My roomate might be teasing me?

[Mersadeon]

Ok, so this is my situation: I study in a city I don't come from. I moved together with another student about a year ago since I really don't want to live alone, just like her - and overall, it fits. We get along, we've become friends and everything is fine.
Except, well, she really likes to run around almost naked.
Don't get me wrong, this isn't something new. Pretty much on our first day we made clear that I don't feel uncomfortable with that and that it's ok as long as she doesn't mind me seeing it.
And just to get it out of the way - there is no romantic attraction here, from neither side. That much is clear.
However, it seems she is getting quite a bit more provocative now. I don't know if that means anything - I try to, you know, no stare and all that, but she doesn't seem to mind.
My problem is, I don't know if that change means anything. Does she just care even less how much she has on, or is she doing this deliberately? She seems to wear even less around me than she does around her female friends (whom she has been friends with for many years).
Don't get me wrong, I don't want her to stop. She's just really hard to read.

EDIT: Just realised that "roomate" implies we use the same bedroom. I guess "flatmate" is more appropriate?

 

[manic_depressive13]

What's almost naked? Underwear? Underpants but no bra?

Anyway, a lot of people like to hang around naked or almost naked in their own homes. It doesn't seem like she's trying to drop hints and I'd be pretty cautious about assuming that's the case. It sounds like she just likes to be naked in her house. I'm sure that if she lived with her friends she would be naked around them too.

 

[Mersadeon]

What's almost naked? Underwear? Underpants but no bra?

Anyway, a lot of people like to hang around naked or almost naked in their own homes. It doesn't seem like she's trying to drop hints and I'd be pretty cautious about assuming that's the case. It sounds like she just likes to be naked in her house. I'm sure that if she lived with her friends she would be naked around them too.

Oftentimes, a shirt that's a bit too short and nothing else. Or stuff that has buttons, except she only buttons one. Underwear happens a lot, too.

I get that. A lot of these things are for convenience. It just sometimes seems like she is showing it off. I am mostly asking because I am known to not get hints when they are dropped (like, ever). I'm not assuming she's trying to seduce me or anything, I just wonder if she is doing it on purpose, because at times it seems like that.
Overall, I guess that's just wishful thinking.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Oftentimes, a shirt that's a bit too short and nothing else. Or stuff that has buttons, except she only buttons one. Underwear happens a lot, too.

I get that. A lot of these things are for convenience. It just sometimes seems like she is showing it off. I am mostly asking because I am known to not get hints when they are dropped (like, ever). I'm not assuming she's trying to seduce me or anything, I just wonder if she is doing it on purpose, because at times it seems like that.
Overall, I guess that's just wishful thinking.

Hey, maybe she is. Does it change anything if there's a part of her that likes the attention? If it makes you uncomfortable you should tell her, but otherwise ignoring it seems like the best course of action.

 

[Jux]

The best way to find out would be to ask her. I've personally always found social cues difficult to read, especially when they're directed at me (lack of objectivity, confirmation bias, etc), though it can be equally hard over a forum like this with limited (and one sided) information. It might feel awkward, but it's all about how you approach the topic.

 

[Mersadeon]

Oftentimes, a shirt that's a bit too short and nothing else. Or stuff that has buttons, except she only buttons one. Underwear happens a lot, too.

I get that. A lot of these things are for convenience. It just sometimes seems like she is showing it off. I am mostly asking because I am known to not get hints when they are dropped (like, ever). I'm not assuming she's trying to seduce me or anything, I just wonder if she is doing it on purpose, because at times it seems like that.
Overall, I guess that's just wishful thinking.

Hey, maybe she is. Does it change anything if there's a part of her that likes the attention? If it makes you uncomfortable you should tell her, but otherwise ignoring it seems like the best course of action.

It doesn't make me uncomfortable at all, it just makes me curious - while there isn't anything romantic, the idea that she likes it appeals to me.

EDIT:

The best way to find out would be to ask her. I've personally always found social cues difficult to read, especially when they're directed at me (lack of objectivity, confirmation bias, etc), though it can be equally hard over a forum like this with limited (and one sided) information. It might feel awkward, but it's all about how you approach the topic.

I might actually do that. I don't really want to ask straight up (since that might make her uncomfotable) but I can probably ask in a better way. Gonna think about that.

 

[FieryTrainwreck]

I think talking it out is a terrible idea. You're not distressed by her nudity. You sound like you're enjoying it. She is clearly enjoying it, and she is (at worst) neutral towards you as an observer. Broaching the subject qualifies as overt communication, and overt communication is the opposite of seduction. Now seduction might not be at play here, but it does sound like an amusing little game for you two. Conversation is the quickest way to suck the fun out of it and, well, end it. I promise. Cross my heart.

You've made it sound like she's escalating her nudity in your presence, but ward yourself against wishful thinking here. Is she hanging around you or just passing by? Is she looking at you to see if you're looking at her? When you do look at her, does she cover up or pretend not to notice? Most importantly, what do you want out of this? If you want to hook up, make your interest known. Have yourself a few nice, long looks. If she starts wearing more clothes, mystery solved. If she starts wearing fewer clothes, it might be sexy times. If that's not on your agenda, just enjoy the show.

Also, if you're worried that she is developing feelings for you, feelings you don't reciprocate, and that she is using her nudity as a means to court your interest, you can simply stay your present course and wait for her to come to you. When covert behavior fails repeatedly over a long enough period of time, a girl will either give up or switch to overt declarations. Either way, your problem will be solved and/or known.

 

[Vegosiux]

I might actually do that. I don't really want to ask straight up (since that might make her uncomfotable) but I can probably ask in a better way. Gonna think about that.

I'd just note "You know I'm not used to people being comfortable around me naked", if anything. But make sure to make it seem more like a passing remark than an actual issue to press.

I mean, that's what I would do, not saying it's the best way to go about it (I don't know whether or not it is)

 

[IndomitableSam]

Coming from a girl's perspective...

You're safe. She knows you're not going to make a move on her so she's comfortable around you. That said, she's also experimenting. She's expressing her sexuality around you because it makes her feel good (and safe). She's doing it because she can and she's experimenting with herself to see how comfortable she is with herself around other people.

Honestly, you're just there for thrills and for a measuring stick. If you feel she's crossed the line, just tell her you're starting to get uncomfortable with things. Ask her to start covering herself as it's not okay. Don't make it sexual at all. Just in a calm voice tell her you're not comfortable with it anymore.

It might sound mean, but I highly doubt she 'likes' you. She's obviously very comfortable with you - but she's also testing you and herself. There isn't actually anything sexual about what she's doing - she's just testing boundaries. Keep sex out of it and simply ask her to cover herself and it should be okay.

Hopefully. Things could get pretty scary if she's unstable.

 

[Ragsnstitches]

As long as it's strictly platonic (and that's how you want to keep it) I don't see why you would need to broach the subject with her.

I suppose there could be the racey element (practicing mild exhibitionism) or she could be just carefree. Heck, I don't know you, but maybe you just exude trustworthiness. Whatever the case, if it's not bothering you (negatively) I can't see why you'd want to change that. Personally I can't see how you can bring up the subject without her thinking you're interested (which you claim you're not), meaning even if she doesn't think of you that way, the notion is in the air confusing things regardless.

Again, I don't know you (or her) so maybe you can dicuss this matter of factly without any major disruptions. But from my experience (and observations) that's not a common trait for 2 people to share. When something is left to speculation it can be confusing, but if they are out in the open but unresolved they can be exceptionally disruptive.

Really, this is down to your own discretion. I personally prefer not to meddle when things are stable, but then again, I've never been in this scenario myself (to that extent at least).

 

[LetalisK]

Don't be fooled! She clearly wants you. Badly. The only solution now is to go down to your local fish market, buy the finest cod you can find, and conduct a flamboyant mating ritual in the living room that culminates in you slapping her across the face with said cod. No woman can resist it.

Conversely, if you don't have those feelings for her, it doesn't really matter if she is doing it to attract you or not. There's nothing worth reading. Just float on.

 

[Weaver]

The only solution is to start getting more and more naked yourself.
I'm not being a trolly, smartassy comment; I'm dead serious. I would fight fire with fire.