My gf's dad hates me.

[Tiny116]

Even an overprotective dad needs a reason to hate you...so what is it? If you aren't honest, no one can help you manage the relationship.

Unless he's a possessive father then he needs no reason. A boyfriend is stealing his little girl away.

OT: Just be polite man. Give him no reason to do anything, then you can't be placed in the wrong for any reason.

 

[coolman9899]

my ex's dad didn't like any boys so I dumped her :\ saw no possibility for a relationship

 

[EightGaugeHippo]

Of course he hates you. You're dating his daughter, he doesn't trust you because you are a youthful male, in his eyes you only want one thing: SEXY TIME
Ergo, he hates your guts

This

Her Dad has mostlikely been like this at somepoint in time himself, Where all he thinks about is poon.
Just try and make it seem like your dating her for more honest things than just getting your rocks off, theres nothing wrong with lying. =P

 

[Vyper1X]

Hes doing his job as a father, and your not good enough for his daughter.

its nothing personal to you, because in all likelihood it wouldn't matter who you were.

That or could be like my situation(in the role of the dad) that dad doesn't like you because he senses something in you that the females involved in the equation are oblivious to.

So good luck to you Sisyphus, youve got a majorly uphill battle ahead of you. Not to say it cant be won, but your willingness to fight it to stay with her and earn some degree of his respect is sort of the test for you to prove you ARE good enough for his little princess.

Just dont show up in this t-shirt

Thats is AWESOME!!!!!!

OT: if I were you i'd just try not to give him anymore of a reason to dislike your. I doubt you will be able to change his mind the guy sounds like a complete douche.

 

[V TheSystem V]

I don't think my ex girlfriend's dad approved of me because I looked like a mess, but I only met him once before we broke up, so it was all fine. Didn't help I made awkward conversation.

Be yourself. Don't be something you're not just because someone is disapproving. You treat his daughter right, that is all that matters.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

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You make a couple of good points. I'm not in it for the sex though, like many people seem to believe that I am. XD

I really care about her and I'm not sleeping with her, although it is something we'll probably do in the future. I really like her, shes smart, funny, pretty, and the list can go on and on. Honestly, even if he never likes me, I only hope that he can at least respect me and deal with the fact that I'm here to stay.

I can be fairly diplomatic when I need to be, so talking with him won't be too bad if I can make him laugh a bit and relax. Once I do that, he'll (hopefully) let go of his unfounded ideas of me long enough to see that I'm basically alright.

 

[Johnny Cain]

It's a good sign.
Just don't rise to him, and act really non-chalant about everything he does. If he ever threatens to get violent, say something along the lines of "That'll look really good to the authorities, huh?"

 

[emeraldrafael]

He's threatened you. Call the cops on him. He wants to fuck with you? Ruin his life.

I'd really, REALLY rather not do that. I know that he has no legal problems with me, and I know I've broken no laws, so the worst that can happen as far as the cops go is me explaining the situation. I'll also hope that the cops I might have to talk to are either men or have sons and not daughters so that they'll understand where I'm coming from. XD

Also, other than the fact that he doesn't like me, he's basically alright. I mean, I think he could treat her a little more like family (he never married her mother and now he's married to some lady and has a stepson and biological daughter with her, so he sees my gf as...I wouldn't quite say a burden, but I'm sure you get the idea.). It's an interesting situation that they have, but I think she's worth it.

As he has threatened you he has committed a crime. Nothing to explain.

Dont sue him. That shows two things. One you're a spineless pussy. Two, you're letting him get to you. Besides, say you do sue him. Is the girl going to like that you just got her dad into legal trouble? No, I'd say not. Just let it go.

From what he's been saying, I don't think she would care. As for your first point, who gives a damn what he thinks?

Maybe no one, but that lowers self confidence and self worth in the girl's eyes. you have to stand up to the day, and if you let what he says get to you, it nags and eats in the back of your mind.

and still, family is family.

 

[emeraldrafael]

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Well, its not your opinion on it I'm worried about, But if you want to say that, no, everyone isnt EXACTLY the same. BUt people in general are the same. On some level we all hate, we all love, we all wish to something. We are unique, and yet the same.

Now, OBVIOUSLY he's bothered by what her dad said, but suing him will do no one any good. He needs to stand up on his own and needs to show that he can take the weight of a few words against him. It will prove to him he can stand the pressure of thoughts against him,a dn to his gf that he wont buckle if someone says he isnt right for you.

 

[Plurralbles]

he must have smelled your fear.


Get off this site and make something out of yourself and if he still hates you, make him REALLY hate you.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

he must have smelled your fear.


Get off this site and make something out of yourself and if he still hates you, make him REALLY hate you.

I'm not afraid of him. Also, I'm a full time college student, I'm 19 and already working on my BA and attending the best university in my state. It's not my accomplishments he dislikes, it's me as a person. Nice try though.

 

[JBarracudaL]

Pee on your gf to mark her as yours. That's what I do.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Keep dating here. Carry a Bigass Sword [http://images.knifecenter.com/knifecenter/cas/images/2060gt.jpg] and always be prepared for a battle to the death.

I have a sword and know how to use it, but that's a topic for a different thread. XD

 

[Admiral Stukov]

I had about the same issue with my last gf, only it was her twin sister, not her dad.

It did not work out well.
Sorry for being a downer, but well my experiences in this department is rather limited.

 

[klaynexas3]

I'm sure that this isn't exactly rare. Her mom likes me and we get along great, but her dad really has it out for me. I mean he's threatened to call the cops, and hunt me down and all sorts of stuff like that. Luckily he hasn't gotten violent because I'd really hate to have to beat down my gf's dad. XD

Anyway, her parents are separate, and it's not like I have to see them all the time, but it's just annoying that it seems like I have to jump through hoops just to date her because she's amazing and I really like her. The only problem we have is her dad.

Any ideas/suggestions for dealing with a hostile parent? I've heard of parents hating gfs too, so I guess this could apply there as well. Normally I get along well with my friends/gfs parents, he's the only one that seems to have a problem with me.

you've probably heard this a lot, but just show him that you legitimately care about her, and you're not just taking advantage of her. my friend has the same issue, only kind of backwards. she's dating one of my other friends, and his mom's a total psycho *****. she hates like anything that is even slightly different than what she wants for him and will do anything to anyone that dare get in her way. anyway, i think your gf's dad is more reasonable than the psycho ***** mom. he's over protective and her, and you have to prove to him that you care about her. things'll work out bro, you'll see.