My (ex)girlfriend cheated on me. Cheer me up!

[RiseUp]

It's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all?

'sall I got.

That fits your avatar so well.

OP, I have no idea who you are, but you're free to come visit the University of Dayton if you need to take your mind off things. Our students are friendly, our campus is beautiful, and our parties are the stuff of legend

 

[FieryTrainwreck]

Guilt free porn!

Why would you feel guilty about porn anyway?

Whenever someone expresses guilt over porn, I immediately think of this clip.

Spoiler: semi-NSFW but click it anyways

My advice to anyone who suffers a bad break-up: hit the gym, hang out with your friends, and lose yourself in hobbies. Working out really is the miracle cure - improves mood, energy level, self-image. Then spend time with friends and/or family. Catch up with people you may not have prioritized when you were in a relationship (assuming, of course, you weren't a jerk about it). Finally, focus on your interests and passions. Game, read, write, whatever. In a nutshell, and above all else, keep moving, keep going, and keep your days full. Don't give yourself time to dwell or hate or cry, not excessively anyways, and make sure your head hits the pillow exhausted.

 

[Czann]

The sad fact is that some people just backstab others without any consideration because they're borderline psychopatic cases without any empathy. And thus they kill any trust their victims had in themselves and others.

Other than that shrug the skank out of your life as she clearly wasn't the person you thought she was.

 

[Solkard]

Be grateful the topic wasn't "My (ex)wife [and mother of my children] cheated on me. Cheer me up [while I sign this alimony check]"

Move on, see other people. When she calls you up in a month or two, take satisfaction in that she'll mean nothing to you. And if you go back to her, everyone who posted in this thread gets to kick you in the balls.

 

[Gladion]

I'm just going to leave this here and not even try to say something meaningful. It helps me when I feel bummed out.

http://dagobah.net/flash/Recover_hard_drive.swf

And maybe check out that hamster with the tiny burritos, too.

 

[The White Hunter]

Also fuck that *****. Go shag her cute friend or something.

Or tbh just have fun with you friends and distract your attention.

 

[Sleepy Sol]

I'd say just give it time and let out some stress through whatever form of entertainment tickles your fancy at the moment. Move on completely when you're ready.

Spoiler: an old favorite of mine for a quick laugh

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

You could always do what I do when I feel down, get together with some friends, get high, or drunk, and watch something funny, you will be physically incapable of remembering the bad shit, like seriously, your brain will be unable to put the bad shit into your conscious mind, and all you will understand is what you are experiencing in the moment, good food, a good movie, or random adventures with friends, play cards against humanity, or apples to apples.

Not advocating illegal activities or anything, but I mean, where I'm from it's a totally normal thing, but if you live somewhere where you would face jail time I wouldn't want you to do something to make your life worse.

Other than that, loud angry music, sitting alone, thinking about things in your head until you get it all sorted, then go back to living as normal... OR if you happen to find calm soothing music more enjoyable go for it... Though usually when I'm angry I can't stand calm music, I need something that suits my mood, at least for awhile, then as I calm down I make a new playlist with classical music and shit, and listen to that.

Fact is, you can only deal with this kinda shit the way you can deal with this kinda shit. I know what betrayal feels like, never been cheated on, but I have been stolen from and lied to by women who've said they loved me, I have been screwed over by a lot of other people over the years too.

Now I have herpes, trust issues, and bad credit, but hey, what can ya do eh?

Life is after all, just your body dying, after you hit 18 or so, it's just a series of diminishing returns, then you die.

 

[Bernzz]

"There's always other fist in the sea"

But only if you're into that.

OP, that sucks.
I can't sympathise properly with you, because I was never cheated on (though I wouldn't put it past my recent ex), but I know that that would fuck with me quite a bit.

Interestingly enough, I have been accused of cheating, by said ex.
When she knew how much I loathed the concept. When I'd been nothing but honest the entire time she knew me. When she had cheated in the past and I hadn't.
Because someone flirted with me after the relationship was over.
Go figure.

Anywho, all I can say is that it sucks majorly, honestly.

Try getting into a new game/back into an old game. If you have a hobby, focus on that more.
Hanging out with friends always helps pick me up, too.

 

[Antari]

Don't waste time thinking about someone who does not value you. Move on to the next mental case. The grass is greener where you water it. Yes, it IS a Tin Foil Tricorn. You'll have to make your own.

Spoiler: Understanding people is just as difficult as understanding Bjork explain understanding people.

Spoiler: Good advice

Spoiler: For after

 

[SonOfVoorhees]

Just go out drinking with a friend and get it all out of your system. Dont stay at home feeling miserable. I dont know how many years the relationship was or what she did and who with - but it will get better for you. An no going back to her....ever. Go do something fun instead with friends - you will feel bad but its easier to get over it with friends.

To cheer you up i find this story funny. Also Llamas with hats is fun.

 

[Artina89]

I sent this song to my friend who went through a similar thing to you, and it cheered him up, so I hope this does the same to you. If it doesn't, then I am sorry if it seems inappropriate:


But Weird Al Yankovic seems to be able to cheer anybody up.

 

[kaizen2468]

More fish in the sea.
At least it happened before you married her and had to go through a divorce.

 

[Jarek Mace]

I'm not that good with words, and it doesn't sum up my view of women, but if there's anything to get your attitude up:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ic7KH1PpbMY

 

[Something Amyss]

It's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all?

'sall I got.

Your avatar would disagree with you.

 

[Xanarch]

I know I shouldn't, but I fucking miss her. This feels shit.

It's only natural you'd miss her. What you're feeling is normal, and it's an unfortunately painful proof that you're capable of forming emotional attachments to another human being. It's pure biochemistry, and going cold turkey on a person is no less difficult than quitting any other drug. Your brain's become addicted to the serotonin and oxytocin being around her used to release. The best cure really is to go have a fun night out with your friends and flirt with a cute lady. Cold turkey sucks, but these substitutes may make things far more manageable, and could take the edge off your withdrawal. And keep in mind, everyone grieves differently, so don't start thinking that you should feel one way or another, or should bounce back immediately. You're allowed to be sad about what you hoped you had, even if she betrayed it. Falling out of love is never easy and it's ok to feel bad for a while. Just don't let one person who doesn't deserve you close you off to someone who might just be the best you'll ever meet.

 

[CatsPajamas]

I know I shouldn't, but I fucking miss her. This feels shit.

Well look at it this way, good news is that she won't be cheating on you anymore. And if she's with the person she cheated on you with or even someone else, chances are VERY VERY good that she's going to cheat on them.

Never trust a cheater, even if you do get back with them, as much as you want to trust them, deep down you never will. There will always be this doubt inside you eating away every time stressing you the fuck out.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

I mean personally if I were you? I'd use the extra free time to do something new. If you always wanted to learn how to play an instrument or use a program or whatever now is the perfect time. Plus it will distract you from your ex hatewench. The world is your oyster and now that you're single theres nobody who can tell you you can't put your dick in it. Fuck that oyster friendo. Fuck that oyster.

 

[Astoria]

Well you just gotta take it as they were a crummy person and it's better you found out now than later after you had kids or something and got stuck having to deal with them for life. Go play some games were you kill things and get involved in a project or something to help distract you while you get over it. Worst thing you could do is dwell on it. Also when you can stay angry instead of depressed cuz its easier to deal with and you're less likely to do something stupid like go back to them (been there it's a bad choice). You'll be alright

 

[suitepee7]

well, maybe this will give you some good advice