On Trust & Comfort...

[SckizoBoy]

Thanks to a particular comic, BDSM has found its way back into my life, and it's an itch that has been unscratched for the last four years. Then, I got thinking about the safewords my ex & I used, which were strange, because it was a set of seven 'safenames', as opposed to 'safewords'... made the play rather interesting... And funnily enough, weren't big on the fetish-wear... absolute ***** to take off afterwards...

Anyway, let's talk BDSM! What do you think of it? Done it? What are you? Do you want to do it? If you don't, why? If you do do it, what do you like best? etc. etc. etc.

Yours,

the friendly psychotic switch who loves his aftercare... >_>

Mod edit: Try and keep it SFW (Safe For Work) in here please!

 

[JoJo]

I haven't engaged in BDSM with another person yet but I do have a lot of sexual fantasies related to that kind of that thing, so I imagine I would enjoy it under the right circumstances. Haven't quite found that right situation yet though >.>

 

[Foolery]

Can't tell if you're serious or joking. This is a PG-13 forum believe it or not, so prepare for mods swooping in to lock it.

Anyway, to answer your question, never really considered it.

 

[Spambot 3000]

Meh, it isn't off-putting in any way but it never has actually appealed to me either. I suppose spanking is hot but that's about it really.

 

[lacktheknack]

implying I will never be a virgin

Anyways, sex topics don't last long on a PG-13 forum. Just a warning.

Also, pain is painful. That is all.

 

[Aris Khandr]

Not big on the spanking and whips and whatnot. But I know a few people who enjoy being tied up in latex outfits. I still think it would be fun to go on a short car trip (2 hours-ish) with her blindfolded, gagged, and tied up in the boot. Possibly with a remote controlled egg as well, just so I could have some fun switching it off and on randomly. Like every time I see a yellow car or something.

 

[blackrave]

I have thought about it
Sadly at this point I have no one to try it with :/
Most definitely I would be submissive one
I could try to dominate if girl would expressed such desire, but I'm not sure how comfortable i would be with such role.

Also, since when forum full of swearing is PG-13?
Was there change of policy or something?
I always considered our forums to be at least M rated

 

[Queen Michael]

What comic was it, hm?

Also, me and my ex-girlfriend dabbled in it. She handcuffed me a couple of times, she tied me up once... But I don't have all that much experience in it, even though I really like being dominated.

 

[BOOM headshot65]

I would not do BDSM. I personally dont find the idea of pain to be appealing or sexy. Although, I might be ok with some light stuff. For example, my girlfriend is ok with some light bondage (like handcuffs) and being blindfolded. But beyond that, I dont find that stuff appealing, and neither does she.

 

[FalloutJack]

That's between me and Sherry, fella.

Hatto-san away!

 

[Shraggler]

I find BDSM odd. I've never really considered it. Sex by itself is more than acceptable.

It's like asking a starving man if he'd like mustard or some ketchup with his burger. No, just want the burger. The immediate need to satiate and stay alive supersedes any desire to temporarily make something more tasty.

I suppose it might be fun, though. I guess. I have a feeling I'd be more submissive and/or the receiver of pain. I've felt some serious pain in my life and I have a suspicion that it would be a turn-on if someone tried to duplicate it at that level.

I think what's more of a turn-on is someone earnestly kissing, biting or scratching you as if they want to devour you physically; as if the sensation of touch is not enough. Lust illustrated through hunger and consumption.

 

[blackrave]

I find BDSM odd. I've never really considered it. Sex by itself is more than acceptable.

It's like asking a starving man if he'd like mustard or some ketchup with his burger. No, just want the burger. The immediate need to satiate and stay alive supersedes any desire to temporarily make something more tasty.

Well, not everyone is starving, you know.
Hell even someone who was starving week ago, would put mustard on his burger after a while.

 

[Blow_Pop]

Which comic was it sweetheart? And you should already know my answers to this. ..

I am a switch. Can be dom or sub with males identified as such. Those identifying as women I am a sub with. Those identifying as fluid or anything else, I don't know yet as I haven't been in that situation yet.

I have been into BDSM for 10 years now. And still relatively inexperienced (trust issues make it hard for me to find play partners and relationships I am avoiding like the plague til I finish working out some issues left over from that abusive relationship I was in back when I first joined here).

As far as what I like. .. being tied up, huge pain slut, being made to bleed, and that's about it I think. Few things I am interested in experimenting with like fire but that's going to have to wait for a while.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Huh... that's a thought... where has [user]Bara_no_Hime[/user] been lately?!

Anyway...

Can't tell if you're serious or joking.

Why would I be joking? If it's the thread title, then I would've thought it's quite apt... *shrug*

Just a warning.

Duly noted, but given content so far... ([user]Blow_Pop[/user]'s comment notwithstanding, perhaps... ¬_¬ ) it's been quite clean. In any event, I'm sure you've been here long enough to be exposed to [user]Master of Worlds[/user]'s (I think... he left quite a while ago now) plethora of sex-based threads. IIRC, they were all, without exception, thoroughly mature affairs, only locked after sporadic necro'ing, I think...

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Nice idea... if a bit claustrophobic... just remember to have a pair of walkie-talkies if you do decide to follow through on that... >_>

What comic was it, hm?

Which comic was it sweetheart?

Eh... Sunstone... if you're familiar with it, chapter two's both awesome and a salutary lesson... =.=

And you should already know my answers to this...

Yes, I do... did I ever tell you what I was? Can't remember...

I would not do BDSM. I personally dont find the idea of pain to be appealing or sexy.

Each to their own, and all that... but 'pain' is only really to do with the 'SM' part, it's not a prerequisite of BD/DS per se, just commonly incorporated. Hell, I'm not big on pain either (if you're reading this [user]Marik2[/user], shut it!), but then it's not why I do (or rather, did) it. 'Gratification from trust' is the best way I can put it (insert one or two 'mutuals' in there)... *shrug*

I think what's more of a turn-on is someone earnestly kissing, biting or scratching you as if they want to devour you physically; as if the sensation of touch is not enough. Lust illustrated through hunger and consumption.

' ... I'm sure you could work that in somehow... along with being tied up...(!)

 

[Blow_Pop]

Yes. Yes you did sweetie. We've had multiple on going conversations.....which speaking of, why did we stop having the private conversations? I'm blaming you.....

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

Not big on it personally. I really, really dislike being rendered helpless or powerless in any way. As such I dislike bondage (on myself). Being bound in any way terrifies me and kicks in my fight or flight reactions.
Me and a partner found that out a hard way

And I dislike having any kind of power over those I like.

But (physical) pain is different. I greatly enjoy inflicting and receiving pain during sex. The more painful and bloodier the better.

And since this is a PG-13 website I ask that anyone under 13 go and find a parent to guide them through this thread.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Yes. Yes you did sweetie. We've had multiple on going conversations.....which speaking of, why did we stop having the private conversations? I'm blaming you.....

Did I?! Huh...

Oh well... I think they ended because I spent about a week or two a while ago moving (college had ended, or something), and then I did the typical migrating from one place on Esc to another to go with my IRL move... -.-

 

[BOOM headshot65]

Each to their own, and all that... but 'pain' is only really to do with the 'SM' part, it's not a prerequisite of BD/DS per se, just commonly incorporated. Hell, I'm not big on pain either (if you're reading this [user]Marik2[/user], shut it!), but then it's not why I do (or rather, did) it. 'Gratification from trust' is the best way I can put it (insert one or two 'mutuals' in there)... *shrug*

Well, most people, when you say "BDSM" will think "pain and suffering as a turn-on", so my bad. As I said, some light bondage is ok with me...well, not 'me' but my girlfriend said that she would be ok with being handcuffed if she was in the mood. But latex suits, chains, and domination? Out of the question. When it comes to this, I will be her equal and she will be mine.

Of course, it may be worth mentioning that neither of us are all that interested in sex anyway. In case you HAVENT heard, we have been dating for almost 3 years and will not be doing anything until we get married, with our reaction to people on here saying "But how will you know if you are compatible? Maybe you should just have sex" our reaction

Spoiler: can be summed up by the following......

and while we will still have fun doing *you guessed it* once we are married, the main reason why we will be doing it is because we want kids.

And what the above took WAY too long to say: Is that neither of us are ever really going to be that adventurous when it comes to sex because we are not that interested in the first place. Now excuse us while we go and beat the ever-loving shit out of a hoard of zombies in L4D2....or are we going to gun down a bunch of psychos in Borderlands 2? THERE is something more entertaining to do than *scoff*sex.

 

[SckizoBoy]

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You believe in pro-creative sex as opposed to recreational, and that's fine, whether by me or otherwise hardly matters.

Granted, it is, ultimately, a matter of taste, and if you don't have it, you don't have it, but the whole dom/sub thing that I actually enjoy, you've (no disrespect) only taken at face value. The interaction is based almost entirely on a strong bond of trust between the participants, irrespective of what their role is. Sex need not even be involved, it's just often the natural conclusion of it all. The SSC (safe/sane/consensual) line of thought is prevalent because of the fundamental part that trust plays in it and it's why safewords exist. In some cases, the sub has more control because of the nature and existence of safewords. Further, the dynamic means that the sub trusts the dom to keep absolute control (of both), while the dom trusts the sub to know where the limits lay (again, of both). If either doesn't exist in great quantity beforehand... nothing doing...

Sorry if it's TMI, just wanted to dispel any misconceptions you may have... I'd wax lyrical, but it could get long and line treading... >_>

Still, you've got something going for you and... as I mentioned in the OP, 'tis an itch unscratched for the better part of four years, so I think you're ahead at the moment...(!)

 

[Hazy]

Wait, so were you the one being submissive?

Also no, I can't say I have. The idea of a woman dominating me is appalling.