Need Some advice

[Viewtiful Dan]

I'm not going to put all the details into it right now because I'm still trying to wrap my head around this thing. But here it is. Today I stopped one of my friends from commiting suicide. She was going to commit suicide because she would never find a guy that loved her. I only thought of her as a friend but I convinced her that I would go out with her because she has a really big crush on me. I feel kind of like douch because I just lied to her face and told her I liked her as more than friends but I didn't know what to do because she was gonna kill herself. I also feel like I could be setting myself up for an unpleasant series of events later. Since with this upcoming school year I will be a senoir and after I graduate I'm leaving the state I'm in. I'll probly break try to break up with her and go back to being friends because I don't do long distance relationships. Anyway thoughts, opinions, advice? Something

 

[Viewtiful Dan]

Tell her you like her but want to take it slow. During that time start building up her confidence then when hes all nice and confident tell her that you have recently found out you are gay (youre leaving town soon so who cares)

She ends up more confident, you get away scott free, everyones happy.

Well... in theory.

To be honest man, I can't even imagine a scenario where this ends well for anyone. Maybe you could ask around and see if any guys you know are interested in her though you did kinda fuck that over by saying you were into her. Also was this a real suicide attempt or a pansy ass cry for help?

It was a real attemtpt. One of her friends found her when she tried to kill herself and she wound up in the hospitle. Trust I tried every other possible thing to convince her otherwise. This was the last last resort. The only way I can see out is when I graduate. I know I fucked myself over. Also she won't be getting back till July so I have time

 

[Jamboxdotcom]

Tell her you like her but want to take it slow. During that time start building up her confidence then when hes all nice and confident tell her that you have recently found out you are gay (youre leaving town soon so who cares)

She ends up more confident, you get away scott free, everyones happy.

Worst case scenario, you have to have sex with a dude. Sometimes you gotta take one for the team.

Seriously, though... encourage her to get treatment and/or medication, assure her that there is someone out there for her, but it probably isn't you. Let her know that you love her as a friend, and you'd be devastated if she hurt herself, but that's all you can give her. If that's not enough for her, it doesn't matter what you do, there's no happy ending.

Also, this should really be in the advice forum. In that forum, you wouldn't have to worry about smart-ass comments like we just made, as they're subject to mod-wrath in there. Fyi, these comments were not maliciously intended. I really do feel for you, man.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Depression is something almost impossible to understand, unless you have been effected by it...

The best thing to do is take your "Relationship" Slowly, and try to find what she likes in a guy, and try to find the right guy for her...

Tell her you like her but want to take it slow. During that time start building up her confidence then when hes all nice and confident tell her that you have recently found out you are gay (youre leaving town soon so who cares)

She ends up more confident, you get away scott free, everyones happy.

Well... in theory.

To be honest man, I can't even imagine a scenario where this ends well for anyone. Maybe you could ask around and see if any guys you know are interested in her though you did kinda fuck that over by saying you were into her. Also was this a real suicide attempt or a pansy ass cry for help?

This would work well, too, maybe mix the plans... or something...

 

[Condor219]

Well first off, kudos to the whole saving another person's life thing.

And secondly, you can tell her that you're moving away, and then just honestly say that long-distance relationships are always hard to keep up, and sort of blame the breakup on fate, or something like that.

I personally would try and find some really inspiring metaphor in the form of a poem or short story or something that gets her to turn her views around, too. But you might have to deploy that around the time of the breakup.

 

[TestSubject4]

I sincerely hope that she is seeing a counselor, they really do some magic. I have to say this is a hard situation to deal with, a person in that state is really fragile. I would even recommend you see a counselor and gain advice from them, they have an extensive skillset in dealing with these sorts of situations. Honesty is a good policy but you are going to need serious amounts of tact. Also kudos for going above and beyond for a friend.

 

[Viewtiful Dan]

I sincerely hope that she is seeing a counselor, they really do some magic. I have to say this is a hard situation to deal with, a person in that state is really fragile. I would even recommend you see a counselor and gain advice from them, they have an extensive skillset in dealing with these sorts of situations. Honesty is a good policy but you are going to need serious amounts of tact. Also kudos for going above and beyond for a friend.

Thanks for the advice. I will definiatly take it.