Needing Human Contact...

[Hawk of Battle]

There was this girl I used to talk to, and we were really hitting it off well. We would constantly have conversations with each other (admittedly, a lot over the internet, but still some human contact), and it was awesome. I actually felt like someone really enjoyed being around me, which I have felt before, but with a person at such a constant pace.

6 months later, we barely talk. 1, maybe 2 minutes a day, assuming I can catch up to her in the hallway in school. Let's just say I fucked up really bad 6 months ago, and while I didn't necessarily hurt her feelings or anything like that, it caused us to go separate ways. These past 6 months have been the equivalent of living hell. For some reason, although I have human contact, that is the one human I want to contact more than anyone else. Did I like her? Well, I guess. At this point though, I'll take any sort of contact, in person or otherwise.

It's horrible, because I'm trying really hard not to be stalker-ish, but at the same time, I really want to talk to her...

This is topic-related right? I figured it had to do with human contact...

Man, I know this pain. I had a similar thing happen. About a year ago I met this girl, a good friend of one of my best mates and we got to know each other really well and I really liked her. We'd spend hours almost every day talking, usually over msn, we had movie nights every few weeks, we hung out loads, all that stuff. Just when I've built up the courage to tell her how I feel (I'd been single for 5 years by this point, and the last relationship ended badly, but that's another story), she dissapears for a week. When next we speak, I found out she went off to stay with a friend of hers, who she's now also going out with. FFFFFFFFFFFFF!

But wait, it gets worse, the guy she's going out with, totally douche and she knows it. He was condescending, egotistical and took her for granted and yet no matter how much I and others tried to persuade her, she wouldn't dump him. 6 months later she finally did, only by that point she headed off to university, and well, we barely speak any more now. She's never online and went she does come back home I never know she's here, so I can never arrange to meet her. Oh and she's just started going out with another dude now, so pretty much any hope is gone.

So yeah, that's a been a pretty crappy year for me.

 

[Daffy F]

That's a difficult problem. My problem with this is I can't really help, because I've never really experienced the difficulties of long-range relationships first-hand. The reason for this is I've not left home yet, so everyone I know is easily reachable.

 

[Mariakitten]

I enjoy human contact but only when its with my buddies, other then that I'm fine.

 

[Deadlock Radium]

I myself are not the most social person alive, but I like being around people at times, I get bored really fast if I go for too long without anyone to hang out.

EDIT: Typo.

 

[mayney93]

human nature pffft

 

[Snowden's Secret]

I do enjoy having social interactions & human contact. Problem is that I don't get much of it.

 

[Lim3]

Good luck with your long distance relationship. Mine lasted 8 weeks when my ex-gf moved to the USA for a year.

Incidentally being single sucks.

 

[MissPixxie]

I'm going through a long distance relationship. Last year we went to college together, and over the summer I was given the opportunity of a lifetime, so had three weeks to pack my bags and go off to university.

We used to see each other every day, now we're lucky to see each other once a month. I miss him, hell I miss everyone back home. When that kind of pain strikes, nothing is better than human contact. I just wish the people up here were the people back home.

 

[rokkolpo]

i have select few good friends.

i'm okay with pretty much anyone.
most of the time i like my solitude though...

never really feel lonely.

 

[Sakurazaki1023]

Every once in a while, but since I've been single for my entire life it's probably not as bad as your case. It usually kicks in around romantic holidays and I usually just try to ignore it.

 

[Baldry]

As of late Ive become dependent on it to go to sleep.... I'm sure this will go away in time, but I can last along enough time without it.

 

[Oh That Dude]

I have the awkward position of really wanting someone to be with and disliking most of the people I meet/know.

 

[FinalHeart95]

Man, I know this pain. I had a similar thing happen. About a year ago I met this girl, a good friend of one of my best mates and we got to know each other really well and I really liked her. We'd spend hours almost every day talking, usually over msn, we had movie nights every few weeks, we hung out loads, all that stuff. Just when I've built up the courage to tell her how I feel (I'd been single for 5 years by this point, and the last relationship ended badly, but that's another story), she dissapears for a week. When next we speak, I found out she went off to stay with a friend of hers, who she's now also going out with. FFFFFFFFFFFFF!

But wait, it gets worse, the guy she's going out with, totally douche and she knows it. He was condescending, egotistical and took her for granted and yet no matter how much I and others tried to persuade her, she wouldn't dump him. 6 months later she finally did, only by that point she headed off to university, and well, we barely speak any more now. She's never online and went she does come back home I never know she's here, so I can never arrange to meet her. Oh and she's just started going out with another dude now, so pretty much any hope is gone.

So yeah, that's a been a pretty crappy year for me.

Pretty much exactly what happened to me, excluding the boyfriend being total doucher. He's not great, but he's not horrible either.

 

[EHKOS]

to prevent myself going insane and completely forgetting acceptable social interactions otherwise no. humans can fuck right off

Amen.

 

[Doitpow]

Without fail, the second I'm single, I need to be around people all the time, especially girls. Not because I'm a reboundy kind of guy, but because they're just so damn comforting, or at least my friends are.

But even if I'm not single, I can't go more than a couple of days without seeing my friends. Yay! People are fun! Except the Pope, I hate that guy.

 

[PyroZombie]

Ehh, I'm sort of content with the distances I keep people. Not many people worth my time locally, just full of racists,druggies, and wanna-be gangbangers.

 

[Sanquinius96]

I love to be around people, though that limits to one hour a day.

The rest of the time I'm silently plotting to destroy Humanity..

 

[child of lileth]

I was in a pretty similar situation as TC a few years ago. There were alot of times where I really wished I could have had someone else around, but at the same time, I'm just naturally a very distant person in real life just from how I grew up. To be perfectly honest, the relationship didn't last more than a year and a few months. They left me because they said they needed someone who was actually there (which i can't blame them for since I wanted the same).

I think some people can make not having any physical contact work, but it takes effort and tons of patience. It's a little easier if you can at least visit the person every now and then, but that can also make it harder to be apart after you've spent time together in real life.

 

[Rhino44]

There is nothing like a cuddle from a real person. Just to be held by someone you cares for you.
And in that moment of hugging, you feel so calm, like your the only two in the world. It would be so hard to have a long-distance relationship. But im sure if you both work at it and want it to go somewhere, you'll get through the hard times. Maybe soon you can meet up for a little bit.
Well all the best for you and i hope you work it out.Hugs are always free! *big hugs*

 

[Bellvedere]

Not normally no. I quite like my own company. It takes forever for me to be comfortable being with someone after meeting them so I tend to avoid it. The friends I do have I treasure.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend and discovered I'm not nearly as close to my friends now as I was before I started dating this guy. It was a pretty harsh realisation. Instead of talking this over with anyone considering I don't feel comfortable doing so after their initial reactions I've been drunk pretty much constantly the past week. Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!