need some help (girl prob)

[renegade7]

Ok so I met this girl at the end of the school year last year and we got along really well. We only talked a little but it was really nice. But, derp, forgot to ask for her phone number. So I haven't heard from her in about 2 months. Anyway, about 2 weeks ago, I was asking a friend of mine about her (also a girl) and she said she's still single and had just gotten a facebook page and that I should send a message. I forgot to add her as a friend though. When I log in 3 days later I see she hadn't responded yet. I asked the mutual friend about it, and she thinks that sending a message without adding her as a friend looked a bit creepy. But after her not responding for three days, I worried adding her then would look desperate.

And it's not like I just walked up to her and got in her face when we were in school. I decided to because she kept showing up near my locker and she would always smile at me when we passed in the hall. The friend also said that she's really shy, and I can see that, she was rarely with her friends in school and she almost never smiled ( we had the same lunch hour and she sat kind of near me )

So it's been about two weeks now. Should I try friend-requesting her, or wait till school starts again in about 3 weeks?

Edit: It's just been brought to my attention that this got multi-posted. The captcha kept telling me there was an error so I had to try reloading the page until it worked. Sorry about that.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Ok so I met this girl at the end of the school year last year and we got along really well. We only talked a little but it was really nice. But, derp, forgot to ask for her phone number. So I haven't heard from her in about 2 months. Anyway, about 2 weeks ago, I was asking a friend of mine about her (also a girl) and she said she's still single and had just gotten a facebook page and that I should send a message. I forgot to add her as a friend though. When I log in 3 days later I see she hadn't responded yet. I asked the mutual friend about it, and she thinks that sending a message without adding her as a friend looked a bit creepy. But after her not responding for three days, I worried adding her then would look desperate.

And it's not like I just walked up to her and got in her face when we were in school. I decided to because she kept showing up near my locker and she would always smile at me when we passed in the hall. The friend also said that she's really shy, and I can see that, she was rarely with her friends in school and she almost never smiled ( we had the same lunch hour and she sat kind of near me )

So it's been about two weeks now. Should I try friend-requesting her, or wait till school starts again in about 3 weeks?

That's a tough one, how well do you know her? Do you think she will take it as you being a creeper?

 

[renegade7]

Ok so I met this girl at the end of the school year last year and we got along really well. We only talked a little but it was really nice. But, derp, forgot to ask for her phone number. So I haven't heard from her in about 2 months. Anyway, about 2 weeks ago, I was asking a friend of mine about her (also a girl) and she said she's still single and had just gotten a facebook page and that I should send a message. I forgot to add her as a friend though. When I log in 3 days later I see she hadn't responded yet. I asked the mutual friend about it, and she thinks that sending a message without adding her as a friend looked a bit creepy. But after her not responding for three days, I worried adding her then would look desperate.

And it's not like I just walked up to her and got in her face when we were in school. I decided to because she kept showing up near my locker and she would always smile at me when we passed in the hall. The friend also said that she's really shy, and I can see that, she was rarely with her friends in school and she almost never smiled ( we had the same lunch hour and she sat kind of near me )

So it's been about two weeks now. Should I try friend-requesting her, or wait till school starts again in about 3 weeks?

That's a tough one, how well do you know her? Do you think she will take it as you being a creeper?

We don't know each other extremely well, like I said, we'd only seen each other for like the last 2 days of school, but then we did get along very well during that time. I don't really think she'd immediately assume I'm a creep/stalker (in fact towards the end of the year when I decided to talk to her I got the feeling SHE was following ME around ) whatever, I'm just a little conscious because I've never been very lucky with girls. I might just go for it, if she doesn't like me then that's that, won't matter if it's in school or on the internet, right?

 

[artanis_neravar]

Ok so I met this girl at the end of the school year last year and we got along really well. We only talked a little but it was really nice. But, derp, forgot to ask for her phone number. So I haven't heard from her in about 2 months. Anyway, about 2 weeks ago, I was asking a friend of mine about her (also a girl) and she said she's still single and had just gotten a facebook page and that I should send a message. I forgot to add her as a friend though. When I log in 3 days later I see she hadn't responded yet. I asked the mutual friend about it, and she thinks that sending a message without adding her as a friend looked a bit creepy. But after her not responding for three days, I worried adding her then would look desperate.

And it's not like I just walked up to her and got in her face when we were in school. I decided to because she kept showing up near my locker and she would always smile at me when we passed in the hall. The friend also said that she's really shy, and I can see that, she was rarely with her friends in school and she almost never smiled ( we had the same lunch hour and she sat kind of near me )

So it's been about two weeks now. Should I try friend-requesting her, or wait till school starts again in about 3 weeks?

That's a tough one, how well do you know her? Do you think she will take it as you being a creeper?

We don't know each other extremely well, like I said, we'd only seen each other for like the last 2 days of school, but then we did get along very well during that time. I don't really think she'd immediately assume I'm a creep/stalker (in fact towards the end of the year when I decided to talk to her I got the feeling SHE was following ME around ) whatever, I'm just a little conscious because I've never been very lucky with girls. I might just go for it, if she doesn't like me then that's that, won't matter if it's in school or on the internet, right?

Yeah go for it, that's the best advice you can get

 

[Lilani]

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Are you sure she just hasn't been on her facebook in the last three days? I know some people who only check it like once a week or so. And if she is new to Facebook she probably hasn't gotten into the habit of checking it often.

From what I've read in your latest posts you seem to know each other well, so now that you've sent a message I think sending a friend request wouldn't be out of the question. And I don't think sending a message without being friends is creepy at all. If anything, it's polite. I sometimes get annoyed when random people send me friend requests without so much as a hello or how are you. That's my opinion, anyway. Good luck~

 

[ShadowDude112]

It's funny how you psoted this thread 3 other times.
OT: Just add her. It's not that complicated at all. Some people just take a while to respond.

 

[Chasing-The-Light]

I say go for it. If she doesn't answer, or declines it then you can always talk to her about that when school starts up again. Or take that time and get to know her and then re-add her and try again.

 

[renegade7]

It's funny how you psoted this thread 3 other times.
OT: Just add her. It's not that complicated at all. Some people just take a while to respond.

There was a prob with the captcha, it kept telling me there was an error

 

[Ando85]

Go ahead and friend her I think is the logical thing to do. I don't see why that would be creepy. Furthermore, if she does like you and is interested in you I don't think she would see you as a creep in the first place.

 

[RunicFox]

I'm showing my age a bit here. Why is Facebook such a huge deal now?

1. Never be afraid to ask someone out. I made this mistake in high school, made up for it in college.

2. Girls, as really with most people, prefer social interactions. Shoot her a message on Facebook for an add, but then ask her to lunch. I'll need more information in terms of your mobility.

3. Don't wait until school starts again. Spark it up before and hang out during school.


Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

 

[jobu59749]

I'm showing my age a bit here. Why is Facebook such a huge deal now?

Because you can't be friends if you haven't accepted my request on facebook....and the only way to break up with friends or anyone else is by un-friending them. Welcome to the future of human relations.

Joking aside, it's dumb, obviously high school dramatic, friend her...either she'll do nothing, deny, or friend you. In any case, move on with life if rejection happens....and it will happen a lot over the course of your life just as it does in anyones. It's how you handle it that makes the diffence between being a stalker or just another guy looking for another girl.