One woman has sex with more than one man = more men having sex than women.Phasmal said:Men on average have more sexual partners... therefore... it's harder for men to find women?Ezekiel said:Women aren't even expected to do the courting. They don't have to be as impressive, since men aren't that picky. It's no surprise men on average have more sexual partners than women. The average woman can be choosier, without needing to compete as fiercely as men do. A man will eventually approach her anyway.Phasmal said:And women don't need to compete with prettier, smarter, funnier, more successful women? Sounds fake but okay.Ezekiel said:Because it's much, much easier for average women to find men than it is for average men to find women. All a woman needs to do is look decent and smile once in a while. The man has to compete with numerous prettier, smarter, funnier, more successful men. Women also tend to be more talkative, so socializing comes easy.
I mean, I can't speak about Japan, because I know pretty much nothing about the reasons for so many dudes to be socially isolated, but in general, I don't get the idea that men have to compete and women don't.
And as for "a man will approach her anyway", what if it's a man she doesn't like? People do have preferences and personalities. It's not just about looking for "a man" or "a woman" (for most people anyway, I hope).
EDIT: Also the idea that women don't do anything to try and find a partner is pretty laughable. There's a reason like 90% of women's magazines are dedicated to "HOW TO FIND AND KEEP A DUDE!", and it's not because we sit around doing our sewing until mother introduces us to a gentleman.
Also, since we are speaking in a generality here;
Men's advice, dating and courting, even sex advice comes almost exclusively from the bent of "Getting Noticed/Getting Any Attention at All". The majority of it is rooted in the idea/position that you aren't getting any, and that needs to change in order to maximize the amount you get - or just get any at all.
Women's advice stems from the angle of "Wheat from the Chaff" advice - if you examine the wording, tone and style of many (if not most) women's advice magazines and such they're written from the point of view that women are getting attention and hits from the get go, so now they need to separate the good from the bad and how they can improve themselves so they get more good hits vs. bad hits.
Its' awful in both ways, but they're not coming from the same place.