Need Advice on Picking Up Men

[Andy of Comix Inc]

...okay so this is going to sound really whiny and pathetic. Probably because it is.

Anyway, my rock band was asked to play at this gay pride event in our city. It's the first event of its kind here, celebrating LGBT acceptance and basically being a haven for folks to hang out and dance and chill away from prejeduices. Like a gay bar, but with less bar.

Anyway, this being the case, and myself being... bisexual, I thought I'd try my hand at seeing if I can't "pick up," as the kids call it. A gay guy. Or a straight girl. Or a transgender. Or... look, whatever. Point is I wanna test the waters here and see how I go. It's just I've never been out drinking. Ever. And I've certainly never picked anyone up before. Ever.

I've received conflicting advise from friends. Be yourself. Be confident. Be drunk. Be sober. Be tipsy. ...and I just can't make heads or tails with it. Assuming it doesn't just boil down to downright dumb luck. Also, I'm assuming that men and women pick up all the same, but I just have no idea if that's true.

So yes. Escapist? Throw your wisdom at me. Or your amusing idiocy. Either'll do. ...thanking you in advance.

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

Bumpin' the thread cos I only have an hour before the advise becomes obsolete. >_>

 

[Angie7F]

Dress nice, be confident because first impressions are all that matters when your are " picking up" people.
Personality counts when you " meet" people, not picking up.
Smelling nice will also have good impact too.

As for how exactly I would do it is, based on what I used to do. It's lame, but lame is good because the other person does not have to guess what your intentions are.
- ask for a cigarette.
If they don't have one, just say, great because I don't want one either. I just wanted and excuse to talk to you.
If they do , and you smoke, let them light it for you and do the usual " do you come here a lot" thing.
If they do but you don't smoke, just thanks, but actually I don't smoke. I just wanted to talk to you.
Best thing about this is you can see if that person is a smoker or not, and if they don't like you they won't spare a cigarette for you.

- accidently bump into them on purpose.
Always follow up with a sorry are you ok? Wow, your shoes are so cute/ I love your t shirt/ what are you drinking? Hey I'm so and so by the way

- make eye contact and smile

I was always someone who could do this sober, but a few beers to shake off the nerves is ok. Just not pissed drunk.
In a way if you a too sober, people may think you are not fun and too disparate since the reason you are in the bar will now become picking up people, not grabbing a few drinks.
Also offering to buy a drink will usually at least prolong your conversation until they finish drink the drink you bought for them.
If you have extra cash, you probably would want to do it...