My silly relationship problem

[a ginger491]

I am in a bit of pickle right now. I have a friend that I fell for a while ago who recently broke up, I didn't ask her out right away because I thought it would be scummy and selfish on my part. So I bide my time for about a month and then when I finally grow a pair and am about to ask her out, I find out she's already going out with someone else. I know it's my fault because I was too timid and treated it like a damn chess match but I just want to know what I should do from here. Should I just remain good friends with her, spill my guts to her while she's in her current relationship, or wait until I have a chance to ask her out again?

 

[lettucethesallad]

You win some, you lose some, and sorry man, but I think you lost this one. If you can leave your feelings out of it, be her friend. If not, well, just leave it until you can. Declaring your undying love for her at this stage will probably just create more problems than it will solve.

 

[MomoElektra]

Should I just remain good friends with her, spill my guts to her while she's in her current relationship, or wait until I have a chance to ask her out again?

My first thought was: Can't you do all of that?

If you're comfortable with it and want her friendship stay her friend (a short time out to get rid of some awkwardness is ok, if needed).

If you feel up to it talk to her while she is in the relationship, but be prepared she might not feel happy about it.
Might depend on how you do it, though. Like, if you can mention with a roguish, charming smile how you too had your eye (but only the left one!) one her or something. Showing your interest without putting pressure on her is the key.

And you can also wait and see what happens and maybe ask in the future. Depends on what you are and will be ok and comfortable most with.

 

[Angie7F]

There is a thing called window of opportunity, and it seems you have missed it.
You should probably just move on, and look for someone new

 

[Goofguy]

Just remain good friends with her for the moment. If she is really committed to this new relationship then spilling your guts now could make things awkward between you two (the operative word being COULD as you would have a better idea how she would react to it than we would).

Frankly, it seems like it's time to move on. Put yourself out there and meet some new people. In finding someone else you really like, you may just find you'll get over this and be 100% okay with remaining as just friends with her.

 

[Bertylicious]

A friend of mine once told me that regrets are stupid because you always do the thing you want to do at the time with the information that you have.

If you want to ask her out then you should do it. If you don't you won't get closure, one way or the other, and looking back on this whole, sorry, situation will give you Feelings.