Need advice with my current relationship status.

[pigletbutt]

also quit calling her your ex. she should be referred to as a girl you used to go out with. you should only cry when someone, or something...read- BP- is unkind to animals.
she is immature, you are too, that is ok, it is a product of youth. go on your way, dont look and you might be suprised at what you find.

take the other girl out, and eat her pussy, she will be yours. oh, be kind to her and she will be yours, too, but both of you need to be fair to eachother.

 

[breadlord]

After reading these comments, it has benefited, because people kinda ignored the last few lines.... (I knew it would happen.) Anyways she was back in school today and on Monday, I hope, she will be in Jazz Band.

It's easy....

What do you want to do?
Okay, interesting, interesting.
Now go do it.

I'll have the receptoninst bill you on the way out.

How much will it be, my good sir?

Edit:

She's been openly cheating on you and rubbing your face in it and you've been taking it. Forget that slut and date whoever else.

Also this. I should have added that I was mad at her because she just wasted 6 months of my life. Oh well, that dramatic scene where the last attempt for her to try and get me back but I unleash a bombshell on her, might not happen. Oh well.

 

[pigletbutt]

didn't waste any tme on her, you learned how to deal with this sorta thing...

 

[BonsaiK]

Arguments about shaving her legs and haircuts...? Asking someone else to alter their personal grooming because you happen to prefer certain things is in the same ballpark as her saying to you "you play computer games and I don't, therefore it's games or me". You have to learn to accept other people for who they are, not for who you want them to be. You killed any chances of a healthy relationship with your ex permanently right there.

That's nonsense. Asking a girl to shave her legs is not comparable to being uninterested in her personality. It's a dumb argument to be sure, but you're going way too far the other way with doomsaying. If you can't be honest with your partner, THAT is what kills it.

It's not nonsense at all. Fail to heed that advice at your peril. I'm not saying "don't be honest", I'm just saying "don't get into an argument over what a woman does with her own body". I know more than one girl who has dumped her boyfriend after an an argument like this. It's not the hair itself that's important, it's the precedent of control over the other person that it sets.

 

[TaboriHK]

You shouldn't try upstaging her. Nothing tells someone "I'm not over you yet" like the extreme desire to show them 'what they screwed up.'

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Even though many have already said it...I feel it needs to be re-iterated. MOVE ON. This girl is obviously not worth the time since she is not the person you once thought she was. Dude, trust me, I'VE BEEN THERE. I was dumped after a three year relationship and the girl began dating another guy THAT SAME WEEK. I never EVER would have imagined something like to have happened. I attempt to make conversation with the girl, because well...I really truly loved her. I did. I still do. Its silly, but I still do. However, I do realize the simple fact that I have to move on. 7 months might seem like a long time, but trust me...thats nothing in terms of relationships. You have plenty more women ahead of you.

Learn from the mistakes in this past relationship. Get rid of the drama and explore new things with new people. It will be for the best. It may seem like a rebound situation, but ya know what? Who cares? You do what you have to do to get by.

I for one have yet to "rebound" and I'm past that stage anyway. I just have a lack of interest in the whole affair at this point.

Just my thoughts.

 

[CrashBang]

Wow... it all depends on how much you care about the girl who's now your ex and how tired you are of all the depression, breaking up and general arguments. I've been in a relationship like this in the past and, in the end, it gets to a point where it's just exhausting and you both have to agree to end it and move on. If this is the case with you then you need to find time for yourself, give yourself space to breathe, remember what it's like to be selfish, in a way, and then assess your options. Think about how much you like this girl in band class and whether going for it with her is really the right move. Just take things slow and don't over-think anything

I hope this advice wasn't too vague or generic (I hate generic advice)

 

[likalaruku]

Sounds like she's either a bit of a depressed train wreck who can't make up her mind, or she's an attention whore who's playing you & her ex for attention.

I'd avoid texting her or checking her facebook for a week, don't call her more than once a day either. If she responds my trying to contact you incessantly & then gets pissy with you about it, then odds are on her being a needy attention-whore. If she responds positively, then she just felt that you were clingy & smothering her.

Teen relationships are shallow & meaningless, & they should be. Teens are too impatient & hormonal, rarely bothering to know a person as a friend for a year before jumping imidiately into a relationship. Don't bother trying to commit to someone who isn't mentaly mature & take your early relationships with a grain of salt. Wax on-wax off, easy come easy go.

There's also what Comadorcrack suggested; trust problems. You wanna be with a woman who's constantly second-guessing & mistrusting you? Thinking you're always lying to her? Not healthy.

 

[sneakypenguin]

First off, you're not going to take my advice but I'll give it anyway - get away. You are WAAAAAAAY too dependent. If you can't have an honest conversation with someone, you're not really in a relationship. This is all high school bullshit, so none of it will matter anyway, and trust me, you're going to be embarrassed that you actually went through all this later. She ain't worth it, and you are in bad need of some time as a single person. This "world revolves around whether or not she'll leave me" nonsense is frankly more than a little pathetic and not at all where you want to be as far as life and self-esteem goes. Just punch out.

All hail the mighty TaboriHK, for he is a wise man and speaker of the truth.

All this relationship drama in highschool you will look back on and call yourself a dumbass. None of it is worth it, just do crap you enjoy, study, and ignore the drama, its a waste of time.

 

[klaynexas3]

you know what you need to do? find all your bro friends, not just friends and even if they're guys they don't count unless they're bros. you know who they are. just hang with them for a little while. fight someone, beat some shit up, commit a few crimes, do whatever it takes to just make her seem like the spec of dirt on the windshield of your life that you need to wipe off that she really is. just have fun essentially. maybe check out this new chick, but for at least a weekend, do nothing but hang with your bro friends. play some guitar, skateboard, do whatever you think would be fun. not trying to get a girl though. there is no such thing as a girl, you just hang with some bros, and have fun

 

[AndyFromMonday]

snip

You're in tune with the chav culture, aren't you?

OT: Write this down. It's a perfect story to tell your grandchildren! Seriously dude, it's high school. Drama like this only happens in a short time frame. Enjoy it!

 

[klaynexas3]

snip

You're in tune with the chav culture, aren't you?

OT: Write this down. It's a perfect story to tell your grandchildren! Seriously dude, it's high school. Drama like this only happens in a short time frame. Enjoy it!

the what culture? i honestly have no clue as to what you're talking about.

 

[zombiesinc]

My question for you is, what should I do? And how to do it?

It seems your ex doesn't know what she really wants, which isn't fair to you. She was trying to decide whether she should stay with you, or leave you for her ex... just another reason you should move on. If you're genuinely interested in this girl from band class, pursue it. Take it slow, and make sure it's what you really want, but if you do choose to do this, be prepared for a possible jealous attack or move from your ex. As I already said, she doesn't seem to know what she wants, and she obviously likes attention, so avoid her and her drama (especially via Facebook) as much as possible, especially if you date this band girl.

Honesty is important, but respecting what a person chooses to do with their own body is just as important. Yes, there are exceptions, but you get the point.

 

[Dogstile]

She has issues. Leave her!

 

[AndyFromMonday]

the what culture? i honestly have no clue as to what you're talking about.

You advised a high school student to "beat someone up" with his "bro's" and then also advised him to "commit a few crimes". Does chav really not ring a bell for you? If you're not familiar with the British term then I'm fairly sure the American one is wigger.

 

[Trivun]

Your old girlfriend is just messing you around, she's not worth the hassle. Dump her ass, delete her on Facebook and on your phone (and any other form of contact outside face-to-face talking), and just ignore her.

As for the girl from Jazz Band? Go for it. Visit her in hospital, talk to her during band practice, whatever. Just talk to her and ask her out for coffee or something, and good luck to you both. She seems much more worthy of your time than your old girlfriend, that's for certain.

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

Just let your ex go. She obviously doesn't know where she wants the relationship to go, and you have other options open for you. Just give a completely break from her a try.

 

[AquaAscension]

*Snip*

Forget the old girl, she sounds crazy if what you're saying is true that she was "hanging out with" and "kissing" other guys. She probably did something with her Ex and is projecting on you like you're a damn screen. Dump her. If not because she's crazy because she said:

This is a contest to see who can care the less

This comes from the idea that the person who cares the least in a relationship has the most power. And in a double dick move, she turned it into a game. And for the cherry on top of the dick move Sundae, she can't even formulate the proper grammar which means either A) she's dumb as a post B) A victim of the public education system (though with the internet people can find good grammar somewhere so victim becomes an almost obsolete at least quite relative term in this sense) C) she was was wasted as hell (because speech dies first) which would make her even less interesting/admirable. Watch the most recent episode of Community (find it on Hulu). It'll make you laugh and brings up a good point about alcohol.

Dump the girl, don't "go out" with the band girl. Become friends first (so you can avoid batshit this time) and if something happens that goes beyond standard friend category (I think you know to what I refer), then she may be good girlfriend material.

Whatever happens, Godspeed. Try to survive highschool with some sanity left.

 

[klaynexas3]

the what culture? i honestly have no clue as to what you're talking about.

You advised a high school student to "beat someone up" with his "bro's" and then also advised him to "commit a few crimes". Does chav really not ring a bell for you? If you're not familiar with the British term then I'm fairly sure the American one is wigger.

i never said beat someone up i said beat some shit up. i did say fight someone but i meant like one of your friends in a fight club style type setting. i guess i should've specified a bit more with that. and by bro, i meant like frat bros, not black bros. commit a few crimes was more like a misdemeanor type thing. like truancy or something like that to get the blood running. idk, i'm mostly just advising to make himself distract himself from anything that could lead to drama. lately i've been doing some of this shit and i have just been having fun even though i too have been going through a bit of the same situation as the OT. when i say bros, essentially i mean douche bags, cause they seem to be able to have the most fun. just as long as no one gets hurt without consent and it's nothing you can't entirely handle, do whatever really that distracts you

and yes i am familiar with that, but i've never been called that before

 

[AndyFromMonday]

i did say fight someone but i meant like one of your friends in a fight club style type setting.

Seriously? I mean who the fuck does that with their friends? What's the point?

and by bro, i meant like frat bros

He's in high school.

commit a few crimes was more like a misdemeanor type thing.

then say minor offences or something. Crime encompasses a lot of crap.

when i say bros, essentially i mean douche bags, cause they seem to be able to have the most fun.

So you like hanging around douche bags. Most people don't.

do whatever really that distracts you

Next time, just say this directly.