My social position...

[Steam Colossus]

To day at lunch I was at my friends house eatin' my sandwich when his twin sister and a bunch of her friends walked in. Later I was sitting alone with them and they were on face book and one of them was having boy problems and then they turned to me and started to pour there problems on me and I am concerned they think of me as a gay friend when I'm straight as a pencil...
As you can imagine this is a difficult position because I like his sister.
Is this a bad place to be in?

 

[Geekosaurus]

No. Milk it up until she feels like the can trust you and then try it on.

Ok, so you probably shouldn't do that. Just because she chose to tell you her problems doesn't automatically mean that she thinks you're gay. Maybe she just thinks you're trustworthy?

 

[child of lileth]

Maybe they just wanted a guy's opinion. It doesn't necessarily mean they think you're gay.

 

[delet]

Obviously the best thing to do is shout "I'M NOT GAY!" the next opportunity you get. It's imperative you make this fact known, so be as loud about it as possible.

 

[Kirkby]

Im straight and doing quite well for my self but girls confide in me all the time. Just means they trust you. Or value ur opinion, idk which one it is but its a bit of a win win situation least thats what its like for me

 

[El Poncho]

Whap your schlong out onto a table and then they should see that your not gay...

[small] Disclaimer: May result in mass screaming and loss of friends. [/small]

 

[Amethyst Wind]

They might not think you're gay. They might, however, place you squarely in the friend zone.

It's up to you which is the worse situation.

 

[ottenni]

This is a good thing my friend. They obviously think you are likable and trustworthy enough to talk to, thats good. That or they are secretly trying to manipulate you so as they can humiliate you when you are weakest. Be afraid, be very afraid.

Also was it a good sandwich?

 

[Blue_vision]

OP, I'm in a similar position with basically all of my female friends. But like only 2 have actually joked that I'm like a gay friend, and none actually saying so. It's just being a good friend, I don't think that gender plays much of a role.

 

[Imp Poster]

haha, which sister?

Man, I would go with it. Like I may have realized I were gay but after seeing her, I may not be angle.

 

[Gray Monk]

Tell her you have a problem... with your super huge wiener.

I have the exact same problem my good sir.

They most likely don't think your gay maybe they just need a guy to talk to.
But if they do, make a joke out of it that's what I'd do.

 

[Caligulove]

Well, you may be heading into the friend zone- but I doubt she thinks of you as a gay friend. I mean, have you ever thought that she might think you have a good opinion about her situation? As for stuff with the friend zone, think carefully about that. I know a lot of guys that will say that they want more out of the friendship with 'X' and they think that things would be so much better if they somehow confessed their feelings to the girl, or that it would be a good relationship.

But my advice would be, if you think that you are friends, and really in that 'friend zone' then don't pursue an intimate relationship with her. It won't work out like you think it will work out. It never does. That and you might be trading up having a great, life-long friend that will always be in your life- for a lukewarm relationship that just won't feel right if you're already in that niche of confiding everything and asking for emotional support from.

You don't get many friends like that. Someone you can confide ideas and just talk to without worrying about sexual tension. Keep those people close. You will know many women in your life.

 

[ElectroJosh]

The "friend zone" isn't such a terrible place to be. Quite a few of my friends have moved from friends to more and I have been friends with a girl who I liked and we ended up dating and going out. I think people are overly paranoid because of that line "I like you as a friend" is often used as a way of declining requests for more. The truth is many relationships naturally develop out of friend ships as people who had common ground realise they also have a mutual attraction.

Just don't be wierd about it (hard, I know) because I have also seen many people develop an attraction for a friend and begin behaving in strange ways so that the other party is completely put-off before anything else happens.

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

It's nothing to be that concerned about. It just means you're trustworthy, which isn't something to avoid just because it puts you in the friend zone.

 

[Stryc9]

Well, you may be heading into the friend zone- but I doubt she thinks of you as a gay friend. I mean, have you ever thought that she might think you have a good opinion about her situation? As for stuff with the friend zone, think carefully about that. I know a lot of guys that will say that they want more out of the friendship with 'X' and they think that things would be so much better if they somehow confessed their feelings to the girl, or that it would be a good relationship.

But my advice would be, if you think that you are friends, and really in that 'friend zone' then don't pursue an intimate relationship with her. It won't work out like you think it will work out. It never does. That and you might be trading up having a great, life-long friend that will always be in your life- for a lukewarm relationship that just won't feel right if you're already in that niche of confiding everything and asking for emotional support from.

You don't get many friends like that. Someone you can confide ideas and just talk to without worrying about sexual tension. Keep those people close. You will know many women in your life.

What this guy says. I doubt she thinks you're gay, she just trusts you enough to ask your opinion on her problems. If you're comfortable with it give her honest feedback you will most likely be rewarded with a friend you can always count on.

The closest friend I have right now is going through what turned into a nasty breakup with a guy who was another close friend of mine. She knows I'm not gay and she's trusted me with quite a bit in the last few months. I thought at one time that I would want a romantic relationship with her, and I even asked her out years ago and was put in this so-called 'friend zone'. Now I'm glad that she did because I have a close and loyal friend who I wouldn't have now if any sort of intimate relationship had not worked out.

 

[Nouw]

I doubt they think you're gay, she probably just wanted a guy's opinion.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

I'm laughing hysterically at the fact that you think that they believe you're gay for simply asking your opinion. Don't be ridiculous. This has to be a joke. You're doing it wrong if they're asking for your opinion on the matter since you should be the one giving them the boy problems. Or lack thereof.

 

[Rasputin1]

Just back away... slowly..

 

[fgdfgdgd]

I point you to the movie 'Just Friends' watch it, it has some golden nuggets in there on how to avoid the friend zone.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

To day at lunch I was at my friends house eatin' my sandwich when his twin sister and a bunch of her friends walked in. Later I was sitting alone with them and they were on face book and one of them was having boy problems and then they turned to me and started to pour there problems on me and I am concerned they think of me as a gay friend when I'm straight as a pencil...
As you can imagine this is a difficult position because I like his sister.
Is this a bad place to be in?

Unfortunately yes, to them you are not their gay friend, you are the man with no dick. Either express your intentions or accept the fact that for now, you are and will be her friend.

I nearly rolled out of my chair after that "you are the man with no dick" comment. hahaha