Needing Human Contact...

[KitsunetheFox]

Sometimes I wish there was just someone there (preferably a girl) to give me a hug (hence me being very 'huggy' around here), but most of the time I have enough human contact with my family and my friends to maintain a healthy degree of (in)sanity.

 

[oppp7]

Why do you think I'm here?
But I've grown resistant to being alone due to my awesome habit of talking to myself.

 

[pixiejedi]

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and now I'm curious. What part of Colorado are you originally from?

I'm trying to get the hugs and whatnot I want from friends and family. It's not the same (not even bloody close) but it goes a ways toward the need being filled.

The Denver metro area. I was born and raised there and went to college there, so this is a big change for me.

 

[pixiejedi]

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I know, my mom always laughs and tells me how she would hoist her pregnant (with me) belly onto the Miss PacMan machine where she had the high score on to play more. I didn't bother talking to that guy after that.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

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and now I'm curious. What part of Colorado are you originally from?

I'm trying to get the hugs and whatnot I want from friends and family. It's not the same (not even bloody close) but it goes a ways toward the need being filled.

The Denver metro area. I was born and raised there and went to college there, so this is a big change for me.

I know how you feel. I was raised in Aurora, but am currently living in Parker (which is a big change in itself...), and considering moving to just outside Chicago.

 

[Kraj]

People? People are people.
Being around them implies dealing with the things which people are prone to do.
Being without them implies missing out on the things which people are prone to do.
I personally find simply "being" regardless of who passes by has lead me to the best situation I could ask for. Wu-Wei so to speak.

Could you elaborate on that reference?

Wei Wu Wei is a Taoist concept summarized as "action without action" Essentially it means knowing when to act and when not to act. Thats about all, you might hear it referred to as "going with the grain". Anything other than that from the above, is just from my personal philosophy.

 

[Sacman]

I do need human interaction as much as I hate to say it...

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Distance relationships can be very straining, and the lack of human, face to face connection is a big part of that. I feel humans need that in order to take things more seriously or in depth, opposed to emails, the other end of a phone or a IM box. When you both meet, you will probably wonder how you went all that time without it, because it's a much deeper experience being around someone while you like them, then liking them from afar. You can't touch them, or look at them, see how they react & interact to things you do or things they see, just everything like that. I wish you the best of luck though, and congratulations on the upcoming visit!

As for a remedy, find a friend you can snuggle or otherwise comfort around. Doesn't have to be physical, and it won't be the same but having someone there for you and knowing it can help a lot.

I know that when I actually meet him face to face, it's going to be very different from talking on the phone or the net. Even something as simple as a touch will make everything so much better.

I've been hugging people a lot, and trying to spend more time with my roommate when our schedules allow. It helps a little but it's not quite the same.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

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There we go. It sounds like your lifestyle doesn't allow for a lot of free time though, so you have to take it where you can get it. Is that about how things are now? If I'm wrong, you should try to connect with more friends, or even a best friend? Someone who you can find a sense of comfort in between the lonely time strains where visits between you and your boyfriend are far off. It usually helps! I was such a person for one of my best friends, and she said she couldn't have made it through if it wasn't for me...

Pretty much. I work early afternoon to late evening most days, and living in a small town, there isn't much to do after I get out of work. ...and admittedly, I don't have many friends. Social anxiety is a *****, lol.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I see. That can be tough then, your surroundings aren't exactly on your side. In that case, make the best of what you can and cherish what you do have. You will let me know how that first meeting goes? I'm really anxious to see how it will effect you and what you will experience.

I promise. God knows I'm probably going to post something squeaky-happy here after I take a couple of photos with him, lol.

Thanks, Akira. you're sweet.

 

[Mortons4ck]

I like my solitude, but it does suck to be without human contact for more than a couple of days.

If you have spare time, you should consider volunteering for a local election campaign, it's usually a pretty good way to get out and make friends.

 

[Cluskey]

I am currently in a long-distance relationship with a guy who is absolutely wonderful (except for the fact that, y'know, he lives about 1200 miles away). We were talking last night, and both kind of moping over that fact, as we're both going through a lot in our respective lives and don't really have anyone close by to lean on.

It got me to thinking. Do you ever feel like you need some human contact of some sort? This could be anything from going to the local coffee shop where everyone knows your name, to hanging out with your buddies playing video games until the wee hours of the morning.

I miss that feeling of connection. My roommate and I rarely spend any time together due to differing work schedules, and I get what little 'contact' I do from my job (I spend roughly 6 hours out of an 8 hour day with customers).

What about you, Escapists?

I know what your talking about in regards to long distance relationships. In my experience they can be hard if not impossible.

I'm a university student and i find myself constantly trying to shut others out, or at least hold them at arms length because people are such damn distractions.

So I am kind of at the opposite end of the spectrum to you at the moment but i know how lonely it can get. My roommates went back to their parents houses over the holiday and despite the fact that i think they are all flaming douches i missed their presence. Or seemingly the presense of other people. Those 3 weeks felt I am Legend esque as my apartment was always empty and eerily creepy. Not like i'm scared of the dark or something but i'm a paroniod guy it turns out as one time i recall with great clarity was when i turned the light on and as they flickered i thought i saw someone stood at the end of the corridor. Needless to say i nearly had a coronary.

Anyway back to the root of what your post was about. Personally i find there are loads of people about to hang around with but i can never get anything done with them around so i find myself holding them at somewhat arms length as i prefer soloitary activities (lmao) no seriously i'm talking about reading. I go through a book every week/fortnight. Spending a couple hours a day reading. So i am quite literally an escapist.

Anyway incase you haven't gathered this form of escapism is because i have a huge piece of work in i should be working on. So i Escape to the Escapist forums.

Hope you find a guy you like closer to home.

Oh and i realise i didn't post above that i do have a girlfriend. lol. Good Bf i am .

Cluskey. out.