Ok this is just complicated!

[ForensicYOYO]

I have a strange situation and I need advice but Its extremely complicated. Ill do my best to explain. So I have my best friend in the world and we decided after a year that we would date.( My friend is a girl fyi) and so were really happy for 3 month but one day we both had a dream that we were to merry someone eles. We then talked about it and happily agreed we would just be friends. Both of us are virgins and never been on a true date or done alot of other couple things. Today we talked and we both decided we would just "TRAIN" on each other and do "STUF" but stay friends. Hence the saying friends with benefits. Im not sure what to make of all this but Please tell me your advice.

 

[Marter]

While "training" may seem like a good idea, you'll end up just getting accustomed to what rings her bell, and that will likely be different from others. Maybe just getting the basics down could be a decent plan, but I don't see it being all that beneficial in the future.

Also, how did you "have a vision" of marrying someone else? That doesn't seem the best way to live.

 

[emeraldrafael]

Well, it seems like you have things settled. However, I will say this. be careful and make sure you abosultely want this. and that she does. Later down the line, when you may be asked if you;re a virgin by your lover, and you say no, it will be hard to explain and get them to understand. pLus, the knowledge of knowing that you're... "used" sometimes doesnt settle in until after, and can be very mind scarring.

I guess I'm just saying make sure you both want this.

 

[capin Rob]

Go for it mate, just mke sure she's on the pill

 

[mad825]

so were really happy for 3 month but one day we each had a vision that we were to merry someone eles.

errm what?

....I cannot make any logical sense of this statement...could you please exlain a little more about it? how could you be sure that you both had the same "vision"...dream?

so were really happy for 3 month but one day we each had a vision that we were to merry someone eles.

errm what?

....I cannot make any logical sense of this statement...could you please exlain a little more about it? how could you be sure that you both had the same "vision"...dream?

EDIT: if this is from a dream then forget about it, your dreams do not determine the future nor should they be taken literally.

dreams are a very complicated matter were most of the meanings are abstract or have no meaning whatsoever

 

[qazmatoz]

Repeated intimacy without romantic feelings is impossible. IT'S A TRAP, DON'T DO IT.

 

[Swarley]

Maybe you should wait until a dream appears and then do what it says.

OT: I'm not sure what you're actually asking.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Repeated intimacy without romantic feelings is impossible. IT'S A TRAP, DON'T DO IT.

Yeah, pretty much this. Friends with benefits rarely work out the way you intend, and at orgasm the human body releases a bonding hormone.

Plus, it's hard to explain to a potential suitor: "Oh hey, yeah, by the way I have this girl I sleep with but I don't love her, we just screw."

 

[Layz92]

I would say give the whole "training" thing a miss. If you arn't great your first time in bed I am sure your partner will forgive you if they really do love you. From what I have seen "no string attached" sex ends with with a tangles ball of strings wrapped around it. I am a fan of best friends remaining friends and nothing more. I borderline almost made that mistake once.

 

[Loop Stricken]

Maybe you should wait until a dream appears and then do what it says.

Ehh... I tried that once. There were no survivors.

 

[ForensicYOYO]

so were really happy for 3 month but one day we each had a vision that we were to merry someone eles.

errm what?

....I cannot make any logical sense of this statement...could you please exlain a little more about it? how could you be sure that you both had the same "vision"...dream?

Because we are really close we each new something was on both are minds and we talked about it and realised we were having the same vision about being with someone eles and assumed it was God giving us a sign and we decided to break up and go back to being best buds. Does that help?

 

[Loop Stricken]

... and assumed it was God giving us a sign ...
Does that help?

God just makes everything more complicated.

 

[ForensicYOYO]

Maybe you should wait until a dream appears and then do what it says.

OT: I'm not sure what you're actually asking.

I just want to know If what we decided is right, what are the consequences, ext....

 

[zehydra]

Uh... This plan to "try stuff out" is headed for disaster. Having sex without some kind of romance will turn your friend into a fuck-buddy. It will totally change your relationship.

 

[ForensicYOYO]

EDIT: if this is from a dream then forget about it, your dreams do not determine the future nor should they be taken literally.

dreams are a very complicated matter were most of the meanings are abstract or have no meaning whatsoever[/quote] but doesn't the fact that we both had the same dream mean anything. And I didn't want to add this because it would be even more complicated but A very trusting strong Christan lady I know said that God showed her what my wife would look like and my friend wasn't her.

 

[ForensicYOYO]

... and assumed it was God giving us a sign ...
Does that help?

God just makes everything more complicated.

I told you this was complicated

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

Having sex without some kind of romance will turn your friend into a fuck-buddy.

How is that a bad thing?
Hit it man.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I wouldn't rely on a dream to guide my relationship. Ask her if she really wants to get serious about it. "Training" each other could be fine but it could also be potentially dangerous to your friendship.

Talk to her and get on the same page before you start.

 

[zehydra]

Having sex without some kind of romance will turn your friend into a fuck-buddy.

How is that a bad thing?
Hit it man.

It's a bad thing if he actually values the "friendship". Let me put it this way: Do you want a friend, or a hooker?

 

[WorldCritic]

Be careful, it sounds like this could easily take a turn for the worse.