Parenthood

[Evil Smurf]

http://www.cheapflights.com/flights-to-brazil/ I suggest you have a good look through this, it'll probably save you a lot of time and money in the long term

Wow, this made me laugh

 

[TallanKhan]

As someone who gets a pounding headache from being within 50 yards of anyone not old enough to vote the very idea of parenthood chills my soul. However, that said, you seem to feel less than prepared as a perspective parent and thats probably not a bad way to be at this stage. You havent run a mile and if you were that type you would have, so stay the course, take one day at a time, lay off the pot and take things as they come. You cant plan the next 18 years, you probably cant plan the next year, so take it a day or a week at a time, worry about now as it happens and do your best.
Above all take responsibility, you will be a parent whether you stay or leave so make the best of it. It will be worth it if you put some effort in, it wont be easy, but worthwhile things never are.

 

[xDarc]

The way i figured it based on watching everyone else in their 30's have children by now; kids are only cute for about 8 years. For the first few, they're basically aggrivating little shit machines. After they start being able to form complete sentences and say they darndest things; they are at the prime of their cuteness. This lasts until about 11-12, at which point you become lame and the reason for ruining their life.

It's generally all down hill from there.

Maybe in 5 years or so I'll consider it. Right now I'm enjoying not having any debt, aside from my mortgage which I could easily wipe out when I sell my house, and having money to spend on whatever I want.

Trust me guys, making it to your 30s without a divorce or children- assuming your making the typical income that just seems to come with age; is very nice. You are not missing anything by not having kids.

P.S.

Never believe a woman who says she is on birth control, even if she has the pills and you've seen her take them in the past. Male birth control, when it comes out, is really going to revolutionize things. No more trying to trap men.

Anyway OP, I'd ask yourself if this is what you really want. I was in a situation not too long ago where a girl claimed she was pregant and I was the father. I told her in that case I would prefer to pay for an abortion, and if she did not want to- she could expect timely child support but I would not participate in the life of any child I didn't want. She decided to have a baby, ended up not being mine. That was two years ago, and guess who I hear is pregant again? Yep.

I know it's cold to want to end a pregnancy or to say you will pay child support and have nothing to do with any child- but people need to stop bringing children into the world every time there's a summer fling. It cheapens our entire existence, not to mention all those children raised by grandparents who are like 10 times more likely to end up in prison.

If a kid calls his grandma "mommy," and his mommy "Pam," he going to jail.

 

[lunavixen]

Though I have no desire to have children myself, I can tell you that you need to have a serious talk with your partner and make some hard decisions like whether you can support this child. But all in all you've already told us that you wanted to be a father, and to be honest no one is truly prepared for their first child, it's not a hard and fast role, you'll grow into it and adapt as the changes occur. If you do keep the child and raise him/her, be supportive, over disciplining your child isn't good, but neither is letting them get away with everything, support and guide and if all else fails, wing it.

By the way, congratulations and good luck.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

I wish you all the best and I do hope everything works out for you, it sounds as if you deserve to catch a break, so I do hope you find a solution.

My take on having kids right now:
I would rather break my own leg with my elbow than have unprotected intercourse with a girl.

That made me pretty much piss my pants laughing!

I would say I would use that, but in my situation it's just not accurate. In a sense I would say you are missing out because the pleasure is INTENSE!

One gains more pleasure from sleeping with a girl without any form of birth control than from sleeping with one who uses the pill?
I did not know that, but no matter the pleasure, as it is, it's short-term benefits vs long-term benefits.
And I would rather have a broken leg than kids.


On that subject: I would try to break my leg by doing and upward knee-strike, whilst simultaneuusly striking down with my elbow. Do any of you have any experience as to wether or not the force generated by such an impact would be enough to break the leg? Or would I have to elbow drop myself, which does sound a bit mroe tricky to me?

 

[excalipoor]

Lifestyle changes, man. They're not always for the worse, different as they may be! Though the timing seems pretty shitty, considering the job situation and all. Hope you get that sorted out.

According to the internet I live in a la-la land of rainbows and sunshine far removed from the real world, but personally I don't know anyone who regrets ever having a child/ren at all. There's currently no children in my life, or even the near future, but hopefully some day...

 

[Basement Cat]

When you want to kill you kid--and you will, quite often, and with bone deep sincerity--try to remember my personal favorite mantra:

"Murder is illegal, murder is illegal,
Murder is illegal, murder is illegal,
Murder is illegal, murder is illegal..." etc​

kids are fantastic, I work with kids and they are bundles of fun and joy. They can be shits though when this happens, don't hit them. Tell them what they did wrong and what you want them to do next time.

Happy birthday, Evil one. I like this avatar more than the others.

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Captcha: top dog

@ Evil Smurf: The Captcha doesn't seem to care for it, though.

 

[Evil Smurf]

When you want to kill you kid--and you will, quite often, and with bone deep sincerity--try to remember my personal favorite mantra:

"Murder is illegal, murder is illegal,
Murder is illegal, murder is illegal,
Murder is illegal, murder is illegal..." etc​

kids are fantastic, I work with kids and they are bundles of fun and joy. They can be shits though when this happens, don't hit them. Tell them what they did wrong and what you want them to do next time.

Happy birthday, Evil one. I like this avatar more than the others.

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Captcha: top dog

@ Evil Smurf: The Captcha doesn't seem to care for it, though.

Thanks man, I feel so much love!