Pet grief

[Valksy]

For two years now.

I'm coming up to the second anniversary of having had to put my beloved Artemis to sleep and - I'm not doing OK with it. I had no choice really, her organs were shutting down one by one and she was going to suffocate to death as she could barely breathe. She might have lasted another couple of days, at the very most.

And it was two years ago.

And I find my mind right back there again.

And I'm not OK.

And you might be thinking - big deal, it was a cat. But I had her a long time and we spent a lot of time together every day and I'm just feeling her loss very acutely right now.

In fact, just overwhelmingly sad and blue.

 

[Pandalisk]

I had a turtle called John when i was eight, it was a girl but his gender will be whatever the fuck i want it to be.

He died and its been a knife in my heart ever since, worst moments in my childhood i reckon, i refused to believe he was dead for an entire day, my mom was pretty understanding and let me pretend until i was ready to bury the little guy. Im basically over it now though, the years do that, but i still look back at it with sadness

 

[Sp3ratus]

My suggestion would be getting a new cat. I know a new pet will never replace an old one, but if you give the new cat a chance, I'm betting you two will grow close.

I've been through the death of pets as well, the first two cats we had lived from when I was 0 till about 12 or so. I was very fond of them, played and petted them almost every day and yes, I was pretty bummed when they had to be put to sleep. For a while after, our family didn't have any pets and it was really strange, not having any cats running around the house. After a year or so, though, we got these two new cats, which I probably love as much as I loved the two previous cats. I know it's not easy letting go, but finding something/someone else to bond with really makes the transition and acceptance much easier. Believe me, it did for me.

 

[Valksy]

I'm really not in the place or position to get another cat, although I would quite like to hit the rescue places once more.

 

[Erana]

My dog died in '09, and she was very special to me. Her ashes are actually within arm's reach right now, I haven't the heart to put them somewhere yet. I'm upset that she died, yes, but at least for me, she was this perfect gift. No problems in a decade of love. And every memory of her is a good one.

Your cat did what she intended to do, and thoughts of her should bring you joy. Other than less health problems, what could you rightfully have asked of her? Mourning is understandable, but isn't it a bit of a disservice to her to turn her into something that makes you so sad?

 

[Zantos]

My dog Jack died about a month ago. They're a big part of your life and a close friend, nothing wrong with getting sad about that.

 

[Shio]

I'm really not in the place or position to get another cat, although I would quite like to hit the rescue places once more.

My two cats are rescue cats. It's really cool that you can spare something from dying or living on the street so easily and gain a friend and pet in the process.

My dog died in '09, and she was very special to me. Her ashes are actually within arm's reach right now, I haven't the heart to put them somewhere yet. I'm upset that she died, yes, but at least for me, she was this perfect gift. No problems in a decade of love. And every memory of her is a good one.

Your cat did what she intended to do, and thoughts of her should bring you joy. Other than less health problems, what could you rightfully have asked of her? Mourning is understandable, but isn't it a bit of a disservice to her to turn her into something that makes you so sad?

This is the attitude I've always come at death with. They are out of pain and lived a happy life. That's something to celebrate! We miss those we lose, but their memories are never going away and great solace can be taken in their peace.

My dog Jack died about a month ago. They're a big part of your life and a close friend, nothing wrong with getting sad about that.

When my hermit crab died I cried, lol. My guinea pig died too. Ezzie was her name. She was very lethargic and unresponsive to even the most sudden of movements, she stopped eating and moved no more than a centimeter or two in about three days. I knew she was dying. I kept avoiding the thought. Then, after the third day of my little Ezzie barely moving, I did my morning check on her and she was covered in ants. I reached down and touched her, I guess to prove to myself it was true, and also to make sure she wasn't covered in ants and still alive. When it all sunk in that she was gone, I just sat by her side and cried for a while. Then I got up and buried her in a shoebox in the backyard. Saying goodbye wasn't easy and I was home alone that week. Hell, I'm almost crying now while typing this, lol.

But her memories live on and she had a great life -- she was a spoiled thing That's what I take solace in.

 

[OneOfTheMichael's]

I had my family cat die, what was it 2-3 years ago this summer?
It IS hard, its not at all suppose to be easy or smoothly passing but it is something that you can try to ignore or accept it.
It never is easy, my cat was 20-23, AND my dog died just last summer but i choose to accept and get on with my life. They both had to be put down. It get even harder if you get pets to replace them, i got 2 kittens when my dog died and i was just a emotional wreck. now I'm fine but sometimes i still shed a tear when i think about them again.

 

[Ilyak1986]

Cats?

http://www.lovemeow.com

Create a heartwarming story yourself and post piccies up of your new kitty ^_^

Odds are, there's a shelter somewhere near where you live. Go over there, pick up a cute little kitten, and give it love and affection, and it'll make you happy with its fuzziness in turn =)

 

[njrk97]

Getting a new cat may help i lost 3 cats as in they died and it was terrible i get a bit teary thinking about it sometimes but then i got a new cat tuxedo cat called angel and she has helped me to get over she is no replacement to the 3 ive lost but she helped me get over the pain