My conundrum

[Krion_Vark]

Okay so I have been trying not to do something like this on here but I really cannot help it at all. I don't really have anyone awake at the moment that I can vent my frustration to and ask advice besides you guys here at The Escapist.

So I am in my second year of college and I have some great friends. One of my friends we started talking on Skype over the summer until like 2-3 in the morning. It was fun and learning more about her I have actually started to like her a lot and care about her more than I probably should since she is part of my friend group here at college and I really do not want to fuck that up since I was a bit of a loner in High School and only started making people that I consider friends towards the end of high school. I told her I like her a couple of months back after talking with her online for about a month and we talked about it for a bit then just sort of left it. It would be brought up a few times but not really into a whole discussion thing about it because we were both in the consensus that we would talk about it once we got back to college but apparently talking about it means basically not talking to me at all anymore and completely ignoring my existence.

My question to you guys is how should I go about bringing this up? I really don't want to bring it up in front of everyone I would rather just have it be a discussion between just the two of us and I really don't want to start flipping out on her either.

 

[AnOriginalConcept]

Ask her out for a cup of coffee?

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

I had this same problem. Next time you're alone and you feel courageous enough, tell her again. And if you stumble over yourself, that's not necessarily a bad thing.
So in other words, agreed with asking her out for coffee. Or something else equally as synonymous with awkward attempts at communication of that sort.

 

[SimuLord]

Go out for coffee or some other one-on-one setting and hash it out. Part of those 18-22 transition years involve learning how to have adult relationships rather than teenage ones. Only thing I can say is that you WILL fail. Maybe on date one, maybe after a year. And it WILL hurt like hell. But growing up is not like soccer practice and grade school and rah-rah "you are all special" bullshit you get from 0-18. This is why most Millennials are so fucked up.

Just remember---you WILL fail. It is normal. And expected. Now get out there and get the girl!

 

[FortheLegion]

Go out for coffee or some other one-on-one setting and hash it out. Part of those 18-22 transition years involve learning how to have adult relationships rather than teenage ones. Only thing I can say is that you WILL fail. Maybe on date one, maybe after a year. And it WILL hurt like hell. But growing up is not like soccer practice and grade school and rah-rah "you are all special" bullshit you get from 0-18. This is why most Millennials are so fucked up.

Just remember---you WILL fail. It is normal. And expected. Now get out there and get the girl!

How very..... Inspiring

 

[SimuLord]

Go out for coffee or some other one-on-one setting and hash it out. Part of those 18-22 transition years involve learning how to have adult relationships rather than teenage ones. Only thing I can say is that you WILL fail. Maybe on date one, maybe after a year. And it WILL hurt like hell. But growing up is not like soccer practice and grade school and rah-rah "you are all special" bullshit you get from 0-18. This is why most Millennials are so fucked up.

Just remember---you WILL fail. It is normal. And expected. Now get out there and get the girl!

How very..... Inspiring

He'll thank me when he's 30 and wiser than he would've otherwise been. So will his wife and kids. One less whiny "woe is me, everything sucks" bitchy Millennial with no clue how the world really works.

 

[Unesh52]

There are an awful lot of these lately. I don't know really. But putting it bluntly doesn't really seem like that bad of an ideal. Just come out with it, it's not as dangerous as it feels like it is.