Motivating myself

[Flamezdudes]

I've always found it very difficult motivating myself to do any form of work, that includes homework, revision or even trying to get a job.

I'm 17 and i've never really had a proper job at all and my parents have always been complaining about it to me but i've never been able to find the motivation to try and get one, even if I do want money... I love my free time too much. This goes for revision and school work too... since I have exams soon.

Any advice on how to motivate myself more to try and find work and do school work?

 

[Broady Brio]

Nope. Same position as you here.

I'm 18 and I'm pretty much exactly like you. Do you know what happened to me when I did my exams last June? I failed, pretty darn hard.

I barely did any revision or anything. If you want some motivation, the fact your life will not move on unless you do something about it should at least be a start. As for getting a job? Can't help you there, seeing as I don't have one either.

 

[JesterRaiin]

Any advice on how to motivate myself more to try and find work and do school work?

Nope. Same position as you here.

Two people, one question :
What do you live for ? I mean, what's your point of focus, "big plan", "masterpiece", thing you want to achieve ?

 

[Flamezdudes]

Any advice on how to motivate myself more to try and find work and do school work?

Nope. Same position as you here.

Two people, one question :
What do you live for ? I mean, what's your point of focus, "big plan", "masterpiece", thing you want to achieve ?

There isn't any sort of long term goal for me really, I'm hoping to go to University after my A-Levels but i'm not sure what to study yet. Even then, I don't know what I would do after that... although one thing I definitely want when i'm older is a family.

For me, however it is hard to do things now for a long term benefit anyway, if if I know it is important and will help in the end.

 

[Oirish_Martin]

Do whatever you need to do (get qualifications/experience) in order to keep a sufficient amount of money coming in. You at least need to keep a roof over your head, keep warm, food in the cupboards etc.

If you haven't yet found what really excites you, try as many new things as you can. Read widely. If you find your craft, start practising and honing it inbetween keeping the bills paid.

It's not something to worry about in the sense that it's not unusual or abnormal to feel this way - even those who think they know what they want to do sometimes end up wanting to change career path (26 and going through this at the moment). It's a bit of a bummer on one level, but if you at least try and pick up some skills along the way you can keep yourself afloat. Inaction will inevitably bite you in the ass to some degree.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

For the motivation part, you say you love your free time, but you probably aren't using it to stare at the wall. so what exactly are you doing with your free time? Playing video games, talking online?

Start with what you like as a motivator. I love all kinds of animation, I happen to know how to draw. I went to college for animation. I ended up with a job in graphic design, perfectly happy with that (it pays more for less work).

Even if you don't feel like your good at anything, everyone has a talent for something, You just have to find what interest you and you'll find motivation to study it.

Even if what you studied isn't what you end up doing in the long run. My art degree isn't wasted on graphic design, it's just not being used for animation.


Also nobody likes homework or studying for test. No way around the homework, but I found just being attentive in class, I didn't have to study. (might not work for others)

 

[JesterRaiin]

Two people, one question :
What do you live for ? I mean, what's your point of focus, "big plan", "masterpiece", thing you want to achieve ?

There isn't any sort of long term goal for me really, I'm hoping to go to University after my A-Levels but i'm not sure what to study yet. Even then, I don't know what I would do after that... although one thing I definitely want when i'm older is a family.

For me, however it is hard to do things now for a long term benefit anyway, if if I know it is important and will help in the end.

Please, read your own words once again.
Keywords : university, study, family, benefit.
I can't picture a person behind those words. Is there nothing more than that ?

 

[Flamezdudes]

Two people, one question :
What do you live for ? I mean, what's your point of focus, "big plan", "masterpiece", thing you want to achieve ?

There isn't any sort of long term goal for me really, I'm hoping to go to University after my A-Levels but i'm not sure what to study yet. Even then, I don't know what I would do after that... although one thing I definitely want when i'm older is a family.

For me, however it is hard to do things now for a long term benefit anyway, if if I know it is important and will help in the end.

Please, read your own words once again.
Keywords : university, study, family, benefit.
I can't picture a person behind those words. Is there nothing more than that ?

I don't really know what to say... I don't know at all. I mean, I do really want a family when i'm older, that is definitely something I really want.

But for a career... I have no idea at all really. Although primary school teaching does seem interesting at the moment.

I think captcha is mocking me - "life's too short."

For the motivation part, you say you love your free time, but you probably aren't using it to stare at the wall. so what exactly are you doing with your free time? Playing video games, talking online?

Start with what you like as a motivator. I love all kinds of animation, I happen to know how to draw. I went to college for animation. I ended up with a job in graphic design, perfectly happy with that (it pays more for less work).

Even if you don't feel like your good at anything, everyone has a talent for something, You just have to find what interest you and you'll find motivation to study it.

Even if what you studied isn't what you end up doing in the long run. My art degree isn't wasted on graphic design, it's just not being used for animation.


Also nobody likes homework or studying for test. No way around the homework, but I found just being attentive in class, I didn't have to study. (might not work for others)

For my free time I generally just hang out round friends houses, play videogames, read books, watch films and watch anime.

I'm not that creative though XD

 

[JesterRaiin]

Please, read your own words once again.
Keywords : university, study, family, benefit.
I can't picture a person behind those words. Is there nothing more than that ?

I don't really know what to say... I don't know at all. I mean, I do really want a family when i'm older, that is definitely something I really want.

But for a career... I have no idea at all really. Although primary school teaching does seem interesting at the moment.

I think captcha is mocking me - "life's too short."

Please don't misunderstand it, but you're still very young. Ok, ok, i know this "tomorrow starts today" bullshit, but it's not the magical answer for all problems.
I think that instead of worrying about distant future that may or may not come at all you should think about developing your character, becoming something more that you are now. We all live in a very interesting times and no scenario regarding future events can simply be ruled out. Even those most weird or catastrophic aren't completely out of question. So "future" isn't that predictable and i wouldn't worry about it.

I can't give you perfect plan for next decade, but i'd suggest to work more on yourself. You can't count on some major change without knowing more about yourself, your "pros" and "cons". It's not quick and definitively not easy trip, but it's worth every moment you wish to spare.

Best place to start ?
Ask yourself what you really like to do. Not just "it's what i'm spending my time on, meh", but what you really, really like to do and wish to do it better.
Don't rush it. Think hard about it and be honest...