Pardon me? I did what?!

[InnerRebellion]

Yesterday, I was talking to a friend who happens to go to school with an ex girlfriend of mine. In the middle of the conversation, he asks if she and I ever had sex. I told him flat out no, and asked him why he asked. He told me that he's been hearing all around their school, from people who don't even know me, that she and I did in fact do it. I assured him I didn't, and asked for him to get to the bottom of it.

Today, he told me that a few of the people said she probably made it up to impress the sophomore she likes (we're all freshmen).

I want to get to the bottom of it myself, but I don't know if/how I should confront her about it. I'd rather not have a false reputation with people I don't even know.

Any suggestions/advice?

 

[Robert632]

Before I can give you advice, I need to know if you and your Ex are friends or not.

 

[InnerRebellion]

Before I can give you advice, I need to know if you and your Ex are friends or not.

We do talk, but sometimes the conversations are one sided. She seems more interested in talking about her life than listening to me, or even asking anything about mine.

 

[Robert632]

Before I can give you advice, I need to know if you and your Ex are friends or not.

We do talk, but sometimes the conversations are one sided. She seems more interested in talking about her life than listening to me, or even asking anything about mine.

Well at least you can talk to her without it being awkward/like getting teeth pulled/Etc.


Because you and her go to seperate schools, bassically the only thing you could do is ask her directly if she started the rumor or not next chance you get to talk to her. When you do talk to her about it, you should try to keep away from sounding like a police officer finding teenagers smoking pot, as that will probably just piss her to the point of you not being able to get an answer out of her. Instead just try to sound like you are curious about the whole thing. And it'd probably be a good idea to not mention which friend you heard the rumor from, as that'd just put to much on them. I'f this didn't really doesn't help you, I apoligize for that, but I, unless you feel like recruting a mutual friend into weaseling the information out of her, think it's the only course of action that has a faint chance of working.

 

[zombiesinc]

I want to get to the bottom of it myself, but I don't know if/how I should confront her about it. I'd rather not have a false reputation with people I don't even know.

Any suggestions/advice?

I don't really see the need to get to the bottom of it. If you've stated that you did not have sex, and she's going around (in another school) telling people otherwise, there's not much you can do. Obviously you could talk to her and see why she's lying, and from there she may possibly stop lying, but the fact is it's already out there. So long as you stick with your story, people will begin to figure it out, or simply have the wrong idea. I'd ignore it, and move on.

If you're really determined to talk to her then try to avoid coming off too parental, but ensure that you're still firm in expressing how you feel towards her lying about your sex life. As you said, it's likely that she's lying to impress some guy. Even if that's the case, I still suggest just moving on and paying no attention to her. She's obviously someone who wants to gain attention from others for claiming to have done certain things. Doesn't say much about her, to be honest.

 

[icame]

Before I can give you advice, I need to know if you and your Ex are friends or not.

We do talk, but sometimes the conversations are one sided. She seems more interested in talking about her life than listening to me, or even asking anything about mine.

I'd talk to her about how this all got started then. If she knows nothing then you could just brush it off as a stupid rumour and just deny it whenever someone asks you. I know this kind of stuff happens all the time at my school. They mine as well start a gossip club >.>

On the topic of what to say? I have no bloody idea. In my head I can see just going up to her and saying so where did these rumors come from being a bit awkward, but it would probably be the easiest solution.

 

[Zaverexus]

Before I can give you advice, I need to know if you and your Ex are friends or not.

We do talk, but sometimes the conversations are one sided. She seems more interested in talking about her life than listening to me, or even asking anything about mine.

Ah, been there.
Yeah, just out right confront her. You don't want her spreading trash about you, tell her that or it could get worse.
With any luck she will apologize, but if not you can at least tell people she's been lying and you told her to stop