Motivational Problems...

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Hello everyone, look I've been having some self worth and motivational problems as of late that I debated posting here to the advice forum for a while. I held back because I feel that I really shouldn't be using the internet to dump my personal problems on and that I'm really not sure that it's totally worth worrying about all together.

Anyway the thing is I have a pretty good life, at least from my perspective. I make good grades, have friends and live in a fine neighbourhood where I have no problems with my life. I do have personal self worth problems though. The thing is I don't have any skills, like at all. I don't play instruments or can draw or write. I'm horrible with technology. I'm awful at sports and I don't really have anything I'm good at aside from being pretty smart and doing somewhat well in school. People in my life, especially among my friends know me as the "gamer guy" but them I come on hear and feel totally insignificant and outclassed in my knowledge and diversity of the games I play.

I constantly try to get into things, I was going to download some programs and try my hand at drawing and animation since even though I'm not great at it I've always enjoyed sketching and drawing. However once I got it open I was just totally brickwalled by its complexity. I feel totally overwhelmed and then I see things that I assume are simple but realize how much work it is and just totally shut down. I can't get started on anything or keep at it because I'm stopped dead at the very beginning. I go online and try to educate and train myself to use them or get better but I'm totally crushed by the my lack of ability and the capabilities required to get going, as well as the feelings of inferiority from seeing everything else that I feel I can never achieve.

So I want to learn things and get better, develop some real skills or talent but I can't because of my inferiority and motivational issues. If any of you could maybe help and suggest ways to break me out of the funk that I fall into whenever I try something I'd appreciate it.

I'm sorry if this isn't worth a thread or if my problems aren't significant to broadcast on the internet but if you could help me thank you, and um... have a happle:
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Get someone to develop your skill with, or to hold you accountable for your learning. It's much easier if you have someone physically there to make sure you're following through.
 

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him over there said:
So I want to learn things and get better, develop some real skills or talent but I can't because of my inferiority and motivational issues.
First of all : why do you want to get better ?
It's important question.
 

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JesterRaiin said:
him over there said:
So I want to learn things and get better, develop some real skills or talent but I can't because of my inferiority and motivational issues.
First of all : why do you want to get better ?
It's important question.
Honestly it's pretty much a self worth issue. I feel totally inferior to everyone around me because of my lack of anything really and it's really started to get to me recently. I just want to be able to have one single thing I'm somewhat proficient at in my life.
 

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him over there said:
JesterRaiin said:
him over there said:
So I want to learn things and get better, develop some real skills or talent but I can't because of my inferiority and motivational issues.
First of all : why do you want to get better ?
It's important question.
Honestly it's pretty much a self worth issue. I feel totally inferior to everyone around me because of my lack of anything really and it's really started to get to me recently. I just want to be able to have one single thing I'm somewhat proficient at in my life.
I see.

You feel inferior because you're trying to catch up with people participating in complete different races. Concentrate on your own progress. Try to "make yourself". Develop better personality. Try to be honest. People avoid dishonesty and plastic masks.

LEARN TO SMILE. No, i don't mean some pseudo-mystical bullsh*t like "smile despite rain" or something. Simply, if you don't have anything useful to say, just smile.

- So, we're sitting here and pretty much everyone said something or sh*t, and you're just smiling whole time. Seriously, what's wrong with you ?
- Nothing. I'm just happy to see you all. You're making me happy by being happy. I don't want to ruin that.
 

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If you ask me, you shouldn't be searching for something you're naturally good at, but rather, something you really want to be good at. Just have some patience and see if you like something to the point that you're willing to work hard in order to improve. You never know what you will end up liking if you don't let yourself get discouraged.
 

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JesterRaiin said:
I see.

You feel inferior because you're trying to catch up with people participating in complete different races. Concentrate on your own progress. Try to "make yourself". Develop better personality. Try to be honest. People avoid dishonesty and plastic masks.

LEARN TO SMILE. No, i don't mean some pseudo-mystical bullsh*t like "smile despite rain" or something. Simply, if you don't have anything useful to say, just smile.

- So, we're sitting here and pretty much everyone said something or sh*t, and you're just smiling whole time. Seriously, what's wrong with you ?
- Nothing. I'm just happy to see you all. You're making me happy by being happy. I don't want to ruin that.
Thanks for the advice, but I feel just being happy is sort of sidestepping the problem. Continuing on with what you said about competing with people in different races is what I often feel like. However another part of it is that sometimes it feels like I'm not in any race. I concede seeing people ahead of me is what is partly discouraging me but I really want to at least participate or compete in a race at least.

Basically what I'm saying is I feel my life is fine but empty, and I really want to fill it with something.
 

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him over there said:
So I want to learn things and get better, develop some real skills or talent but I can't because of my inferiority and motivational issues.
Sure you can. You don't need to feel competent or motivated to do things. It's easier if you feel motivated, but not necessary. You just need to decide that you are going to practice a particular skill, whether you feel motivated or not.

I know it's hard to ignore those kind of feelings. But they're wrong, and you should not allow incorrect feelings to control you. You aren't inferior because you don't know how to do things--everyone starts off as a newbie. And since the only way to get better is to practice, avoiding practice because you feel inferior is irrational.

So approach things logically, and try to ignore your negative feelings. Decide what you want to learn, and decide on a practice schedule. And then make a conscious choice to keep to that schedule regardless of your feelings of inferiority or lack of motivation. At first this will probably suck. You won't enjoy it, and you'll want to give up. But rationally you know that the only way to improve is to keep practicing, so that is what you should do. Remind yourself of that every time those negative emotions come back.

Eventually the practice will pay off, you'll see yourself improving, and those negative feelings will start to fade.
 

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him over there said:
Basically what I'm saying is I feel my life is fine but empty, and I really want to fill it with something.
I feel - i may be wrong - that you're mistaking what is important and what is not. "Happiness", feeling that "everything is in right place" isn't some kind of achievement you earn after finishing race or fulfilling 756 chores. Happiness is a state you're in, often for only short amount of time.

All you need is time, patience and some amount of mistakes to understand and recognize this state. What you don't need is other people's approval, praise or admiration.

Start to learn about just "being happy" instead of trying to "become happy". There's no other way, but remember : it's not the speedrun. It's like travel to foreign, exotic land. You don't enjoy the process - you're doing it wrong.

As a side note : for me everything changed when i understood that i have only a few decades of life more (at best). Then i'll die no matter what and everything i hold precious, important will die with me. 20-30 years after my death nobody will remember me, my struggles and "achievements".
I sat, and i thought "f*ck it, f*ck that contest and rivalry, i want to be alive".
As for today, i'm happy. :)

BTW... ;)
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