If that occured to me, it would solve one of the largest thoughts, concerns and worries of mine that have ailed me since I was 15. You have no idea.
No sex for a year.
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Sounds convenient. Given the choice though, I'd go with a low-sex-drive bisexual/pansexual (given the choice). My reasoning is that, if you have a low (and therefore easily ignored) sex drive, then you can view everyone as people, not as potential sex-buddies. Then you can fall in love with anyone (liek an asexual who isn't armoantic) and yet not face anything awkward when they want to have sex (as you can just stop ignoring it). So it means your sex drive isn't either pulling you around looking for a lay, and it isn't leaving you unable to have a 'normal' romantic relationship. Win Win.
But yeah, I've never been bothered much by a sex drive (I'm still figuring stuff out I guess :|), so yeah, I'd take the 'turn off the sex drive' thing, I mean, it isn't too different from the stage I'm at now, and it would mean I won't have to worry about which way (if any) I will turn out so yeah ... simplicity without any real change.
But yeah, I've never been bothered much by a sex drive (I'm still figuring stuff out I guess :|), so yeah, I'd take the 'turn off the sex drive' thing, I mean, it isn't too different from the stage I'm at now, and it would mean I won't have to worry about which way (if any) I will turn out so yeah ... simplicity without any real change.
On an individual scale, its a waste of time and energy. On a species scale, it could potentially be detrimental to the human race... then again, people would probably go through with it to keep the population up when neccecary.
If you had no sex drive, you probably wouldnt even care, and I dont think you would care about going 'back' to having one. One would probably also begin to judge others more on what they can do rather than appearance. (Believe it or not, how attractive one finds another has a big impact on how highly you regard them regardless on how competent or intelligent they actually are).
In essence alot of things would change, and you probably wouldnt care. Then again, this is coming from someone who forgets that humanity exists sometimes. There's so many things more interesting than people out there.
If you had no sex drive, you probably wouldnt even care, and I dont think you would care about going 'back' to having one. One would probably also begin to judge others more on what they can do rather than appearance. (Believe it or not, how attractive one finds another has a big impact on how highly you regard them regardless on how competent or intelligent they actually are).
In essence alot of things would change, and you probably wouldnt care. Then again, this is coming from someone who forgets that humanity exists sometimes. There's so many things more interesting than people out there.
I haven't had sex in a year and a half.....
I haven't lost my sex drive....
Yeah.... I wish I could turn it off!
I actually wish it had never happened now so I wouldn't feel this way after being without it for so long.
I haven't lost my sex drive....
Yeah.... I wish I could turn it off!
Keep it like that! I was like you before my first intimate relationship.WanderFreak said:
I actually wish it had never happened now so I wouldn't feel this way after being without it for so long.
I'm going to, in a sense, disagree with you here. Arguably in the best relationship you do. I count my self lucky every day to have my girlfriend in my life and a portion of that goes to having a girl whose sex drive/preferences matches mine ideally.viranimus said:
So there
OT: I think, without sex, the biggest difference in my life would be the number of my really close friends I wouldn't be friends with now. In fact 2 of my absolute closest friends stemmed from me 'picking them up' for sex. So there's that. Also, now I am in a relationship so not looking for it I definitely go out less. And I've fallen out of touch with male friends who I would go out sarging with but now don't have a real reason to see.
Full disclosure time.
I've never really had much of a sex drive. It just feels pointless to me. I didn't even start masturbating until the end of my 25th year, and I only continue to do it since it works as a sleep aid. I suppose there are some health benefits too, but I'm not actively experiencing those. Don't get me wrong, I experience hornyness just as anyone else, but I have no drive to do anything with those feelings. I actually feel more motivated to take a nap to sleep it off instead of finding a soft hole to fill somewhere.
I think many would look at my life and find it hollow. I really don't do more than play games, and the only companionship I seek is that with my guy friends, just as any other straight guy would do. That is all I need. As a result, I've managed to save a lot of money and been surviving well these last 7 months with no job. I do often consider what it would be like to find a girl that would motivate me to be more normal, but every time I watch for some one of the opposite gender, I'm actually put off by their behavior or attitude so thoroughly that I'm glad I'm the way I am. I think I've seen 2 girls in the last 10 years that I could say that I'd be willing to try a relationship with, but they have both been taken.
I've never really had much of a sex drive. It just feels pointless to me. I didn't even start masturbating until the end of my 25th year, and I only continue to do it since it works as a sleep aid. I suppose there are some health benefits too, but I'm not actively experiencing those. Don't get me wrong, I experience hornyness just as anyone else, but I have no drive to do anything with those feelings. I actually feel more motivated to take a nap to sleep it off instead of finding a soft hole to fill somewhere.
I think many would look at my life and find it hollow. I really don't do more than play games, and the only companionship I seek is that with my guy friends, just as any other straight guy would do. That is all I need. As a result, I've managed to save a lot of money and been surviving well these last 7 months with no job. I do often consider what it would be like to find a girl that would motivate me to be more normal, but every time I watch for some one of the opposite gender, I'm actually put off by their behavior or attitude so thoroughly that I'm glad I'm the way I am. I think I've seen 2 girls in the last 10 years that I could say that I'd be willing to try a relationship with, but they have both been taken.
I donate Apheresis every two weeks at the local blood bank. As part of the screening process they ask you if you've had sex with (blank) during the past year. Aside from the fact that I know myself that I haven't had sex in almost three years...I have to tell a random nurse this...every two weeks.
(heavy sigh)
(heavy sigh)
"I spent a lot of money on booze, birds and fast cars. The rest I just squandered." - George BestDa Chi said:
Sorry, but this name isn't one you can leave off of quotes.
OT: Put a lot more time in my day if I wasn't spending a good amount on masturbating to satiate my sex drive.
More to the point, sex (with a good partner) is good fun, great exercise and a fantastic source of endorphins. Sometimes it takes more effort to organise than other forms of exercise but I feel a lot happier after sex than football (usually, not always). So, to be honest, I think we'd all be missing out.
I think that might just be your friends there. Although you are right to an extent.IBlackKiteI said:
That is kind of a shallow and degenerative way to look at things. I have many female friends that I have no sexual interest in. I know I am far from a unique case.IBlackKiteI said:
Meh whatevs i don't see the point of spending all that time and money trying to "score" with teh ladies... I mean that would take away valuable resources from my anime and games money.
Sounds like it would be quite useful every scrap of money I have spent on either dating or random sex has been entirely wasted, since I can get first dates but never get a second, this has only taught me that I am less impressive than I might at first appear and even then few are impressed to start of with, have not been on a date in 2 years.
I actually chose to abstain and not get involved in any relationships so I could focus on my studies in the last year of high school. It paid off. Everyone I get involved with tends to be very high maintainence, emotionally needy and pretty demanding - like people who'll freak out and burst into tears if you don't talk to them for one day. I really didn't need that when I wanted to focus on qualifying for law.
That's over now, though. Just saying.
That's over now, though. Just saying.
That's the seems to be the general behaviour nowadays.IBlackKiteI said:
My friends and I are able to converse without being crude, but it applies intelligence. Something the masses lack. Or at least don't make use of. Even insecurity.. Lots of theories around.
I haven't really spent any money at all trying to get lucky. Not that I haven't wanted to, I just never got to the "going on a date" part. I can't say anything would really be that different, though I guess the things I search for on the internet would change...
That being said, sex and love are pretty closely tied, I mean you only fall in love because you see the person as a suitable partner for mating. And Love is one of the most greatest feelings out there. Simultaniuosly the happiest and saddest feeling out there. And I don't want to give up on females, so I think my life would be pretty much the same, only even more boring. (And I didn't think that was possible...)
That being said, sex and love are pretty closely tied, I mean you only fall in love because you see the person as a suitable partner for mating. And Love is one of the most greatest feelings out there. Simultaniuosly the happiest and saddest feeling out there. And I don't want to give up on females, so I think my life would be pretty much the same, only even more boring. (And I didn't think that was possible...)
I haven't had sex for about 3 years now. I just don't bother. I'm not one of those pretentious virgin nerds who stalk these forums claiming they're asexual; I was in a very sexually active relationship before these 3 years and I definitely still get excited when I see an attractive woman. This is the second lengthy sexual break I've had (before said relationship there was also a 2 year break).
I honestly just can't be bothered with the whole romance thing. I've got plenty of other things to do, I'm not frustrated, I'm not unhappy and I am by no means lonely. Tried casual sex a few times but it just isn't really my cup of tea. It simply does not add anything meaningful to my life at this time.
And that's fine, really. Sure, I'll admit, the first month or so I was horny as hell, masturbating like there was no tomorrow. But that urge just fades over time. It doesn't go away, it just goes into 'sleep mode'. And it really isn't as dramatic as people would like you to believe. You just don't have sex, what's the deal? I think being unable to function without constant sex is a lot less healthy than not having it for extended periods of time.
I honestly just can't be bothered with the whole romance thing. I've got plenty of other things to do, I'm not frustrated, I'm not unhappy and I am by no means lonely. Tried casual sex a few times but it just isn't really my cup of tea. It simply does not add anything meaningful to my life at this time.
And that's fine, really. Sure, I'll admit, the first month or so I was horny as hell, masturbating like there was no tomorrow. But that urge just fades over time. It doesn't go away, it just goes into 'sleep mode'. And it really isn't as dramatic as people would like you to believe. You just don't have sex, what's the deal? I think being unable to function without constant sex is a lot less healthy than not having it for extended periods of time.
You'll have to get a number and stand behind me in the line for such a procedure though.RAKtheUndead said:
Being able to simply kill off such distracting thoughts and never have to worry again that they'll come up would be pretty awesome.
I mean, suppressing the urge to want sexual stimulation is one thing. Suppressing the THOUGHTS that pop up from time to time when you see a fine woman however is a completely different thing.
Getting that compulsion sliced out of my brain would be pretty neat, indeed.
Does your sexdrive push you towards playing videogames? Probably not.DanielDeFig said:
Is playing videogames soemthing you consider "dull and grey"? Well, I don't know you, but since you're on the escapist I think it's safe to assume that you've got somewhat of an interest in playing videogames. But if im mistaken then: shame on me.
However, if you DO think it's fun, then why would you conclude that your entire life would be dull and grey without a sex drive? Does your life revolve around sex or does it contain other things completely unrelated to it that you still enjoy?
If videogames alone are enough to keep your life from becoming dull and grey I'd say you have serious problems.Housebroken Lunatic said: