My dilemma, help!

[Froobyx]

Right, I'm supposed to be starting uni in 3 weeks. Today I went over to the city where my uni is to look at private accommodation because the uni are dicks and wouldn't give me any.

Anyways, I've gotten a few people's interest and it's 3 people out of 4 I need which I'm happy with, we're gamers and we're doing computing and stuff like that.

The problem is, some guy also looked at the house with me today and he looked like he was in his mid 30s maybe early 40s and he stood VERY close to me whenever we were looking through the rooms even though my dad was there with me.

I wouldn't feel safe knowing that there's a middle aged man living under the same roof as some uni kids and he looks like the sort of guy to spend 5 times a day on the toilet making the bathroom smell!

Do I tell everyone who has been interested in the house to take the house and live with this guy, or do I look for another house that has 4 rooms. The house seemed run down but what do you expect from uni accommodation?

I need the decision making for me !_!

 

[APPCRASH]

Don't judge people, by their age or looks. Just make sure to set boundaries and all that jazz and you should be fine.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

Don't judge people, by their age or looks. Just make sure to set boundaries and all that jazz and you should be fine.

That just about covers it. If you end up living with this new guy you should bring him down the pub or something with the others so you all get to know each other.

 

[Erana]

Well...
You need a place very soon, but if you're not going to feel safe, I'd suggest keeping it on the table and looking elsewhere, in case you find something better. Its your peace of mind, and if you aren't happy in your home, how do you expect to be happy in university in general?

Of course, are a single bad impression the only thing that makes you not like the man in question?

 

[Torque669]

Don't judge people, by their age or looks. Just make sure to set boundaries and all that jazz and you should be fine.

This. You cant just make assumptions off people. I say go for it if all the other people in that accomodation are people you can get on with.

Like Cpt Oblivious said. Just all of you go down to a pub and get to know each other.

 

[Haunted Serenity]

If you got a bad feeling back out. If you want to give it a go make sure you have an escape route

 

[Froobyx]

He made me a bit uneasy when we were looking around. But he won't be around at weekends cos he lives all the way down south.

The other two people seem up for it and there might be a chance yet that he wont go for the room.

 

[El Poncho]

Take the room ofcourse. 4 against 1 anyways you can go TMNT on him.

 

[Antlers]

Well I'm 22 now and moving into another student house but I just wouldn't live with someone over late twenties. Just because I think I wouldn't have much in common with them. I'd find another place.

Then again, I have had some of the worst housemates my own age so...

 

[Robyrt]

Definitely be careful. Make sure you have a way to get out of the lease if everything goes wrong, and try to find a 4th person closer to your ages. But if you really like the arrangement otherwise, well, everyone has had at least one troublesome roommate, and it's possible to put up with a lot if you set some clear boundaries.

 

[Hot'n'steamy]

He made me a bit uneasy when we were looking around. But he won't be around at weekends cos he lives all the way down south.

The other two people seem up for it and there might be a chance yet that he wont go for the room.

Is it 3 girls and 1 middle aged guy? Because if that's the case tell him to gtfo. Seriously I went to the Uni of Sheffield and there was a house of 3 foreign girls and 1 middle aged foreign man and they had to move because he made them feel so uncomfortable. It was University accommodation so it was easy to sort out, but that may be less easy with a private landlord.

:S

 

[Froobyx]

He made me a bit uneasy when we were looking around. But he won't be around at weekends cos he lives all the way down south.

The other two people seem up for it and there might be a chance yet that he wont go for the room.

Is it 3 girls and 1 middle aged guy? Because if that's the case tell him to gtfo. Seriously I went to the Uni of Sheffield and there was a house of 3 foreign girls and 1 middle aged foreign man and they had to move because he made them feel so uncomfortable. It was University accommodation so it was easy to sort out, but that may be less easy with a private landlord.

:S

Uhm, I don't get on easy with girls so at the moment it's me and 3 other guys, one of them is the middle aged man. I'm looking for another lass though to live with.

I guess if he makes us feel uncomfy then I'll talk to the landlord about him... I'm sure he will try and do stuff to sort it out, it's not like I'm a proper grown woman yet I'm still only 18.

 

[Hot'n'steamy]

He made me a bit uneasy when we were looking around. But he won't be around at weekends cos he lives all the way down south.

The other two people seem up for it and there might be a chance yet that he wont go for the room.

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Uhm, I don't get on easy with girls so at the moment it's me and 3 other guys, one of them is the middle aged man. I'm looking for another lass though to live with.

I guess if he makes us feel uncomfy then I'll talk to the landlord about him... I'm sure he will try and do stuff to sort it out, it's not like I'm a proper grown woman yet I'm still only 18.

Just to say, I really wouldn't recommend 3 guys one girl. Either the girl ends up being ostracised, or she ends up with one of the guys, then breaks up with him, and the house just falls apart. :/. I used to be a community rep in Sheffield so I got to here about these problem all the time .

 

[Froobyx]

Just to say, I really wouldn't recommend 3 guys one girl. Either the girl ends up being ostracised, or she ends up with one of the guys, then breaks up with him, and the house just falls apart. :/. I used to be a community rep in Sheffield so I got to here about these problem all the time .

Thats why I'm looking for another girl... I've got a boyfriend anyways and we're quite happy together, I won't cheat on him and like everyones already said. There'll be boundries.

 

[ThreeWords]

Don't judge people, by their age or looks. Just make sure to set boundaries and all that jazz and you should be fine.

That just about covers it. If you end up living with this new guy you should bring him down the pub or something with the others so you all get to know each other.

This seems wise to me. People are usually good, and you should treat them as friends unless they prove otherwise

 

[rokkolpo]

then tell the middle-aged man.

i thought you,re going to university,step up and tell the man if u got problems with him.
at you,re age it,s not rude anymore.

just let him know how you feel about him, and if u let him live there just wait till he get,s to ''funky'' and cut him off.

 

[Froobyx]

Right, I've just found out the other guy who is moving in is 24, so I'm looking for somewhere else to live now! I don't wanna live with a 24 year old man tbh.

 

[DigitalSushi]

take the plunge, you can't expect your life to be all easy all the time, if he gets the house with you in it, then while in normal conversation drop the B Bomb in for some arbitrary reason.

i.e. if he asks "do you know your way around this town", reply with
"not really but my boyfriend does"

If he's like normal then he'll back off, if he's French then I can't help you, the French thrive on chatting girls up in front of their boyfriends.

I wouldn't feel safe knowing that there's a middle aged man living under the same roof as some uni kids and he looks like the sort of guy to spend 5 times a day on the toilet making the bathroom smell!

hey I resemble that comment!

 

[Antlers]

Just to say, I really wouldn't recommend 3 guys one girl. Either the girl ends up being ostracised, or she ends up with one of the guys, then breaks up with him, and the house just falls apart. :/. I used to be a community rep in Sheffield so I got to here about these problem all the time .

Thats why I'm looking for another girl... I've got a boyfriend anyways and we're quite happy together, I won't cheat on him and like everyones already said. There'll be boundries.

You have a boyfriend and you're moving in with 3 guys...? Trouble ahead.

 

[Trivun]

Right, I'm supposed to be starting uni in 3 weeks. Today I went over to the city where my uni is to look at private accommodation because the uni are dicks and wouldn't give me any.

Anyways, I've gotten a few people's interest and it's 3 people out of 4 I need which I'm happy with, we're gamers and we're doing computing and stuff like that.

The problem is, some guy also looked at the house with me today and he looked like he was in his mid 30s maybe early 40s and he stood VERY close to me whenever we were looking through the rooms even though my dad was there with me.

I wouldn't feel safe knowing that there's a middle aged man living under the same roof as some uni kids and he looks like the sort of guy to spend 5 times a day on the toilet making the bathroom smell!

Do I tell everyone who has been interested in the house to take the house and live with this guy, or do I look for another house that has 4 rooms. The house seemed run down but what do you expect from uni accommodation?

I need the decision making for me !_!

I don't really have much experience with your kind of problem, since the university I'm at (Leeds) gave me accomodation for the first year and now this year I'm living with the same nine people in a big rented house near campus. However, in your case I think the best thing to do is try and talk to your friends who you'll be living with and try to see what they all feel. If you tell them about your little experience they may decide themselves that somewhere else would be better, or they'll probably support you if anything does happen with this guy. Normally I'd be saying don't judge a book by it's cover, but that does seem a little creepy of the guy so I'd advise you talk to your future flatmates and see what they say. Just out of interest, what uni are you going to?