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Confidence, apparently that's what males like.
I say that because I have no confidence and I've never had a boyfriend in the 16 years I've been alive.
(It's definitely the confidence thing trust me, I get looks from guys but I never realise it because I keep my head down all the time)
Guys don't like ho-bags.
I say that because I have no confidence and I've never had a boyfriend in the 16 years I've been alive.
(It's definitely the confidence thing trust me, I get looks from guys but I never realise it because I keep my head down all the time
)Also, don't do this. ^Anonymouse said:
Guys don't like ho-bags.
I thought Florida's stereotype was old people?Zeeky_Santos said:
AMERICA STOP CHANGING YOUR STEREOTYPES OF STATES. US IGNORANT FOREIGNERS LOSE TRACK.
On topic:
Here is some girl dating dude advice from a lesbian who reacts to a confession of love by breaking up with that person!
Common interests are everything early on in a relationship. Idk how old you are, but in university, clubs are the way to get laid and/or forge long lasting relationships. The anime club at my uni may have well as been a matchmaking or wifeswapping club. Good times.
We are in the same boat, my friend. And yeah I don't dress like that. I'm too awesome to dress like that anyway.SecretTacoNinja said:Confidence, apparently that's what males like.
I say that because I have no confidence and I've never had a boyfriend in the 16 years I've been alive.
(It's definitely the confidence thing trust me, I get looks from guys but I never realise it because I keep my head down all the time
Also, don't do this. ^Anonymouse said:
Guys don't like ho-bags.
Look, the main reason you do not want to approach this guy is because you do not want to get rejected. No problem there, it is natural to have that fear of rejection, but honestly it is not that bad. In fact, after it happens a few times it is no big deal at all. I would rather be rejected by a girl outright than live my life wondering what would have happened. So, what if he says no, at least you know now. You have a fifty-fifty chance that he will say yes, and the other option is the worst thing that could happen. It's not like he is going to reach over the counter and punch you in the face. That would just be rude.
Also, try to be really cool if you get turned. If he says he has a girl, just write down your number anyway and give it to him and say "When you realize you are making a huge mistake, call me." Give a little wink then just walk away. That way even though you are being rejecting you sound like a badass and you will feel that way too. Who knows he may call you because in that moment you will stand out. That takes a lot of guts, but trust me, you will feel great, even if you get turned down.
Also, try to be really cool if you get turned. If he says he has a girl, just write down your number anyway and give it to him and say "When you realize you are making a huge mistake, call me." Give a little wink then just walk away. That way even though you are being rejecting you sound like a badass and you will feel that way too. Who knows he may call you because in that moment you will stand out. That takes a lot of guts, but trust me, you will feel great, even if you get turned down.
Look I don't want to argue with you but I can't let this go. "Tarting" up and giving guys the wrong impression is not what I want. I could do that any day. But having something special with someone is much more difficult and what I'm aiming for.Anonymouse said:
You're coming to a site where some of the worlds socially inept frequent and make threads about how to not be socially inept.
At the end of the day, everyone faces the same rejection as everyone else. It's more of a manner of how you deal with it.
That said, start with a hello and work you way on from there. If you can't even say hi you may as well forget the fact they have reproductive organs loitering somewhere about their person.
At the end of the day, everyone faces the same rejection as everyone else. It's more of a manner of how you deal with it.
That said, start with a hello and work you way on from there. If you can't even say hi you may as well forget the fact they have reproductive organs loitering somewhere about their person.
Speak for yourself. The guys I know hate sluts.Anonymouse said:
So in other words the mature ones.
Ever since leaving school I've become more fashionable and the likes. Got me hair done etc. And thanks everyone. I've been a bit catty I think but its just frustration. I'm getting more and more confident and with your help I think I could get through being rejected.Abi79 said:
HUGS FOR ALL!
How did you not get the shoulder thing?!Caliostro said:
That being said, just talk (yes I know it's easier said then done). Be yourself and if they don't like you how you are, then you just saved yourself from finding this out in the middle of a relationship.
Drinks are on you then.Major_Sam said:Ever since leaving school I've become more fashionable and the likes. Got me hair done etc. And thanks everyone. I've been a bit catty I think but its just frustration. I'm getting more and more confident and with your help I think I could get through being rejected.
Hrm. Let me see if I have the salient points down here...
1. You feel anxiety talking to "the guy of [your] dreams."
2. You're "not in it for the sex."
3. You're looking for a "close friend."
So he's the friend of your dreams? Just say hey then like you're talking to another girl. If I meet a woman who looks interesting and I want to talk to her (I'm married so that simplifies things greatly) I just talk to her like I would a guy who looks interesting. Making friends is a lot easier than getting the hookup.
Or are you saying that you want to make a romantic/relationship connection without putting sex on the table? If so, move to another planet, because you aren't going to pick up a guy on this one that way. Don't be slutty, because you aren't looking for the kind of guy who's looking for a girl like that, but if you're seriously not interested in sex at all, it almost sounds like you want to snag a guy so you can immediately friendzone him, and that's not cool.
1. You feel anxiety talking to "the guy of [your] dreams."
2. You're "not in it for the sex."
3. You're looking for a "close friend."
So he's the friend of your dreams? Just say hey then like you're talking to another girl. If I meet a woman who looks interesting and I want to talk to her (I'm married so that simplifies things greatly) I just talk to her like I would a guy who looks interesting. Making friends is a lot easier than getting the hookup.
Or are you saying that you want to make a romantic/relationship connection without putting sex on the table? If so, move to another planet, because you aren't going to pick up a guy on this one that way. Don't be slutty, because you aren't looking for the kind of guy who's looking for a girl like that, but if you're seriously not interested in sex at all, it almost sounds like you want to snag a guy so you can immediately friendzone him, and that's not cool.
Just say hi. Once you start the conversation it'd be easier to go from there.
It'd just over complicate things going into it trying to be something specific, or something you're not. Just be yourself and chat to him normally. Seems like the best plan of action to me.
It'd just over complicate things going into it trying to be something specific, or something you're not. Just be yourself and chat to him normally. Seems like the best plan of action to me.