Passion in relationships.

[Lufia Erim]

So, against all better judgement, i responded to my ex-girlfriends txt message ( been a couple of years since we last spoke). And she wanted to get back together. Unfortunately for her ( and fortunately for me) i am currently in a great relationship with no intention of going back ( or cheating). However one thing she said did strike a chord with me. Basically she mentionned passion.

The gist of it is, she said she wasn't able to move on with anyone else (although she did try several times ) because all the relationships she had lacked passion. Basically she never managed to relive the same passion we had when we were dating. While i admit the good times spent with her all those years ago were pretty good and she holds a special place in my heart, i have no idea to what the hell passion is ( outside the doctionary defination).

So my question to you escapists.
W T F is passion? What does it mean in regards to a relationship? Have you ever experienced something you would categorize as passion? Is passion necessary for a relationship?

 

[Wary Wolf]

Way I see it, passion = Hormones / lust.

Not to say emotions don't come into it, but those emotions are likely a result of said 'passion' I guess.

I'll put a feeler out there and suggest that passion is the, *ahem*, sexy time at the start, or near beginning of a relationship. Where much chaffing occurs.

Although it might also be along the lines of the excitement of being with someone new. With the whole heart-racing thing going on, and instincts begin to scream at you saying: "Give this girl a great big hug. NOW!"

In both instances, this eventually dies down as the relationship progresses. At least in my experience. I suppose there are relationships just based on sex, which probably needs to keep that passion going, but honestly. In a loving relationship where both parties make each other reasonably happy, the passion will die down a bit. Or not.

But I will suggest that, yes, the 'passion' is vital at the start. Just needs to be tempered with a growth in the relationship I guess. These days a hug, smile, a peck on the cheek or the occasional eye roll is all I need

 

[Dizchu]

Passion for me is determination and excitement. It's what compels you to hold someone and kiss them and feel their body warmth. It's about wanting your partner more than "needing" them. It's about treating every moment as if it'll be your last.

 

[DefunctTheory]

W T F is passion?

I would say passion is enthusiasm turned up to 11.

What does it mean in regards to a relationship?

In relationships, passion is usually a word that implies high energy. When people spend a lot of time, effort and energy in activities with their partners. Writing poetry, night long love making sessions, going out of their way to spend time and do stuff with each other... like I said before. Showing a great deal of enthusiasm towards their partner and the relationship.

Have you ever experienced something you would categorize as passion?

No. I've got a pretty rudimentary emotional palette that doesn't seem to come with a lot of bright colors.

Is passion necessary for a relationship?

Of course not. A lack of passion for something does not indicated a lack of love, or indeed the lack of enthusiasm entirely.

Then again, I have no passion, and haven't been in a relationship for a long time (And even longer since I've been in a functional one), so what the hell do I know?

 

[stormtrooper9091]

Passion means ignoring the conventionality, transcending the norms, for me it means releasing oneself, tapping into the unknown. A passionate partner will be able to remind you of the things you forgot, they might cause you to understand parts of your psyche you had no idea existed.

As long as they don't go overboard, natch

 

[iseko]

Passion = lust. Every fiber of your body wants the other persons body. Do stuff to them that is... You know.

Not being able to restrain yourself from ripping the other persons clothes off and taking them on the floor because the bed is just toooooo daaaaamn faaaaaar. Some couples can keep that in their relationship. Some couples never had it. Most couples lose it.

 

[stormtrooper9091]

Disagree completely. One can show passion for many things, lust is only a manifestation of passion on the primal level, which, albeit great, is far from being what seals the deal.

 

[mysecondlife]

Congratulations for winning the Breakup.

Passion, as someone told me, is suffering a great deal to obtain or achieve something and for someone. (Looked it up, derives from greek word for suffer)

If I follow that definition into terms of relationship, I guess it depends on the SO and the type of relationship you're in.

I'd imagine passion is something you develop as your relation gets serious into engagement and as you start a family of your own. I haven't gotten that far so I can't say I've experienced any kind of 'passion'.

 

[HybridChangeling]

Spoiler: Incoming Stupid Joke

I am pretty sure Passion is one of the roads to falling to the dark side, so I wouldn't recommend it.

W T F is passion?

For real though, passion is walking a thin line between obsession and infatuation, whether it is for a hobby, a movie, or even relationships. I tend to avoid it because: A. Other people rarely can tell the difference between the three and usually they think you odd, and B. We are humans and generally we make mistakes, and it can become obsession quickly.

What does it mean in regards to a relationship?

Well I haven't experienced it myself, but it's basically like getting an ice cream cone and you just suddenly get an extra scoop. Not necessary but a fun addition.

Have you ever experienced something you would categorize as passion?

I really like reading? Stuff like that? Nah, probably not.

Is passion necessary for a relationship?

Nah, refer to ice cream cone metaphor as above.

Just wanted to maybe give a non "romantic view only" version of my opinion.

 

[Foolery]

I think a lot of people confuse drama for passion, they aren't the same thing. And personally, I'd take stability over passion in a relationship.

 

[stormtrooper9091]

I'd take stability over passion in a relationship.

a good relationship has both, either without the other is not gonna take you far

 

[BarkBarker]

Passion is the "burning desire" inside a person, when somebody speaks so vastly of a subject with a smile on their face, that is passion, it is how we describe an almost obsessive desire, which it can be if unchecked. Passion must always be there for a relationship no matter if it burns bright or simmers gently for many years, many confuse the lack of the immediate fuming desire to be a lack of passion, not understanding there are people who've been together for 40 years and still truly want the other in all the ways it suggests, just not so furiously.

 

[Silentpony_v1legacy]

Maybe its my naturally abrasive personality, but I always found passion in conflict. And not the 'relationship' ending kind of You slept with my cousin/You've been texting a girl asking for nudes type.

I mean the the super adult and mature arguments needed to keep a relationship fresh, and keep the participants on their toes.

Who would win in a fight, Goku or Sanguinius?

Should we get the novelty painting of the goat with the top hat and mustache, or the bulldog with the monocle?

Is it really fair to criticize a boyfriend for buying 40k minis when the girlfriend buys tabloids?

If a tree falls in a forest, in what season would Wheeler and Linka have hooked up officially in had the show continued?

Is Freddie gay? I mean that ascot is...wow. But Daphne...

These are the necessary arguments needed to keep a relationship going. If you can't disagree with your partner of nerd culture, it just won't work out. I knew it was doomed with my ex when she stopped disagreeing with me over Batman shipping.

Its a quirk of mine, and a bit of an insight, but when I disagree with someone its because I respect their opinion enough to merit response. Its the ones I never engage with that I don't think deserve consideration as serious.
Thus my reputation as an argumentative asshole.

 

[Prepper247]

Passion is just nature getting you to have kids. Once you have kids, passion isn't necessary anymore and you switch to a more warm love of companionship.