halp' threads.
The odds are against what you say being true, is all. Logic and reason overcome romanticism and sentimentality in my mind.
Better said: I would like to believe what you're saying to be true, because from your articulation alone you seem to be more sound than most people who make these threads. But you're asking me to believe that I'm going to get the Ace of Spades next hand.
