My life: Your trolling hands

[PayneTrayne]

At the moment I'm 19, living with my dad and in University. I'm in class three days a week, and I'm working two part-time jobs but not making that much cash. I want to move out of my dad's house, reason is he's constantly tearing me down. For instance, I bought soup that wasn't on sale and got yelled at for about 5 minutes. My mum asked to take her car in for E-Testing and I was yelled at for an hour for not doing it myself.

I'm currently living with my dad because he and my mother are seperated. She lives across town, not that far really, actually closer to school but farther from my friends.

Here's the options: I can either A: Stay with my dad, put up with the harassment and have him pay for my schooling. (I work for him in the summer for free so he'll do this).
B. Move in with my mother. She's an alcoholic and won't pay for my school, but she doesn't care whether or not soup is on fucking sale or not.
C. Move out on my own. With little money, and probably be forced to either move back in with one of my parents and take on a bit of debt.

 

[Anarchemitis]

If you spend your free time playing video games and/or browsing internet forums, you probably have enough autonomy in your free time to do some research about living by yourself. Since from what you've disclosed you're not on the most.. ideal terms with your father, you probably won't get much advice from him on what to look for in a rented place either. Therefore research that as well, if you have any inclination as to option C.
Personally I do not think random forum goers qualify for making such weighty decisions, nor should they have any sway. But I am not in the habit of avoiding advice which I could consider useful when its freely given. The choice is whatever you make of it, but I will pray for you.

 

[VGC USpartan VS]

My Pick: Peform an intervention on your mother to get her to stop drinking, would be first. If my mother was an alcoholic... my tactics would be a little harsh so I think you should stick with an intervention. Keep option A for awhile. But when your finished, openly and emotionly complain to him about the harassment he has given you and then proceed to move out.

So A (for awhile) then C.

Btw: I feel for you man, one of my uncles is an alcoholic with two more being former alcoholics.

 

[deleted_by_strongbad]

Examine your parents' finances, see if you can get copies of their tax returns, take that info to the university's finance consultant/counselor/etc. It may be possible that you can get funding. Many people can replace jobs with funding from their school/government/local institutions. Also, look into scholarships/grants, many just require that you ask for the money and are passing, and even those are often underutilized and so don't give out as much money as they had planned to. There are options to get help paying for school for anyone whether or not your parents have loot, which would allow you to live on your own and get help with school <- Optimal Situation.

Though if after analyzing the situation, you find that it is stay with your dad and get your school paid for, or move out on your own, work for a few years and eventually go back, stay at your dad's. Let him beat you nearly to hospitalization before you quit school.

 

[PayneTrayne]

Thankee very much for all the situations. Head cooled down and I'ma tough it out for the school year with my dad. I'm moving out of town for work this Summer anyway so should be a much better time. I figure when I get back to town I should be able to move in with my mum and pay for school on my own.

Once again, thanks alot for all the help, and moving of threads. Love, peace, and chicken grease.