Murder in Dragonborn Manor

[TheDrunkNinja]

Just gonna say... Grades can be changed... But murdering someone's wife and then overriding the previous save... that shit's permanent.

Also, don't set a standard for your kids that you don't uphold yourself (Erin's comment about language).

Makes the teenage years a ***** when they start to understand the concept of hypocrisy.

 

[Quaade]

You confuse intent with results. The intent is to teach the child that there are consequences for their actions. The result of THIS kind of action is to sow distrust towards the parent and not do anything to tie the punishment to the "misdeed".

Children do need discipline but done incorrectly it can do more harm then good.

I have seen plenty of people whose parents had intents like those you describe in your long wall of text rant yet which completely messed up their children instead of getting the intended result

And you confuse taking action=abuse with reality.

And if doing something like this can sow distrust towards the parents then there are underlying issues that are far more severe than merely slipping grades.
Either something like this has happened more than once and it's a continous circle of abuse and degradation or the child/teen in question have come so attached to the virtual reality that it's substituting the actual reality.

 

[Quaade]

Just gonna say... Grades can be changed... But murdering someone's wife and then overriding the previous save... that shit's permanent.

Also, don't set a standard for your kids that you don't uphold yourself (Erin's comment about language).

Makes the teenage years a ***** when they start to understand the concept of hypocrisy.

This, that right there scares the living daylights out of me.

That attitude is horrifying, that you are equating the deletion of a digital entity consisting of scripted A.I. behaviour with real murder.
I mean, I could understand if it was concerning a self aware A.I. that could never be replaced or regained since that would constitute a serious philosophical dilemma about ethics and life.
Where the cord snaps for me is that this is merely data that equals time invested, it can be regained and replaced by another playtrough, it's not permanent nor is it irreplacable, it's time, simple time which by all accounts the person in question should be advised on how to divide between areas more efficiently.

 

[TheDrunkNinja]

Just gonna say... Grades can be changed... But murdering someone's wife and then overriding the previous save... that shit's permanent.

Also, don't set a standard for your kids that you don't uphold yourself (Erin's comment about language).

Makes the teenage years a ***** when they start to understand the concept of hypocrisy.

This, that right there scares the living daylights out of me.

That attitude is horrifying, that you are equating the deletion of a digital entity consisting of scripted A.I. behaviour with real murder.
I mean, I could understand if it was concerning a self aware A.I. that could never be replaced or regained since that would constitute a serious philosophical dilemma about ethics and life.
Where the cord snaps for me is that this is merely data that equals time invested, it can be regained and replaced by another playtrough, it's not permanent nor is it irreplacable, it's time, simple time which by all accounts the person in question should be advised on how to divide between areas more efficiently.

The fuck? Take a joke, man.

 

[Quaade]

Then make your joke more obvious, I can't hear the intonation of your voice, only read the tone of your post, and that it was followed by something, that is very real and sound advice makes it very easy to misunderstand, which I obviously did.

 

[scw55]

My dad innocently throughout my childhood kept system resetting our family PC which had saved files for various PC games I played (those management and construction sims ones which are a huge time sink). It broke my heart each time and it made me furious. Likewise when he innocently shut down the PC when I was downloading a huge game client over-night (to play with my friends) before PCs remembered download progress.

So, given the reaction that gave me. Imagine the reaction a child would give if they knew it was deliberate. Heads would roll.

 

[TheDrunkNinja]

Then make your joke more obvious, I can't hear the intonation of your voice, only read the tone of your post, and that it was followed by something, that is very real and sound advice makes it very easy to misunderstand, which I obviously did.

The comic is named "Murder in Dragonborn Manor", and you accosted me for no other reason than using the term "murder" when describing the death of a video game NPC. I don't need intonation for what is already obvious.

 

[taltamir]

Imagine that instead of a video game this was an intricate model boat that the "child" constructed... "hi son, while you were away I snuck into your room and spent a good amount of time meticulously destroying it beyond repair" is just psychotic behavior for a parent.

Issues (from most to least severe):
1. The parent snuck into the child room to do the deed while they were away instead of openly declaring a punishment.
2. The parent destroyed something the child spent a lot of effort and time creating.
3. The parent destroyed something rather then confiscating it until the child changes their behavior.
4. The punishment is overly severe relative to the misdeed.

The strawmen is that anyone who said this is bad parenting only speaks of issue #4.

 

[Sergey Sund]

So what're your thoughts on kids looking up porn? When I did it my dad came down and literally wiped the entire hard drive of the computer. All of my savegames, all of my time spent customizing things, all of that, down the drain. But I did something that was not allowed and was punished for it. This isn't half as devastating as that was, which I believe fits the crime. The message being sent to the kid is pretty clear; if you're going to spend your time on video games, you need to get good grades. School comes first, which is always true as a kid. Once they get that done then they can focus on games. Until then, this is to show you how easily I can not only take those games away but make the time you put in to them worthless. Makes complete sense to me, and seems entirely reasonable

Yeah, well, this leads into a debate when kids are old enough to own a computer/TV.
I was only allowed to have my own PC at age 16 - so all that porn stuff was OK then.
My parents, too, had pretty strict ideas about "school first", too, so I was grounded a few times and the power cords of my computer and TV got taken away until I learned my lesson.
Messing around with the savegames, though, and deleting hard drives still seems too radical to me.
My parents - and these as well, I think - operate on the basis of "You chose what you spend your time with, son."
Stipulations about school and porn notwithstanding, when you then turn around and, by your actions, tell your kid that
"I am going to invalidate your choice retro-actively by destroying what you have built." then that makes you look like a hypocrit and undermines your authority and believability as a parent.
Let's take, for example, a kid that choses to play soccer instead of video games. You punish that kid by grounding him for a week, right?
You don't destroy his efforts completely, like, say, break his legg, or something.
If your leg breaks / Xbox dies that's just cosmic randomness. You can't harbor anger towards an accident.
You can, however, harbor intense anger at people, especially when they say one thing, then turn around and do another.

 

[ciancon]

Stockpile Thomas!? Jesus, why not just delete their save file cos unless they were right at the end odds are it's best to restart.

 

[I.Muir]

Funny I thought murder was the standard means of divorce in that game

 

[webkilla]

I'd rather hold my kid's savegame in ransom on a usb stick if they fail to do their chores... or the good old "if you want todays wifi-password, do your chores"

outright deleting things or wrecking savegames - that's IMO on par with parents who throw out their kids toys or break them, as a means of punishment