My Friendly... Problem

[Shadowtek]

Straight to the point then, I have a friend that i have known for years and always gotten along with. We lost touch a couple years back and have recently found each other again. Just like old times we met up and started hanging out.

This is where the problem starts. I have always been attracted to this friend and her to me. We rediscovered this little fact when we were having dinner and talking. The conversation was kept light and we laughed with each other. At the end of the night when we were to go separate ways we both hesitated and cast nervous glances back at one an other.

In that night we discovered that we both were still strongly attracted to each other. However, I am with someone already, and so is she. Both of us are loyal will not betray our partners. This attraction makes its strange to be simple friends. Both of us want more.

Is this wrong? Tell me your thoughts on the subject, please.

 

[Compatriot Block]

Hmmmmm. That's an interesting predicament there. Wrong? I'm not so sure, if you aren't acting on it. It depends on your personal beliefs on "right and wrong."

 

[Slayer_2]

It's only wrong if you act on your impulses. Thoughts never hurt anyone unless they are voiced or acted out.

 

[Puppeteer Putin]

It's not wrong at all, in fact its quite natural. I would say act upon it. If your partners are true friends (which they should be) then yes they'll be hurt but shouldn't resent your for your decision. Don't do anything before hand, but just tell them. You would want them to do the same for you if they were in that situation right?

From what I hear, your loyal but who do you know better, like more and want to spend time with? Unfortunately logic doesn't enter into feelings much.

EDIT: I got triple Ninja'd. Ouch.

 

[Lyiat]

Its not wrong to feel strongly for someone like that... You have a good, long history with that person and you (hopefully) cared for them in the past. Just do not betray the person you are with now. That would be wrong.

 

[Lyri]

Go for it, who cares?

If you're young, hearts will heal in time.
Just be sure you both want it and it won't ruin your previous friendship before you get all Carpe Diem on that.

 

[Super_Nintendo_Chalmers]

Perfectly Natural,
however if you both have a strong attraction to eachother, and you're only "trying" to like the person you're with to stay loyal,
then that's just unfair to your current partner,
either push away those feelings or go for it.

 

[Alex_P]

In all seriousness, have you (you plural, not just you you) considered an open relationship?

-- Alex

 

[sonicmaster1989]

It's only wrong if you leave witnesses. Consider the two options and hit both.